I am 44, divorced 6 yrs and dating a 36 yr old. I am healthy, happy, and all is well...except....I want sex more than once a week. We don't even have it once every two weeks! He says I want it "too much". I say "It's better than having someone who doesn't want you at all"; like his ex wife. Who is right? I do understand that he is fresh out of a bad marriage (7 months), but am I asking too much of him?
2006-07-24 11:15:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We don't live together and usually only see each other on weekends because we both work and have kids; we've been dating 4 months, and we talk everyday at least twice. He says he likes me alot and I have stayed at his place as much as he has mine, I've kept his child for him while he worked, and I tell him excatly how I feel about life, love, and anything else.
2006-07-24 11:37:33 · update #1
It not just about the sex, he treats me like I'm part of the "catch and release program", he pulls me in and says he wants more out of the relationship, I give in, he pulls away. He does use the sex issue as a reason to stay away. I am so confused. Should I go or stay??????
2006-07-24 11:47:32 · update #2
You are correct in wanting a partner that wants to have sex as frequently as you, and the fact that you want it more than once a week says you are healthy; asking it of him when he is not able to give it is asking too much of him. But don't take it personal because he is not able to give what you want. There are many factors at play that can make him not have the sexual drive that you want to see in him. Because he is fresh out of a bad marriage, it is too soon for him.
Is he really the man for you? Do you really want to go through this rough time with him? Will he still be there for you when he FINALLY gets through this difficult period in his life?
And then think of whether you really want to be in a sexual relationship outside of a permanent commitment. Don't allow yourself or anyone else to get into condemning you for it, just decide if it is really right for you.
Good luck. And just enjoy life knowing that if this guy is not the one for you, there is someone out there who likes to have sex as frequently as you and who thinks you are absolutely fabulous.
2006-07-24 11:32:45 · answer #1 · answered by Goddess T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now you are because he doesn't want it more than once a week or every other week. Stress could be a part in him not wanting sex or he could still be in love with the ex and feels guilty when he has sex with you. You need to find out the real cause because if he is this way now about sex he will not be changing anytime soon..
2006-07-24 18:19:33 · answer #2 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your in your prime, he's not. good for you and too bad for him, slip some viagra in his drink at dinner and then see what happens!! by the way, i'm 43 and still enjoy it several times a week, so good luck! your not abnormal at all!
2006-07-24 18:20:06 · answer #3 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has different levels of desire. Ask him if you can get a guy on the side to take care of you if he cant keep up, that might change his mind.. lol
2006-07-24 18:24:59 · answer #4 · answered by Reverand Ray 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in yr prime girl...he may not be right for you, at this point in yr life.
2006-07-24 18:25:36 · answer #5 · answered by annastasia1955ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are. sex is only good in a marriage
2006-07-24 18:18:10 · answer #6 · answered by kjbart3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave
2006-07-25 04:39:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
from his point of view - yes
2006-07-24 18:19:47 · answer #8 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR RIGHT
2006-07-24 18:24:41 · answer #9 · answered by russellmcmillen1947 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋