How do you get your mother to leave you alone?

Question

I am 30 years old with three kids and a husband and my mother still thinks she can disipline me (including hitting) and control my life. How do you get your mother to leave you alone?

I do not live with my mother but she acts as if I need here because I can not do things on my own. It is not like I have a medical condition or any other reason why I might need her. I am a very strong and intellegent person and have been doing things on my own for years. She also thinks I owe her (like money or time or whatever she needs) because she is my mother and had to take care of me all my life.

Answer 1

Hey Girl. I know how you feel when your moms all up in your business. I'm not as old as you are but i have a son and a boyfriend and we do not have our own privacy and My mom has backed off a little bit because started to not come around as much and now half of the time i'm M.I.A. and i don't give her explanations or anything, You just need to let her know that you are your own person and that you don't need her. But you have to say it straight out and be blunt about it or else she will never know how you feel. Or if you can't do it then have your husband do it for you cause im sure he's sick of it to. Just be strong and keep your head up. Try going away for a while just your kids, you and your husband, and DON"T tell her where ar when. It will let her know that you can do things for yourself and you need your own life.
And I don't know the situation w/ her hitting you but if it is out of control then just call the cops and tell them your story. It might be hard but it is either stand up for your self or let your control you.
I'm sorry this is happening to you but sometimes mothers just don't know how to let go. It will take time but hang in there!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Wow!! Well, can I assume you do not live with her any longer? If that's the case, make sure she doesn't have keys to your house, and tell her she MUST call before coming over (or else you simply don't answer your door).

The next time she lays a finger on you, inform her that she is NOT to touch you, let alone hit you and if she does it again, not only will you sever ALL contact with her, but you will be calling the police - she's committing ASSAULT! Oh, yeah --- and follow through!!

You have to take an affirmative stand and keep your mother from controlling your life. Learn how to say "no," how to hang up the phone (firmly but politely -- "I'm hanging up now, Mother"), and how to walk away from ANY situation that makes you uncomfortable.

Answer 3

Does your mother live with you? If so, very bad decision. What is your husband's stand on this abuse from your mother? Speak to a family therapist, you and your husband and your mother (I doubt she'll be amenable to it, though). Take serious security measures, including getting a restraining order against your mother as a last resort.

Do your children see this abuse happening?

Start taking control of the situation.

Answer 4

Tell her you've been practicing the dark arts, and it she doesn't mind her own business, you'll cast a spell on her. No, seriously lay down the law and make it clear that although she's your mother, you are a grown, mature adult and you will not tolerate her disrespect anymore.

Answer 5

Talk to her let her know that you are your own woman now and she needs to respect that

Answer 6

when your mom talks to u just say u got go!

Answer 7

Hit her back.

Answer 8

Move away