Hey,
Before i start i am very sorry if i have offended you!
but i just have a phobia of one day living in a nusrsing home with my parents or half my current family not being there.
mybe this is just a teen thing as i am one is there any way to stop thinking like this and just be happy to be young and make the most of it?
2006-07-24 10:53:27 · 13 answers · asked by dale o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I totally understand your fears. The most important thing to think about is living for today. Then when you are ready to become a parent, make sure you raise your children to become very successful in life. This way they can build you a mother-in-law house on their property so you will never have to go to a nursing home.
I'm much older than you and I have the same fears. I just try to put them out of my head and realize I will cross that bridge when I come to it.
Best of luck!
2006-07-24 10:59:04 · answer #1 · answered by ididntdoitthedogdid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand, and you shouldn't be worried that you have a phobia, because everyone has one. Mine is death. Sometimes I wonder what happens after I pass; will I go to heaven or hell? And what bugs me the most is that like your phobia, you can't avoid it and it's gonna happen with or without your consent. But, just remember that you can change the outlook of your aging. You don't have to be in a nursing home; instead, you can go bungee jumping with your grandkids! Or, you can travel around the world if you wanted to. Live life on the edge! Just because you're old doesn't mean you have to sit on the couch watching reruns of all my children all day. Stay spry! Remember that you can have "fun at fifty" if you wanted, you just gotta pick how you want it!
2006-07-24 18:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by Brittanie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not really scared i have kids they will probably put me in the home my husband is older that me i see myself as a elderly lonely lady with cats all over like the old people that you see on tv on the sitcom shows i know that this probably doesn't help but i think that you need to live for the day not think about what will happen years down the road live life to the fullest everyday get friends and do cool teen stuff like mall walk talk shop maybe job it will all be cool
2006-07-24 17:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by dolphin girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think you're worrying about being old and alone in a nursing home? Is there a relative of yours in this situation who you love a lot? Or maybe a dear friend's relative who's old and alone?
We'd like to think that life ought to be fair and that everyone should be with someone, not alone and have their needs met. However, our idea of fairness is more rooted in an idealistic yearning of things to be right all the time. Apparently, life doesn't work that way.
I would suggest you meet this relative, friend or loved one who is alone and old and talk to him/her about your feelings, see what happens. Good luck!
2006-07-24 18:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone fears being alone one day, and being old and unable to care for yourself. You're still very young and need to stop worrying and enjoy life and surround yourself with friends and family. It will all take care of itself in the end. Take each day at a time and have a blast. Don't waste time worrying about things out of your control.
2006-07-24 17:59:00 · answer #5 · answered by Da Wizard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think of the things you can accomplish in your life. Education, travel, relationships, and maybe even curing a disease. I don't understand the part about offending anyone though. I am 46 and age hasn't hurt me yet.
2006-07-24 17:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think of the many years ahead of you that shall be filled with happiness, marriage, family and kids to dedicate your life for, and believe me that you'll get mellow with age and take each phase of life as it comes, naturally. Long Life and Happiness for you dear.
2006-07-24 18:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
live each day as it comes.
i'm by no means "old" but i am almost thirty. i worried about getting older but it turned out not too bad :) i just live out each day as it comes and i'll worry about the rest as it arrives. u r too young to be worrying bout nursing homes! u keep worrying like that u mite not make it that far. did u no that stress can make you sick? be young and enjoy it *hugs*
2006-07-24 18:02:08 · answer #8 · answered by XxbrooklynnxX 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lokk if your always thinkin about gettin old and your scared,just make shure u get every thing u need in lifeand live a good life cause if u r scared then your getting stressed to and you will worry alot and then you will develope a ulcer in your stomache, and then when u finally do get old its gonna suck
2006-07-24 18:00:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont Panic! Dont think so far ahead! Think that you'll never be alone, you'll grow up to be a father, grandfather. Someone will always be watching over you!
2006-07-24 17:59:34 · answer #10 · answered by been there 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋