My bf says I'm shallow and selfish because I would like to get a part time job at night or babysit and put back a little money each month to save up for a tummy tuck. I'm very thin, but I've had 2 kids and the skin is not taught and its kinda (ok it is gross.) I know that this would really improve my self esteem thus improving my quality of life. Am I selfish and shallow?? Please say I'm not.
2006-07-24 10:52:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
NO WAY! You are NOT shallow or selfish!
I just had a tummy tuck done two weeks ago....I had a twin pregnancy 3 years ago and my stomach was so gross and over-stretched that people were asking me "when I was due." I WAS SO DEPRESSED and ashamed of my body. It affected many parts of my life.
Fortunately, I have a wonderful husband who supported me when I decided to look into getting a tummy tuck and came with me to my consultations. We had said, "if it costs more than $5000, we won't do it." But when the price tag came back at a little under $9000 and our doctor told us we could finance it through Capital One Health Care Finance, he still understood how important it was for me - mentally and physically - and we did it! (See if that financing is available in your state too!)
Your self-esteem is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT. And for some people, "diet and exercise" is NOT enough to remove excess skin and flab caused by your skin losing its elasticity.
GO FOR IT. YOU DESERVE IT.
2006-07-25 02:24:02 · answer #1 · answered by thebee74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not, Selfish is taking his money and putting it away for a tummy tuck at least you are making your own money to do with it as you wish and there is nothing shallow about wanting to improve yourself we are put here to live,love and be happy and if improving your appearance makes you happy than honey I say go for it life is too short for the what ifs
2006-07-24 10:59:10 · answer #2 · answered by toosexy4thisshit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't see anything wrong with it unless you are one of those superskinny women who gripes constantly about how they look. You don't seem to be that way. I think you have a valid reason for wanting one and explained it well. If you think it's gross and you can't fix it with diet and exercise (your tummy/belly fat is 70% diet, 30 exercise), then go right ahead. More power to you. Have no idea why your boyfriend might say that. Is he afraid you'll look too good and want to leave him? Tell him your reasons as you have explained them here and I wish you all the best.
2006-07-24 11:02:09 · answer #3 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha no. Your doing something for yourself that would increase your self esteem. And its not even like your adding something that wasnt already there...like breast implants or anything...your just going back to the way your once were before you had your children. Everybody wants to feel alittle better about themselves right? Theres nothing at all wrong with that. I could see if your kids were in need of something financially and your using extra money for that instead of tending to their needs but thats not the case right?
ok then go for it..good luck :)
2006-07-24 10:59:04 · answer #4 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU JUST SEEM SHALLOW AND INSECURE AND IF YOU ARE DOING THIS TUMMY TUCK FOR OTHERS AND ITS TAKING AWAY FROM THE TIME YOU HAVE FOR YOUR BF THEN YES YOU ARE A BIT SELFISH AS WELL!
JUSTIN
2006-07-24 10:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by Justin D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not shallow or selfish. Sounds like your bf isn't the brightest guy.
2006-07-24 19:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by Dave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you're selfish or shallow. Sometimes we must do things for ourselves. So if it will make you feel better then go for it.
2006-07-24 11:06:38 · answer #7 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's insecure! Your not selfish at all. It's something that you want and are willing to work for it. How would that possibly make you selfish???
You go girl, do what makes you happy!
2006-07-24 11:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by Drea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is going to make you feel better than do, besides you are going to pay for it.
2006-07-24 11:03:56 · answer #9 · answered by Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋