My father says it is.
We have been dating since 2004, and plan to get married Autumn 2007, when I will be 19, and him 20. So it is not like we are rushing it really. How can I convince my father of that? Is it possible?
2006-07-24 10:51:15 · 19 answers · asked by Misha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was 19 and my husband was 20 and we had been seeing each other for 2 years. That was 13 years ago and 3 kids later. You will know if the time is right, each person is individual. Good luck.
2006-07-24 11:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You will change a lot betwen now and your mid twenties - and so will your fiance. Starting out married life young also means you will have more money troubles than if you leave it a bit which makes starting out that much more difficult. Two years is too short a time really know someone IMO - especially if you are not living together.
I got married at 23 after 4 years of knowing my husband - I now realise I was just too young to marry - I loved him but I wasn't mature enough to know how to make that last. But admitedly my parents were engaged at 17, married at 21 and 36 years later they are still together.
If you feel so sure of your relationship then it will be hard to dissuade you but what is the rush? Wait, build a nest egg so that you can get a nice place together and have the wedding you really want and enjoy each other in the meantime. A wedding is just one step along the way to loving and being committed to someone for life - if you feel that in your heart then the wedding is just 'scene-dressing' and you don't need it.
2006-07-24 11:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I met when we were 16, in October 2003. We got married in March 2005, and are happily married. I think it's up to you. As for convincing your father, I doubt that you are ever going to be able to convince him that it's okay for you to get married. You are his daughter, and no man will ever be good enough for you, no matter how long you've been together. As long as you and your boyfriend get along, and he treats you right, you should let your father know that. Tell him that you guys love each other and that you are going to get married. Tell him you would like his blessing, but that you will get married without it if neccessary. Talk to him in a decent tone, as an adult. Good luck, and I hope your father realizes how lucky his daughter is to find a decent man in this day and age. My family thinks I got married too young, but everytime they see me, they comment about how happy I look, and how marriage is good for/on me. They are now just happy that I found a good man to love and care for me.
Look inside yourself. Are you and him mature enough to support yourselves? Are you 100% sure that this guy is the person that God has intended for you? The guy that you want to spend the rest of your life with? Marriage is a big step. And it doesn't matter how old you are. The divorce rate is the same for young couples as it is for old couples. In the end, it comes down to you and your boyfriend. I wish you all the best. E-mail me if you need anymore advice, if my advice is what you're looking for. I won't sugar coat things, but I've been in your position, and I would love to help in any way possible.
2006-07-24 11:00:12 · answer #3 · answered by sean's_mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably more worried about how young you 2 still are..not the 2 years being too soon cos its not. Probably wants u 2 to have secure jobs..blah blah etc but if you 2 really love each other... whats the rush anyway? Ppl are at the most unstable point in their lives in early-20s, so mayb wait and see how it turns out...
2006-07-24 16:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by hucks_127 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't owe your dad your existence - food on the table yes, a roof over your head yes, security from bad people yes - but not your existence. It is your life - 2 years seems ample time to me - I've been married 8 years ! Go for it ! Best of luck ! If your dad loves you - he'll come round and anyway what does you Mum think - doesn't she have an opinion or isn't she around ?
2006-07-24 11:00:00 · answer #5 · answered by beiterspace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you should wait until your at least 21. It seems so far, and why wait if your gonna be married anyways, right? I said the same thing. I am happy now that I waited. You just never know. And 19 is still very young. Just wait and see how things turn out.
2006-07-24 11:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by Susa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's different for everyone! My friend met her boyfriend (now husband) and they were engaged after 3 months although they didn't publicly announce it until they'd been together for 5 months - they've so far been blissfully married for 3 years and expect a baby in 7 weeks...... Happiness is the main thing and if you really think this guy is the one for you, go for it!
2006-07-24 10:58:55 · answer #7 · answered by Blah blah blah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 years is fine if you're a responsible, mature, hard working adult. at 19 and 20 YOU'RE NOT So your dad is right! If you were 26 then 2 years is enough. You'll be divorce in 2 years if you get married now
2006-07-24 10:56:56 · answer #8 · answered by ani2525 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a case of two years being too soon, as of you both being very young. I would listen to Dad if I were you, you've got your whole lives ahead of you, just enjoy being young and going out, having a laugh, etc.
2006-07-24 11:02:15 · answer #9 · answered by Jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't a time limit on when you know you are in love and want to spend your life together. Your true love will be enough to show your dad. Sit down with him and tell him calmly how you feel and have your b/f there also.
2006-07-24 11:04:18 · answer #10 · answered by nativeamericantay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋