Should I tell my husband that another man's been hitting on me?

Question

I wasn't going to but lately he hasn't been paying too much attention to me. I feel like telling him just to spite him!

Answer 1

If you are doing this to provoke him,I am sure it will work.You will probably get more than you bargained for.Such as him following you,checking emails,cell phone bills,I would think this through before you open a big can or worms.

Answer 2

Don't ever do something to spite your husband. If you want to tell him go ahead but tell him about how you feel. Doing stupid things for the right reasons never work out, just like good intentions, they always come back and bite you in the azz. Who knows what kind of problems you will stir up trying to get attention from your husband this way. You want attention, ask for it.

Answer 3

It always amuses me how guys are like buzzards and can sense when a woman is not happy in her marriage..and here they come flyin' in on the scene. LOL. Use this guy hitting on you as a prelude to a conversation with your husband about needing to spend quality time together. I would ask your husband if men can "sense" when a woman is lonely. He'll say "yes", and then you say, "well then I guess that explains why this guy has been hitting on me"...Tell him it made you think about how much you love & want to spend time with HIM (your husband) and no one else. Good luck!

Answer 4

all you will do is make him jealouse.. although that may be what you want, is it really how you want to achieve attention from him (underhanded)? and never know if the attention is for real or a nervouse twich. best bet is just talking with him tell him your feeling deprived. its always best policy in a marriage to be above board and straight up. telling him somone is flirting will only cuase more of a problem unless the guy flirting is trying to get with you and your nervouse. other wises its harmless. love your husband more then playing the game. good luck

Answer 5

Well if you know your husband is violently jealous...um...no.

In a perfect world, you would stop encouraging this guy with a serious demand to not hit on you. Tell him you are NOT interested. If you work with him...insinuate you will tell the boss. If he's a friend - stop hanging out with him. If he is the boss, tell HR.

Your husband knowing is not the problem....you letting this continue to happen is.

Answer 6

Tell him, as if you're upset about it. Then ask him what he's going to do about it. Look to him as your "defender". You have no idea how many primal emotions that will arouse in him... you may unleash the whirlwind. If you do, enjoy the passion. If not, he wasn't worth the effort of spite anyway.

Answer 7

I would tell my husband. I would also avoid seeing guy who hits on you. If the guy is from work, I would confront him and tell him that you're not interested and he's making you feel really uncomfortable. If he doesn't stop immediately, I would record all the incidences, and tell your manager and file a case with HR to fire him for harrassment.

Answer 8

Don't tell your husband for the wrong reason - like to make him jealous - that's for kids - find another way to make him interested in you

Answer 9

i wouldn't tell him a thing, he will show jealousy and not to mention insecurity on his side. I am married and lots of men hit on me and guess what? I'm enjoying it cuz I'm not getting it from hubby

Answer 10

some times men take us for granted and
we need to feel good so we'll get attention any way
we can .Too bad it always backfires. yes tell him