guys-- are you ever too tired for sex? My husband always is.. is this normal?

Question

He works construction 70 hrs. a week.
I don't mean to be selfish but we have sex like once a month and I always have to start it.
Do you think it is just because he is exhausted?
anyone else going through same thing?

both in are twenties..

Answer 1

Don't mean to scare you, but it sounds like he is getting off some other way. Most guys are up to it anytime, unless he is near his 40's, in which case he may not be up to it physically.

Don't take this wrong, but are you taking care of yourself physically? If you are letting yourself go, not exercising and staying fit, it may be affecting his desire.

Answer 2

Yes, he probably is exhausted and over exerted from the manual labor. I have been married for 13 years and me and my husband are both 33, we also have 4 kids. There are some months that we don't have sex and we still love each other and find each other exciting. I would make sure that if its bothers you, talk to him and find out what is going on and reassure yourself that he still finds you attractive. Maybe you can make a "date" for a certain night of the week and that way you will know that its coming and you can plan it for nights when he isn't too tired. Now another thing that could be happening is the roles are reversed. Most men are the ones to make the first move, but maybe he has gotten used to you being the assertive one. Just talk to him and see what is going on. If you don't ask, you won't know and neither will he. Maybe he thinks things are fine.

Answer 3

Potential reasons;
1. Uh, yeah...70 hour work weeks in construction? Yes, anyone would be tired
2. He's getting "it" from somewhere else
3. He has a "hypo-thyroid", which can cause exhaustion (doctor can check it out with a blood test)

There needs to be a change in schedule so he can get more rest and you guys can spend more time together. Either he needs to get to bed earlier, or he needs to cut down on # of hours he's working. Something's gotta give or there will be major issues in the marriage. Good luck!

Answer 4

All you women just put the brakes on. Yes, it's possible for a man to be too tired for sex, even in his twenties. If he works seventy hours a week he really needs to back off, that's way too much. You need to set him straight on his priorities. First you, then the job, that's how it should go. That includes your need for physical intimacy. It's his job to provide it. But yes, a guy can be too tired for sex, especially when they are married. A single guy doesn't know when he might get it next so he never turns it down but a married guy knows another opportunity is just around the corner so he is more likely to turn down sex if he's not 100% good to go.

Answer 5

I think that if he is working 70 hrs. a week, no matter what age he is, he just TIRED. I do not think it is anything but exhaustion, especially as hot as it's been this summer.So give the poor guy a break, and be supportive, construction is seasonal, maybe your sex life pick up!!

Answer 6

all guys are up for sex, no matter how tired we get, we are always up for some sex, like last night, i was up till 6 in the morning and then got 1 hour of sleep and then had to go to work, and tonight maybe i'll do the same, and i put in about 60-70 hours a week.

the thing is that maybe he is not that interested in you, maybe he is not atracted to you, maybe he has some on the side, or maybe he has a medical condition

Answer 7

Has it changed suddenly? If he's always been this way, perhaps he just has a low libido, and working 70 hours a week *really* doesn't help. We're soon-to-be newlyweds, but we only do it once a month, and it's never been different between the two of us. We do a lot of other things together, tho.

Answer 8

Might be cause of the work, but it also might be that he's getting bored with the same routine with sex all the time. I think u guys should go on a vacation somewhere, relive ur honeymoon all over again, and make it a better one.

Answer 9

Guys are NEVER too tired for sex! Are you sure he's working all 70 hours at his construction site? It sounds like he may be subcontracting another relationship. But, please, prove me wrong. Quietly check out his work day and if he is slaving away at work, please accept my apologies. Then tell him to cut down on work because it is affecting your marriage. But if he isn't, start the divorce proceedings. There are other men out there who will be very into you and not want to be away from you unless absolutely necessary. Good luck!

Answer 10

That's not normal for ANY man!! He may be exhausted, but never too exhausted for sex!! Believe me, I was married to a construction worker and I'm now with another one. Spice it up girl, something is wrong!!