Would you consider this physical abuse?

Question

My husband grabbed me by the jaw and I could not move while he was yelling in my face. He has never hit me but I´m afraid now that he will because to me grabbing someone the way he grabbed me is violent behavior.

For those of you who think I must have done something really bad to make him do this, all I said was "What do you care?!" when he asked me how many flings I had had BEFORE I met him!!!

Answer 1

It's not a matter of whether or not we would "consider" it abuse. By any definition of the word, including legal, it is. The legal term for it is battery "a rude, harmful or offensive touching of another". It is both a crime and a tort (civil wrong). Plain and simple, no questions asked, YOU ARE A BATTERED WIFE. Period. End of discussion.
He used force to intimidate, control, threaten, belittle and dominate you. Do you realize just how utterly misguided your question is? Abusive people twist the minds of their victims. For you to even wonder... to even question... shows just how far along he is in the "game".
Understand the way a man should relate to a woman. The way a relationship should be. A man's strength should always be used to defend the woman he's with, never threaten her. EVER.

I'm a big, strong guy. I did my tour. I've been trained to kill, and I have. More than once. My wife is disabled and in a wheelchair. Do you think she has ever felt anything but safe in my arms? Never.

There's a difference between a man and a prick. If you learn that, it will serve you well.

Answer 2

That's a fine line between physical abuse and restraint. Yes, restraint. I think he was pretty upset due to his actions of grabbing you. What I don't know is the rest of the story. What made him grab you? Did he think he needed to get your attention? I realize that it is a scary situation and one that warrants further examination but, would you consider it physical abuse if you grabbed your child by the mouth to get his attention? The reason I think it could be restraint is because he drew the line there. He didn't hit you. He didn't choke you. The good news for you is that he didn't go past that line. If, however, you are frightened by his behavior you have one choice. You need to calmly let him know that if he ever does that again, he will be out the door and you will call the police. You shouldn't have to live in fear. Prior to leaving, if it goes to that, you need to make sure your ducks are in a row. Start moving money to a private bank account now. Start learning where your battered women's shelters are. Don't go to a relatives house. They don't need to be exposed to this. Also, contact a police officer, to get information on how to file a restraining order. Get everything ready, just in case. But most of all, pray that it doesn't go this far again. Good luck

Answer 3

Yes I would say that is physical abuse. He does not need to be grabbing you by the jaw to yell at you. That is mean!! If he needs to yell he can, but what he did was wrong. Sorry to hear that! He might take it to the next level of something worse if you don't do something about it now.

Answer 4

Yes in my opinion.. grabbing someone in the moment of anger is considered physical abuse. Yelling in someones face is physical abuse. In my opinion there are two kinds of abuse.. the emotional abuse as well as physical abuse. If it were me.. and if I was afraid.. I would get out, quickly. Nobody should have to put up with that. Good Luck

Answer 5

I don't like the way this sounds at all. How did he treat you after the argument was over and the two of you had settled down? Did you confront him about his actions? How is he treating you now? I would hot-foot it to my pastor and discuss this with him and then I would follow his advice. If you don't have a pastor to go to tell your husband that if he ever touches you in that manner you are gone. And then do it. I only hope you don't have children because boys can pick up this behaviour and girls can grow up expecting it. Good luck.

Answer 6

i would definetly consider that violent behavior. Anytime someone grabs you forcefully is a form of abuse.
There is never a good reason for something like that to happen.

Answer 7

Anytime a man or woman forcefully puts there hands on you, whether it be grabbing, pushing, slapping, hitting is considered as physical abuse. Believe me It will just get worse.

Answer 8

Any action that cause other person harm, injury, death, or discomfort is consider physical abuse, the action may or may not be continuous.

I would sue and seek help from a lawyer and judge and see if I can put an restraining order.

Definitely called the police.

Answer 9

Any unwanted contact to you physically or verbally is abuse. This was a violent act and should be reported to the authorities.

Answer 10

It is certainly inappropriate touching verging on phyiscal abuse. It is verbal abuse! He needs to be more loving; You need to be more submissive to him. Don't get in his face. Keep your space and his space as a buffer when he is angry. Remember a soft word or soft voice turns away wrath.