the meanest most hurtful things, do they really want to hurt you that much? the one they supposedly love? my fiance says hateful things to me that hurt me so bad i feel so empty inside.
2006-07-24 10:21:39 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1. He is just an insecure fool, and is trying to create this distance so that it doesn't hurt him much even if you reject him.
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2. He is just testing your will-power and check how much you trust him, or how long can you go with him even if he treats you badly (I can't believe I am saying this!!!)
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3. He really doesn't like you, he hates you to the core, he will hurt you if you get married.
Ask him to take a walk. He doesn't deserve your love!
And the Question should be "Why does my fiance say" ..because we men are not like that ..atleast most of us are not like this unless we have bad experiences!!
2006-07-24 10:24:19 · answer #1 · answered by sans 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look I am not trying to tell you that what he does is okay, but you have to look at how he was raised as well as his personality in general. My husband for instance is a Virgo and he is such a perfectionist that no matter what I do it is stupid and he pretty much tells me so everyday. I got to the point that I believed him and my self esteem whet way down. Now, you would think that my husband is a bad person right? No not at all, he would do anything for me and is actually moving us right now to another state so I can be closer to my family even though he really doesn't want to go. So, you ask yourself, why stick around? Well, I am still asking myself that question, and the answer now (not to say it will be the same in a few months), is that he does really love me and him being so critical is just part of his personality. He has attempted and succeeded in getting better about how he talks to me but I don't think it will ever stop. So, my advice to you is to weigh out this relationship. Is the good better than the bad or are you always being talked down to. If so, then get out and get out now. Another question is do you think it will ever go physical? If you answer yes than you know what you need to do and I should not have to tell you.
Don NOT let anyone decide what you are worth or make you feel anyway about yourself. It should all come from within.
2006-07-24 17:41:10 · answer #2 · answered by rayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life too short lady to put up with that stuff. I know we all hurt each other from time to time.. I guess we hurt the ones we love the most sometimes.. however.. you shouldnt have to go thru this. Nobody should. Since I dont know if this is a daily, weekly or whats the frequency is.. I would say .. if its daily or weekly.. then by all means.. get rid of him and find you someone who loves you, cares for you and your feelings. If this is just once in a while thing.. then I would suggest talking to him and telling him how it all makes you feel. If he has any concern for you at all. he will at least try to quit making you feel as you do. The hurtful things deadens our feelings for the other person if done on a frequent basis. It hurts our own self esteem and there is no use in putting up with something we dont HAVE to. Good Luck!!
2006-07-24 17:28:24 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one they could be an assshole, another maybe they are trying to break up but do not know how, but to get you to make the move, or maybe the are trying to be controlling. You need to find someone better, because you don't want to get married to a person where the chemistry is no longer there. That creates problems in the future if you are still together. In a relationship when it gets to that, there is no longer a reason to continue with a relationship like that, eventually it will get to beatings, and you don't deserve that kind of abuse. Dump him even if you still love him, because there is still a lot of good guys out there who will take care of you and not put you thru that kind of abuse.
2006-07-24 17:29:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is being mean to you now it is only going to get worse. If he truly loves you then he would not say things that make you feel bad about yourself. He should be telling you how perfect and beautiful you are. I'm sure that you deserve much better than this guy. I know it is going to be hard but in my opinion you should talk to him about it and if that does not help then leave him and find a man that will take care of you and not demean you all the time.
2006-07-24 17:26:46 · answer #5 · answered by Chris D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIANCE???? Girl, you need to move on and find a real man who doesnt try to make himself feel better by hurting the ones he supposedly loves.
Find some self esteem and confidence from within and let go of this loser!!!
L-O-S-E-R!!!
2006-07-24 17:33:10 · answer #6 · answered by fourcolor4u2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do girls stick around when the loser guys they hook up with treat them like crap?
Stop blaming him, and blame yourself for rolling over like a kicked puppy. You're the one letting him treat you like that. Sheesh...whatever happened to strong women?
I guess you are so desperate for a man, you'll put up with it, hey? I guess getting married and having friends whose opinions you desperately need approval from mean more to you than a life of misery.
From this moment on, all insults are your fault....not his. You know what he is like...YOU are making the decision to let this go. It only gets worse.
PS - This is a big red flag. Domestic abuse starts with the emotional beatings.
2006-07-24 17:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't intentionally hurt the ones you love.
2006-07-24 17:24:32 · answer #8 · answered by Sheriff Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because men these days dont know how to treat a women.
2006-07-24 17:24:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not normal sweetie! My husband has never said anything really mean to me. I think it's time to try something new
2006-07-24 17:49:20 · answer #10 · answered by ani2525 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋