so i guess,if you checked out question,remember me..you'll know this is the sequel..my fiance came face to face with his ever liar pal..he insisted that we had an affair..i kept myself calm and cool for there is no reason for me not to..im innocent.i didn't had any affair with him.just only to my first and supposed to be last man.but i guess my man was confused and everything so he decided to call off the wedding.he's still hanging out with his pal.can't believe this happened that my man for 9 years now just left me like this and just because of a lie,we parted.i know he still loves me..but he ended everything.now im shattered like..i don't know where to start.where and how to pick myself..this really is killing me..how could he do this to me.i've given my everything to him.im 27 now.almost gettin married and because of a lie,its all gone.he's gone.i still love him..im lost and confused..i can't think properly..
2006-07-24 10:15:42 · 8 answers · asked by peek-a-boo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
*Hugs* Lose this guy!!!!
If he can't trust you, then you need to move on. Sounds like he is immature and NOT a man to say the least. Like alot of guys (some, not all) they are coward little boys at heart who would rather mess things up than confront the issues at hand.
I know it hurts, but find something else to do to divert your attention...get back in touch with family and friends...join a volunteer group or spend some time with kids...they will make you laugh and remind you of what it's like to not have the drama. Whatever you do, don't sit around the house and mope....it's not good for the soul.
2006-07-24 10:23:13 · answer #1 · answered by fourcolor4u2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better now than later. You are still very young and able to move beyond this.
If he doesn;t trust your word over his friend, then that is no way of starting a marraige. Trust and communication is everything on a relationship and if your don't have these building blocks you have nothing.
I'm sorry that this happend to you. I know that you are now confused and don't understand but this could be a blessing in disguise. Don't see this as the end of the owrld, but rather thebegiining of the rest of your life. You deserved a person that trust you blindly.
Good luck
2006-07-24 17:21:14 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance is nervous about the wedding, and paranoid about whether he's making the "right" decision. The evil friend is playing into that out of jealousy. He doesn't want to "lose" his buddy. I would recommend that you write your fiance a letter, pouring your heart out, and offer to take a lie detector test. If that does not get him to reconsider, then he just was not the man you are supposed to marry. You are only 27...trust me, you have PLENTY of time to find a good man with a backbone who will treat you right!
2006-07-24 17:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by julesl68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit back and realize what you really lost, and what you didn't. You THOUGHT you had a stable, loving, lasting relationship. But it couldn't withstand one little lie? He didn't have enough self esteem to recognize you could love him this much? He didn't have enough trust to believe you over the lie? Hmmm....
What you are grieving over is something you never really had in the first place. You didn't lose much... just your false beliefs. Better to learn the truth now than after marriage, kids, etc. and find the first lie drives him away.
2006-07-24 17:20:48 · answer #4 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing i can say to you to ease your pain right now. just know that i've been there, done that, and thank god, i'm still alive. if for some insane reason your ex never comes to his senses i think it would be wise to join a support group with other people going thru the same situations. you need family and friends that love you right now more than ever. i suggest you make plans as offten as you can with them to keep your mind busy. and whatever you do DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF. you've already apologized. the forgiveness ball is in his court now. so if he can't move on with you then the problem lies with him, not you. be the better person and try to walk away without blame. i wish you luck and love in sisterhood.
2006-07-24 17:26:19 · answer #5 · answered by melbel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it was a setup to get outta the Marriage plans thingy....wake up and move on....27 is young...I am on the downhill slide to 70 and sure wish i was a young thing like you with all that life ahead of me.....let the Jerk go!
2006-07-24 17:19:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What have you lost? No man who takes his pal word should have a woman. I am one that if the woman I am with says something I believe her until proven wrong. So Baby you only lost a loser big time. Be happy it was now and not later. He is a big time jerk for what he did. Move forward and don't worry about such a wimp. Find yourself a real man like ME
2006-07-24 17:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by Rickstar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have just been kicked to the curb, girlfriend. But it all boils down to who your man trust the most. His friend or you? If his friend has always been loyal, he would have no reason to doubt him. And if you have a history of sleeping around, I wouldn't blame him. But one has to wonder why your ex-man aint mad at his friend for sleeping with his fiance? Maybe you need to do a little investigating of your own, sweetie.
2006-07-24 17:22:58 · answer #8 · answered by danielle26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋