Im feeling kinda pressured to have sex and....?

Question

Im feeling kinda pressured to have sex with my boyfriend, im 14 and hes 16 but im still a virgin and i kinda wanna but im scared, i would use a condom of coarse but will it hurt my best friend lost hers 3 months ago and she said it felt good but im not sure, someone please help me

Answer 1

dont do it you shouldnt be thinking of that. if and once you do you will feel empty because that what men do leave you feeling empty after hes gotten what he wants im 17 and a mother so i should know. i dont regret it but i dont want you to ... your too young..... leave his *** if he keeps pressuring you

Answer 2

You are too young to have sex and way too young to actually enjoy it. It is much better having sex when it is with the one you love. If I could take it back and not have sex until I found my husband, I would.

Don't make the same mistake your friend made. You can never take it back. It doesn't matter if you use a condom , you can still get pregnant.

Seriously....just wait. Don't do it....be your own person....don't do it because everyone else seems to be. A lot of your friends will just talk too without actually having sex. They don't want friends to think they are not cool. When in fact, they aren't cool because they are followers and not leaders.

And when one of your friends ends up with a sexually transmitted decease or worse, pregnant, you can exhale and thank God you didn't do!

Believe me....there are a lot of people that wished they could take their 1st time back and wait until they found the one they wanted to be with. I could bet your parents went through the same thing.

Answer 3

I think you should at least wait until your reason to have sex is better than "i kinda wanna". Most grown women will tell you it would be a mistake to lose your virginity now. As a man I can tell you that your 16 year old boyfriend is only interested in sex. If he loves you he will respect your decision to wait. By giving in to his pressure you lose something that you can never get back and you open yourself up to risk of pregnancy or disease. Read the condom box, they are not 100% effective. Abstinence is 100% effective. Just think of the awesome gift you would be able to give your husband on your wedding night if you could say to him that you waited. Of course, I would give the same advice to guys. Wait for your true love on your wedding night.

Answer 4

Do you have any really close guy friends that you can talk to.? Because I want you to ask them this question? What are guys really looking for right now? Of course you love your boyfriend and you want to make him happy....but you hope that you'll stay together forever, etc etc. ALthough this happens sometimes, its usually not the case. Most guys are usually after one thing. If he loves you, he'll wait. Find out how long he stayed with his last girlfriend after they had sex? Your virginity is something you only have once and along with losing it comes alot of worries....std's, aids, pregnancy. Condoms aren't 100% so if you do decide to become sexually active, make him get tested for STD's and AIDs and have him show you the results. If he won't do it hes not responsible enough to have sex. Next talk to a doctor about going on birth control. I reccomend Ortho Tricyclen Lo- bc it has the least amount of side effects. If your worried about talking to your parents- go to the health department. Either way, Iwouldn't reccomend it untiol you are ready and if you have to take apoll on the internet....you're not

Answer 5

Please don't have sex with this young man... especially if your only reason is becuase he is pressuring you into it. Sex is a gift from God that was and still is ment to be shared between a married man and woman. All too often in today's world do girls just like yourself end up pregnant and confussed becuase of sex with a boyfriend. You need to remember a few things about your relationship with your boyfriend. 1. He is 2 years older then you, and becuase of that he is ready for things you many not be. (although I don't think that sex is one of them) 2. Your boyfriend, being a male and a teen on top of it all, is very easily aroused and becuase of that he may not think about the outcome of having sex right now. 3. Sex is more then just sharring your body with another person... its sharring your soul with them as well. 4. There is always the possability that you and your boyfriend will one day break up... because of this, it is not a great idea to have sex with someone your not 100% sure will be sticking around to take care of you in the event of a pregnancy or worse. 5. If your boyfriend were to leave you and you did have sex with him your grief from the break up would only be worse. 6. Generally speaking, when boyfriends get their girlfriends pregnant, they dont always stick around to help, and then the girlfriend is stuck with the baby and a broken heart. 7. If you were to have sex with him and you were to use a condom... you still have a chance of picking up a STD or becoming pregnant. Think about this... you could very well be risking your health, happyness, and future on one night of fun. Is it worth it? Think about it, pray about it. Good luck with your decision making and God bless.

Answer 6

Don't do it! you are not ready anytime you have to question something. Just because your friend did it and said it felt good doesn't mean you should too. You are very young, and things could go wrong using protection. If you feel too pressured maybe you should re-consider being with that guy. Especially if he's not and he wants to take something precious from you. relationships aren't built on sex.

Answer 7

don't give in to pressure. personally i think u should wait until u r married. but if u feel like u wana, get on birth control and be a responsible ADULT-since that's what adults do. once u give it away-u can't have it back, and u would wish u could share that special moment with ur husband. im getting married to my hubby that i lost it to. only b/c we r in love and we are both adults. give it some time. having sex can complicate ur life & ur still a kid. enjoy being a kid!!

Answer 8

Don't let him pressure you, only you will know when the right time is to lose your virginity. It will hurt the first time. If he really loves you he will wait until you are ready & if he keeps pressuring you then maybe he's not the right guy.

Answer 9

You say you are 14...just a kid. Are you a grown woman? No because you are just 14. Wait till you out of high school, in college, out of your parents house and married then have sex.

Whatever you do, do not have sex with anyone until you are an adult. Right now you are just a kid.

Answer 10

if u think ur ready but thats ur choice and yes ur first time hurts but it makes u want to do it more i lost my virginity at 14 and now im 16 and i have a 7th month old baby i wish i would of waited

Answer 11

I say do what you want and don't feel pressured but remember if you do, he could get in trouble because he is 16 and you are 14 so you are underage in most states.