2006-07-24 09:47:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
End it.
2006-07-24 10:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by Gasman 4 · 5⤊ 3⤋
You need to take a long look at why you are getting married in the first place. Have you ever been "in love" with your fiancee? I was in love with the thought of getting married, not the woman that I said I do to! Do not get married if you are not in love, but don't end the relationship altogether. Postpone the wedding in order to try and understand what or who it is that you are looking for. If you were in love with him at one time, think back to the qualities he had/has that attracted you to him in the first place. If you never have been in love with him, it may be time for you to move on.
2006-07-24 17:00:46 · answer #2 · answered by Dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being "in love" is a feeling. It comes and goes.
Loving is often a choice, but it's a much better foundation than the fleeting emotion.
Sounds like you're just expressing dissatisfaction about the romance you share. Life has it's ups and downs. If you're not ready for that, perhaps you shouldn't be engaged to anyone in the first place. Marriage isn't exactly heaven. It's not a romance novel, either.
2006-07-24 16:55:50 · answer #3 · answered by Netchelandorious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont get married if you're not 100% sure that you love him and you want to spend every day of your life with him. I recently got married, and I'm miserable. I think I made a mistake. So just go with your heart, it will hurt to call off the wedding but it will hurt more to get a divorce. In my situation I was 100% sure but I settled and compromised some things that were very important to me.
2006-07-24 18:12:27 · answer #4 · answered by Courtney T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously an idiot. Stop wasting the poor guy's time and money, and stop breaking his heart. Grow up. Maybe, if you really really try to learn, you will be wiser when you get older.
Maybe you will get luckly and meet somebody even better, with more money that can do more for you.
Maybe you will become old and ugly, never having learned what love is.
The choice is up to you.
2006-07-24 16:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by tspbrady 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whatever you do, don't settle and marry him! You will ruin your life. I've my women talk about how they settle for the partner they have now and their lives were miserable. You guys should remain friends, but do not continue a romantic relationship with this person. You will regret it later if you marry him. (and so might your children!)
2006-07-24 16:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by i_luv_the_irish23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep if u dont love her get out now, if u dont ur just going to end up in divorce anyways so save everyone the grief and just end it now..
2006-07-24 16:54:06 · answer #7 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the time to think about it when he ask you just say that i'm not ending , but i do want the time to take it slow and think about it.
2006-07-24 16:51:24 · answer #8 · answered by FlAwL3ss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut, girl!
2006-07-24 16:52:33 · answer #9 · answered by lazytracy2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋