My father gifted me with his wedding band from marriage to my mother in hopes that my fiance will wear it as a token of my father's blessings for our marriage. My parents separated after 26 years recently and while I don't want to use his wedding band as my fiance's wedding band, I thought perhaps I could have it cut down and engraved and have my fiance wear it on his right ring finger. Any suggestions?
2006-07-24 09:43:12 · 13 answers · asked by Kitten 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ohmigosh!! That is so sweet. First of all, thank God for giving you such a nice and understanding father who is supporting you. Second, I personally would resize the ring and wear it on my right hand. The ring came from YOUR side of the family, and I think you should keep it. It would still be a blessing from him. However, if you want him to wear it, I think that you should ask your husband if he would even want to. Most guys don't wear rings other than wedding bands. Tell your father that you appreciate his blessing, but that you guys want to pick out your own matching wedding bands. But make sure he knows that you genuinely appreciate the gift, and that he doesn't think you're saying something just to make him happy.
2006-07-24 10:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by sean's_mom 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think ur idea is a good one, as much as i love my parents i wouldnt want to use their wedding ring, because they got a divorce, to me it would be like having a bad omen to start the marriage with.. but i think its sweet of your father to offer it, and u should give it to your husband as a gift from your dad, something to keep in the family.. possibly be passed down to a son of yours some day..
2006-07-24 16:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pfft... Sorry girl, but establish your priorities here. What is more important to you, the symbol of unity, partnership and faithfulness, or the reality of it?
Why are you wasting any emotional energy stressing over a mere symbol when you could be using that same energy building the reality of your relationship?
I have a cheap Bowie knife, probably from a New Mexico tourist trap, handed down from my grandfather to my father to me. It will make it's way to my grandson, or great-grandson should I live that long. It's a symbol of family. Of traditions. Of many enduring things. But it's just a cheap, chipped Bowie knife. It doesn't "mean" anything. The reality of what it represents does.
Forget the frigging ring. Focus on your life.
2006-07-24 17:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How wonderful on so many different levels! Just make sure to let your father knows the ring will not be your husband's wedding ring. I think your idea is wonderful. Look into local jewelers that can make repairs on site, they are actual jewelers and not just sells people. They can help you define your idea or even help you with your design. Good luck!
2006-07-24 22:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by Kati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your dad and your husband about what would be okay with both of them. Explain to your father that you don't want to use it as a wedding band and propose your alternative. Make sure that it's okay with him. Also make sure that your fiance will be interested in wearing it on his right hand. If he isn't, you can talk to your father about you keeping it as something to pass on to your children.
2006-07-24 16:48:30 · answer #5 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you bothered to ask your Fiancee how he feels cause he is going to be your husband and choices really shoud be made together not alone.But at the same time You also need to ask your Dad if he minds if you change the design that may truly offend him and it sounds to me like you wouldn't have any desire to hurt anyone involved. Remember one thing about all of this and it is IF your not Happy no one around you will be happy. Good Luck and Don't let this stress you out, remember you are to be that beautiful bride soon :) And you deserve that Happy day and all the fairy tales that go with it.
2006-07-24 16:55:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anita E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want him to wear it, then get him a different one and put your dads old ring up in a safe place! A ring from a broken marriage is bad luck anyways!
2006-07-25 02:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by brittanyj05cm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hHaving a wedding band from a broken marriage is bad omen. I know that he meant well, but is just not right.
Tell him your father that you appretate his kind offer but you both have already picked matching rings.
Good luck.
2006-07-24 16:47:32 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it on a chain around your neck and tell your dad that you want to keep your parents close to your heart. That you thank him for giving you the chance to use it, and make sure it's okay with him to wear it on a chain.
2006-07-24 17:00:37 · answer #9 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could always melt the ring and create his own design. That way the metal is still being used as a memento but has more of a personal touch to it.
2006-07-24 16:48:40 · answer #10 · answered by ♠♣♥Rogue♣♥♠ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋