What should I do?

Question

I recently found numerous pieces of paper that had numbers on them from girls. These numbers were hidden outside my door on top of the ledge. Now one of them is on a receipt from a gas station my husband and I had went to a couple of days before I found them, and another is a number I know he's dialed be4 and told me that it was a three-way call for his brother. When I confront him about them, he says that they aren't his, I mean I showed him the one with the receipt that was just in the car the night b4 that and he says that the number on that receipt was for something he was supposed to buy, so when I asked him, well, why was it hidden up there with the rest of them, he tells me he doesn't know, he didn't put them up there. And when I call the girl to ask her if she sells what he was supposed to be buying, she doesn't and of course she denies knowing my husband. He just brushed off the whole situation like it's nothing and it's just too much to be a coincidence. What do you think?

Answer 1

I think your husband had better come up with a better answer then I don't know. Sounds to me like he is on the prowl. Keep a good eye on him. I hope it turns out that he is on the up and up but if i was you I wouldn't count on it. If you catch him actually cheating dump him.

Answer 2

I think this is BS. I would be very suspicious if I were in your shoes. It's pointless to tell you to discuss it with him since you have and, in my opinion, he's lying. Maybe you can ask him if he still wants to be in the relationship? He may still say that it's nothing, but, from experience, I think he's cheating or thinking of cheating.

You should ask yourself what this means for your relationship and if you're willing to move past it or if you're ready to move on. I never want to suggest that people break up especially when I don't know everything that's going on (it could be innocent), but this sounds a little shady.

If you can move past it, then drop it and don't bring it up again. But if this is causing you to distrust his every move, then it might be poisoning the relationship to a point where you really won't have much of a choice but to end it, because it'll just become miserable for you both.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Sounds fishy. When I discovered my now "x" spouse was cheating it was almost under the same circumstances. The first time I discovered his infidelity, he was working as the manager at military service club part time. When the club closed at 11PM, he wasn't getting home until 2 or 2:30am, 3 to 3.5 hours later. His excuse was that he gave a female employee a ride home after work. When I asked him to stop he refused. Then later I discovered that that the ride home for that employee was approx. 15 mins. outside the gate and we lived 15 mins. inside that same gate. So where did all those extra hours go. It ended badly, and we separated. I later forgave him and we resummed our marriage. The next time it happened was right after my retirement from the military. He was still active duty and working on the same Military installation I just retired from. My first supicion was also telephone numbers I found of other women and I also called one of those numbers on the paper I found. She also claimed to not know my husband. I found out later that she later lied to me because she contacted my husband to tell him I called her. In addition to the phone numbers was a credit card receipt for a hotel room costing 55.00. and a check written from account for cash ($50.00) without explanation. But after I investigated I discovered it was to take one of those women out to dinner. When I questioned him about the receipt/bill he claimed first that it did not exist , when it was proved that it did exist his only response was "if I tell you the truth what will it mean for him and I" . We divorced and he remarried shortly after to someone I believe he was having an affair with every few months he claimed he had to go to visit his home/birth state. My "X" was extremely arrigant about his behavior after I discovered his infidelty. That's what ended it for me. Do I wish I had handed it differently ? I have evaluated over and over again after all these years and I still don't know. You have to do what your heart tell you to do. But, give him more than enough chances to correct his wrong. Maybe now that he knows you know about his behavior, he will clean up his act, but always watch that he doesn't get better at hidding the truth.

Answer 4

I think ur a fool if u believe him.. lol.. im sorry u found one of the numbers on your phone.. so ur to believe that someone is plotting against him to put a stash of numbers on your own reciepts to get him in trouble.. lol hardly.. if i were u , id act as if u believed him just untill u can actually get more proof, id be falling his but with a camera.. something he cant deny, id leave the house to go to the store then hit the redial button on the phone when i got back, id be checking his cell phone bills everything, to have the proof to throw in his face that he cant deny.....

Answer 5

look sweetie you already know the truth we women are just wired that way. my question to you is this what are you going to do about it. i'm not saying to leave him or to stay. believe me when i tell you that if your asking what you should do it means that your not ready to DO anything. pain is a motivator and when you've had your fill of it you wont have to ask us what to do YOU will know. remember this one thing always ALWAYS BE TRUE TO YOURSELF. NEVER LOVE SOMEONE MORE THAN YOU DO YOURSELF!

Answer 6

Either he has this weird unexplainable obsession with numbers or else he's cheating.

Answer 7

I think you are being played for the chump, and your husband is fooling around and keeping you as the "jerk in reserve"..... You asked......

Answer 8

It's no coincidence...he's a lying little ingrate!

Answer 9

Hmm...I dunno. But I will say, sometimes my friends and I just flirt with people to see how many numbers we can collect...I usually toss them before I leave the club, but sometimes I forget.

Answer 10

hes soooo lying belive me i have been cheated on and they keep cheating.
devorce him