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Question

My hub and this other common friend who is also married, they kissed a year and half ago at the woman Jenny's place. I found out they had kissed and made out that one time, and then afterwards refrained from doing anything further. But they have expressed interest in liking each other still and when they are in public parties, they still dance closely, hug a lot, stare in each others eyes, and flirt around still. Well the woman is very persistent in writing emails to my hub and my hub may reply like 3 mails in one day and at other times, he will reply 1 email within 5 days of receiving her email. Anyways they mostly write about each others activities and plans and work and how things are going like good friends. I want to ask this: Last Sunday jenny wrote my hub an email in myspace about her week and her work and her studies and asked about my hubby. She mentioned her weekend plan and asked my hub what we were doing. Then on Wednesday she asked my hub in another email if one of their

common friend John met up with my hub or if John and his wife visited us yet. Then she asked about my hub's new job and what he does and if he travels alot. She ended by saying she was really tired and wished to get Starbucks. Anyway well on Thursday my hub replied to both of her emails from sunday and wednesday replying to her with full detail about what he was doing, his job, his position, his travel, his weekend plans, and about her studying and her classes. Replying to both emails means he still cares for her alot right? He could have just replied to the latest one she wrote him on Wednesday about the common friend John and he replied about that to in the 2nd email, oh Yes he replied. Why reply to both of her emails?

Answer 1

why reply is the question indeed. Are you sure that there isn't anything going on between the two of them. Question, do you work and if you do does your husband e-mail you as much as he does her? I personally couldn't have that with my husband. As a matter of fact, my husband and I just got into it about a situation similar to this, and I told him to put the shoe on the other foot, and if he continues, then I'll just fight fire with fire.

Answer 2

Look, guys are guys and ladies are ladies. Your husband sees an lovely lady, it is human nature to stare. If George Clooney had been to stroll beyond your desk at a restaraunt, might you face up to the urge to look? No. The disorders can come up from the best way he is staring. If he is glancing or simply noticing a lovely lady, then there is not any situation. If he is appearing entirely sleezy and nearly falling out of his chair seeking to get a appear at her rear-finish, that's a BIG situation. That's in which the admire you stated is available in. It is human nature to stare; it's not usual for a person to do the above. And, so long as he is not purposely seeking to assess out each and every set of legs that walks by way of, I suppose you might be must reevaluate your feelings. Love is not anything with out believe. Marraiges are not anything with out believe.

Answer 3

Got to agree with most answerers. BUT, you're asking the wrong question. The question, to me, is WHY in h--- are these two emailing each other in such detail AT ALL. What is cheating and not cheating in a marriage is to be negotiated. Many people don't do that or that do it too late. Start by talking with your hub, if you get nowhere, insist on counseling for the two of you, and it that goes nowhere, well, you know the answer. To me, he's cheating in his mind.

Answer 4

Bottom Line Here.... is she has no business asking him questions like that nor does he as a married man need to be talking to her at all. E-mail, phone, chit chat etc... you need to put a stop to all this and don't think you'll be labeled as JEALOUS even if he or she does say something to that effect who cares DAMN RIGHT you as his wife have the right to express concern and as being ONE with your husband how would he like it if you were doing the same thing with another "Male Common Friend?" I'm sure he's got plenty of other people (male) to share his daily activities with. My Space what a joke how old is this GIRL? It isn't her or his space if everyone else can see it!?!?! No WOMAN would be so desperate in another mans plans if she weren't out for another womans goods PLAIN AND SIMPLE...
Nip it & Him in the bud NOW!

Answer 5

My wife would absolutely freak out, I tried to have friends that were women, no way they have to be her friends too. Any interest in another is cheating, Is your husband as equally attentive to you? I see a train wreck about to happen.

Answer 6

Have you talked to him about all of this? Appears to bug you (enough that you look through his emails). Tell him you do not like it and then see what he does. Seems to me that will tell you if you have a problem.

Answer 7

delete the question, cut to the chase. This makes no sense.... write down the facts, ma'am, just the facts. What do you want to know???

Answer 8

git the money in order put some stuff up for your self look for a place prepare for freedom

Answer 9

maybe not to seem rude? When they start to make plans with eachother and not include you, thats cause for concern. When they dance close, its your man, cut in!!!!

Answer 10

Please go ahead and tell him what's on your mind before you explode. As long as you allow these things to happen, he's going to assume you're okay with it.