My boyfriend, Jay, & I have an apartment. Last March, Jay went to the apt's poolhall and befriended the regulars. One of them is a girl, Bea who Jay thought was a lesbian, she's not feminine & hangs out with guys. Bea soon told Jay she loves him. Jay made it clear to Bea that he loves me and they're just friends. Bea is also a little slow & started telling her family & friends that Jay was her boyfriend. She turned my life into a nightmare with phone calls, texting I love you to Jay, sending love cards. She came up to me & told me that she had sex with Jay! which she later told me was a lie but she wished it was true. Jay changed his phone# & stopped going to the poolhall. He told Bea he never wants to see or talk to her again. I found out that she still says that Jay is her boyfriend. He hasn't had any contact with her in 3 months! Now I want to hurt Bea's feelings back. Jay told me to let it go & don't open any floodgates. Our real friends know the truth. We can't move for 5 months.
2006-07-24 09:15:46 · 18 answers · asked by ☆skyblue 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Take the high road and ignore it. If anyone asks you about it, tell them the truth. People will see soon enough that she's making this up, especially if they see you and Jay together around the apartment complex. If you act out against her, you come off as cheap or low class. You may also give her the opportunity for legal action against you.
2006-07-24 09:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, if she is slow, then she is slow... I am sorry to tell you this, but she is living in a fantasy world and this is what some slow people do. If everyone knows that they have never been together, why get upsetted by someone who knows no better?
Coming from someone who worked with mentally handicapped ppl, she is typical of this sort of thing. Delusions are sometimes difficult to decipher for these people. I knew someone who thought that people were out to kill her and she was involved with someone who ran the workshop she worked at. Sounds like maybe she may have a bit of something called schitzo affective disorder, and she can't help that anymore than you can help being female. It is in her make up. Please look this up and see if it sounds familiar... okay?
My advice to you is this, just laugh it off and know that YOU are the one who has him... there now doesn't that feel better? Hope this helps and good luck to you!
2006-07-24 09:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by Cutelilminxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. If this Bea is really slow, then she is not operating with a full deck. I don't think you would be able to look at yourself in the mirror if you did something cruel to someone with diminished mental capacity. I mean, it isn't like you are going to lose your man to her, so what would you realistically get out of doing something like that?
I suspect it isn't the answer you wanted to read, but I suggest that you take the high road and don't dirty your hands dealing with this problem any more. Live your life, with him, and be well.
2006-07-24 09:22:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want revenge? By your own account Bea is "a little slow." It sounds like she has other mental and emotional problems as well. She deserves your pity, not your revenge, and you would be doing her and yourselves a favor if you suggested that she get counseling.
2006-07-24 09:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by ConcernedCitizen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't sound worth the bother. Let it go.
Revenge is a dish best served cold, if you to are together there hasn't been any loss except for the poor manly barfly who hasn't a man of her own.
2006-07-24 09:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everyone knows the truth, then let it be. What will you accomplish? You will find that a little revenge will not seem like enough. It never is. If she has made you angry enough to want revenge, then you are her slave. Let it go.
2006-07-24 09:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although Revenge is SWEET -- be the bigger person and let it go. She's not worth your time and especially if you're at this apt for another 5 mos ---- what if she stalks?!
2006-07-24 09:21:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your man, he's right and he handled it in a very mature way. You are doing exactly what this ding-dong wants; playing right into her hands. Don't let her have the satisfaction of knowing you're upset.
2006-07-24 09:19:54 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really do understand your frustration and desire to get back at her. I guess you even have the right, but what will you really gain? Some may look at you as childish, others may see you as jealous. I assume you will do what your heart tells you. Good luck.
2006-07-24 09:26:40 · answer #9 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go and do ur thang girl!! get some revenge bak! it could b a lil imature but in this case i would do it. dat would get me really mad if dat hapeenned to me and mii man cuz i no he cn get alot of girls and it amkes me mad cuz they get his # from his stupid friends who know's dat hes mine and and yet they still give them his # soo every chance i get to go to his , there's this 1 girl dat did the exact same thing to me sorta except she didnt tell ME exactly that she said that they were going out and they did it together and everything, she told her friends so wen evr she calls i always talk sh$# to her! and tell her to not mess with mii man or me . cuz i gues she is prety well dat wat i heard and dat gets me mad cuz i dont have such self confidence in me im very self consionce so it gets me mad knowing dat she is pretty too though mii man says im wwwaaaaaaaaaaaaaay better then her. so yeah . i went to mii mans 8th gard. in LA and told her the day b4 dat i was gonna kick her a$$ wen i saw her there but she didnt come. make her life like h%ll too girl get some rervenge
2006-07-24 09:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by {{;*$! BIANCA_A.K.A_CARNE !$*;}} 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋