Is this a good idea? He said he has something to tell me too. I wonder what it is? I hope he's not hurt.
2006-07-24 08:45:51 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Listen to what he has to say, unless it is more planning for your marriage. You may find he has had a change of heart too.
Best idea, write a short note of your intentions, and if it is indeed that he wishes to call off the engagement, hand him the note and let him know you had the same thought. Keep the note if his news is not the same as yours.
2006-07-24 08:49:33 · answer #1 · answered by You_got 3 · 9⤊ 1⤋
I think that you need to tell him first. Find a way to communicate with him so that he isn't hurt. If things are moving to fast, tell him and maybe he will take things slower. If you aren't happy, tell him. He needs to know what you are thinking so that he doesn't get hurt. You also need to listen to how he feels about the engagement and you should listen. Take him to a quiet place and just talk.
2006-07-24 08:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by J-Bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, aren't you the thoughtful sweetheart? I hope he tells you that he has a scorching case of herpes and you break out with it tomorrow. I also hope that you go overseas, end up in a war torn land and return home to find out someone has cheated on you and is leaving you...
In other words, maybe wait a week. You HAVE to tell him, does it have to be RIGHT NOW??? No buffer zone, jet lag recovery, etc???
2006-07-24 08:52:15 · answer #3 · answered by absolutedejavu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until he has something to tell you and then if that what you hope to hear him saying it or not let me know. I don't think he getting hurt. and Wait until you hear what he said. something you don't like to hear then call off your engagement smiling. do what you think it right because Marriage is a serious long term relationship and look at me and my wife for 9 years because that what we want and not just what I want and she don't want.
Hope that I explain better.
2006-07-24 10:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl,
wait until you see what he has to say. If it isn't related to your relationship, then give the guy a break, time to chill, before dropping the bomb.
If it is related to your reationship, maybe he willbreak it off first and you will be saved from doing so. Will YOU be hurt?
2006-07-24 08:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd advise you to let him do the talking first. I'd be curious to know what he had to tell...
If you do not want to marry him - of course it is a good idea to call off engagement.
2006-07-24 08:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by Tones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is coming back, I take it you haven't seen him face to face in awhile. I would suggest letting his homecoming sink in for at least a couple of days before really deciding you don't want to marry him. There must have been some reason you said "yes" to begin with.
2006-07-24 08:48:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not he wants to tell you the same thing, you have to be up front and honest. You may expect him to be hurt, or even angry if he is not happy about it.
But you are doing the right thing, and if you waited it would only make the situation worse later.
Good luck!
2006-07-24 08:51:41 · answer #8 · answered by hopethathelps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah, wonderful idea. Why not bring a baseball bat with you, and when he falls to the floor weeping uncontrollably, you can give him a huge whack on the head, and put him out of his misery.
2006-07-24 08:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is not the right time , let him rest a bit from the smell of death in Lebanon.
2006-07-24 08:54:33 · answer #10 · answered by Nilehawk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋