if my boyfriend wants to go hang with his friends should i just let him go or put up a fight to get him to stay my aunt told me that if i hold him back he will leave me is that true he cares alot about me and would do anything for me but im so used to being with him everyday that i never want to let him leave am i wrong for that??????
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2006-07-24 08:36:44 · 17 answers · asked by I luv you James! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no darling you are not wrong for that.. its just that you enjoy spending time with him and hes the greatest... :) ... awesomist guy... you see sometimes we get used to hanging out with them .. so often that when it comes to him hanging out with his friends one day of the week is something like "what?why whould you like to hang out with your friends?what about me?". Yeah we are kind of selfish in that sense. But ill tell you this.. hanging out with a person you really like is great but sometimes you need to have some "space" and that is great for the relationship .. because relationships grow and there has to be passion in them and how can you get that passion in the relationship if you guys are hanging out every day and every time?. YOU certanly will ran out of stuff to do to be together.. ? right? And probably you might get bored of each other pretty soon. That is bad. So I ll tell you this give him "his space" and get "your space " too that way you guys can really appreciate the time you spent together and let it be more exciting .. dunt worry darling.. its ok to be jealous sometimes.. cuz you reallyu want that person for yourself. but theres a saying"if you love someone let him go and if he comes back is because he was all yours and if he doesnt he was never yours". Let him hang out with his friends so that he can appreciate the great girl that he has at his side :) . A girl that gives him not only love but liberty too. Meanwhile you find something to do with your girlfriends:) .
much love and peace out
2006-07-24 08:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Truth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go? It shouldn't even be an issue...Just because he has a girlfriend doesn't mean he shouldn't have a life. If you put up a fuss believe me, he will feel smothered and be 'gone'! You are so used to being with him everyday that you don't ever want him to leave? Yes, you are wrong for that...you need to get some interests and not focus soooo much on your boyfriend...let him breathe!! And, you do some breathing of your own!
2006-07-24 08:45:55 · answer #2 · answered by irishME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend wants to hang with his friends, hang with yours. Pick a night when he can't hang with his and hang with yours. This will help him to understand how you feel about him hanging out with his friends all the time. If you hold him back and he leaves you than it wasn't met to be. Communication will also help with this problem. Tell him how you feel and then if things still aren't what you want, then he isn't what you want. Try.
2006-07-24 08:42:22 · answer #3 · answered by J-Bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like u got some really obsessive issues , but other wise i would say yes let him go , tell him that ,, seeing that he is going out there is no reason for you to sit at home doing nada , so you r going to hang out with yr friends , don't tell him where u r going , say something like" im not sure where we will end up , baby " see what I'm trying to teach u is reverse physiology, that will spark some interest in you ,, also you must give him space tooo ,dont bee selfish
2006-07-24 08:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by miguel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to try to decipher the difference of loving someone and being overly needy and clingy. Men/Boys HATE needy and clingy, and you will end up chasing him away.
My advice to you is to find something that you enjoy doing while he is with his friends. Maybe finds some friends you would like to be with... also, DONT ever be TOO available for any boy/man. Keep them wondering. You should never feel you have to throw yourself at anyone to make them love you or to keep them. He will buck you and make his friends more important than you, and leave you for them... please take this to heart...
Good luck and I hope this helps!
2006-07-24 08:43:16 · answer #5 · answered by Cutelilminxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you aunt is right. if you hold him back from his friends, then your being a stupid brat...cause thats not cool. I feel sorry for you bf cause if your really doing that to him and threating him to leave or something, idk. Girls like you kinda just piss me off cause, you want to defuse us from having fun. Im sorry to be an a$$hole to you but you need to be told to let him go and have fun, if you dont, he is going to leave you, and to make dates where its just YOU and HIM and make that CLEAR. Otherwise it should be free game for him to do whatever he wants as long as he is not cheating on you. Period. take my advise or leave it, but follow one path and you will see yourself single. Hes not married to you, if you try to stop him from seeing his friends, i would put my life on the line by saying, if he is a man, and your stopping him, he will drop you and not look back. total TURN OFF...
2006-07-24 08:53:24 · answer #6 · answered by 96.7 KCAL ROCKS!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wouldn't necessarily break up, but it's natural for him to want to spend time with his friends too, so not being able to do that might upset him. Give him some space, otherwise you'll come across as being overly clingy and insecure.
2006-07-24 08:43:34 · answer #7 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your aunt is right, you can't control your boyfriend, he needs freedom you know. If he wants to hang out with his friends let him.
2006-07-24 08:40:09 · answer #8 · answered by ButterflyAngel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever build your life solely around someone else; it's no good for you or him. Realize that time apart is good - use that time to pick up a hobby or hang out with your own friends and fam.
2006-07-24 08:40:53 · answer #9 · answered by prettypennylane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is nice to have same time alone, even for you to. When you come back together again it will be better because you will miss each other.
Go hang out with your friend when he goes to his friends. Maybe sometimes you guys can hang out together his friend, your friend together. Is nice.
2006-07-24 08:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by Arzuita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋