I found out my husband had an affair, well he has never admitted that there was a sexual relationship at one point he said it hadn't got that far. Since I found out we have had sex everyday up to 3x's a day. He asked why this turn around I explained it scared me how close I was to loosing him. I told him I know sex couldn't keep him here if the affair was serious, or just about sex. Do you think all the sex we are having could scare him off or be just what he was needing, he isn't complaining and I haven't noticed him fooling around or making phone calls. How can I tell if he is being true to the relaionship
2006-07-24 08:36:26 · 10 answers · asked by tryme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't never know for sure. You just have to hope that once a cheater isn't always a cheater. Now if your sexing him and he strays anyway, I suggest you go back to the drawing board and figure out another plan to hold on to not losing your husband.
Whose to say his affair was about sex what if it was a emotional affair. Having sex three times a day doesn't mean you won't lose your husband to a emotional affair.
To use sex as a means to hold on to a relationship doesn't resolve the reason why he strayed in the first place.
If your sure he cheated than at least deal with what his reasons was for straying in the first place was it sex or a emotional affair.
2006-07-24 09:33:54 · answer #1 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is normal for you to want to "claim" your man after an affair but I'm letting you know now that, that will not last long and eventually those feelings of lust will be replaced with anger, hurt, and resentment.
2006-07-24 15:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by On the upside 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some therapy may help you both in repairing your marriage and working on trust issues. If no therapy is wanted, then you can both work on communication and even tell him how you feel.
Life after betrayal can be very hard. Just remember, you are worthy and support is out there for you. :)
2006-07-24 15:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you would even bother after you found out he was cheating on you. If my husband was cheating on me that would be a blessing then I wouldn't have to have sex with him.
2006-07-24 15:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by cutiepie81289 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haveing so much sex is normal, its so you know you are making your mark so to speak.
As for him being true to you.. That one you will have to learn for yourself. And how much you are willing to trust him again.
2006-07-24 15:40:36 · answer #5 · answered by bocababe27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most but not all affairs are about sex
maybe that is what he thought he was missing and did not know it and therefore went looking for what he thought he was missing
2006-07-24 16:11:21 · answer #6 · answered by JULIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, normal reaction to what you have gone through...but it is rarely sex that men stray for...it is ego stroking. If I were you, I would take time every day to tell him he is hot, etc....can't hurt, he won't go looking for it elsewhere.
2006-07-24 15:45:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you werent giving him enough attention and now that you are alot of sex is a good thing.
2006-07-24 15:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by jpcbbc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, thats one way. If you do it 3 x day, will there be anything left for someone else?
2006-07-24 15:41:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If nothing else, you'll make him so weak, he won't have the strength to stray... ;-)
2006-07-24 15:47:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋