I've been with with my boyfriend almost 6 years now and I just found out that i was pregnant.?

Question

I am going to be 22 soon and he is 24 years old. Once i told him i was pregnant and i'm keeping it everything turned on me. He's been acting weird...Selfish and immature mostly. He wants to go out more without me and hints to me that he wants certain things and of course i buy these things for him even when i don't have any money. Now I have my first doctors appointment and he's telling me he can't miss work. Should i be worried for the future?

Answer 1

He feels trapped honey. You have scared the hell out of him. It was ok when he was just getting his "Lovin" and having a good time, now he has to suddenly grow up and act like a real man! This is a very hard step for men. They "THINK" they are men once they become sexually active. But when the Sperm Hits The Egg, they act like it's your fault! Your stealing their youth from them, they just wanted to have fun!
Remind your BF that it takes two to make a baby! Namely in this case you and him! Whether or not the Birth Control was ineffective, the rubber broke or whatever. Now you both have to own up and be responsible for the "GOOD TIMES"!
The 1st thing YOU need to access is whether or not this "Man" is going to do the right thing and either marry you or if not be there for you and the baby for the next 18 or so yrs! If he is not going to marry you or refuses to take care of his responsibilities to the baby, you need to find yourself a good lawyer after the child is born, get the court to sanction a DNA test to make sure of the paternity. Once it is established that this "Man" is the father, then have the court impose child support and also any bills( OB ,Hospital and Pediatrics) you may have acquired during your pregnancy he should pay 1/2.
I hope you don't have to take him down that road, but make sure he understands that you are not stupid and will not accept a Dead Beat Daddy for your childs father.
In the future I would also suggest that you do not have a sexual relationship with any man, that you are not sure of! Accidents DO happen and no matter how hard we try to avoid the inevitable outcome, LIFE will find a way!

Answer 2

He is probably afraid of the things it means to be a "DAD". Stop buying him things. You will need your money for baby. Have an honest talk with him. Ask if he wants to stay. Tell him you would like him to be part of your life, but if he wants to go - you don't understand but won't hold it against him. AND then DON"T HOLD IT AGAINST HIM if he goes. He should still be responsible for the child he created, it took two afterall. Men have a different way of looking at things than women. Maybe some time apart from you, and even after he meets his child, his heart may change. Prepare yourself that you maybe a single mother pretty soon. Please get some counseling help from a Christian Group. They can help you sort out all the emotions that come from loosing a loved one, and becoming a new mom all at the same time.

Answer 3

Tell the man you helped me make this baby so get off your high horse and be there for me and the baby. He has turned into a prick you would think that after being together for 6 years he would appreciate you more then that. STOP spending money on him. You have a baby you are bringing into this world and that is first priority now. With or without him you could raise this child and still be a strong successful woman. If he keeps this immaturity up let him go, he may come crawling back. If not after you have the baby, go after him in court for child support.

Answer 4

Honestly, a little bit. On one hand, he is probably freaking out a little bit. Having a child is a huge thing. I would talk to him about it and ask him to talk to you about his feelings and what he is going to plan on doing in the future. You need to keep an honest and open line of communication throughout the pregnancy and if you are going to be successful parents.

Also, don't let him guilt you into buying thigns for him. Just because he hints, doesn't mean you need to give in to him. You will need that money for baby stuff, trust me.

Also, he should be at the first appointment with you since you are probably a little nervous, right? Take a stand. Tell him he needs to be there.

My advice to you is stand up for yourself and your unborn child. Don't let him walk all over you.

Answer 5

You know the answer to this. The future is bleak. This guy has had his fun and now you are going to have the responsibility and he is not going to be held accountable except in a court of law. Here's another example why you shouldn't have sex before marriage.

Honey, I hate to tell you but you will soon be very alone and without him. It's time to get a support group of family and friends around you because you will need them. The baby will be the greatest joy and job you've ever know, but there will be the pain of the birth father leaving.

I'll pray for you.

Answer 6

Sweetie, yes you need to be worried~ File for child support early~ Now he can't miss any days work~ U both made the kid and he should want to be apart, but I have to tell you something, no kid makes a marriage and no kid makes a relationship~ Kids complicates things especially if you BOTH do not want it~ U feel me. So yes sweetie, please do not stress but I feel a rough road ahead for you. If he continues to tell you No about going to the prenatal appointments then kick the loser to the curb~ Just know he is not worth it. Especially if you dated for 6 years~ As if, what the heck was we dating for, but most guys hit females with that crap~ If you did not want to get me pregnant or to make a baby then he should of worn is RAIN-COAT~ hit me up if you need to talk again

Answer 7

lets just start off by saying that you are young and he is young too so yes he might be a lil mad or maybe confused about the situation but if yall don'y sit down and have a serious talk abou the new incomer yes you will have problems if you continue to let him party all night and allow him to spend your mone when you really don't have it yes you will hav probz in the future but if you and him sit down and have a talk maybe he would feel a lil better bout the situation all it is is that yall are too young (but not really) and he want ot have fun you need to let him know that aint the way to go i hope my advice help because hunn you are in a close bond


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Well if you allow him to do that to you he will think he have control over you and he will probably walk out on you and the baby and if he really care he would have all his attention on you and all his concern to so if you want him to do that dont worry about him buy stuff for you only (dont make it so ovious) start doing that after going out more go to the park or something dont kill the baby make it seem you got someone who is taking better care of you if he dont care you dont care for him because he is stressing you and thats not healthy for you tell him you are going to leave him and file for child support something damn

Answer 8

yes be very worried,that's why mommy said get married before sex.She wasn't trying to spoil the fun.She was trying to save you from being a single mother.
Sounds like he is going to spend all the money that should be going on the baby on himself and you are letting him.
Being you don't have money to buy certain things you definitely don't have the money to raise a baby for the next 18 years plus collage for it.Don't be selfish and considered adoption.

Answer 9

Uh, hello? Wake up. From your description, sounds like you're not faced with any decision. Assuming you wish to keep the child, the father doesn't sound too keen on that. Dump him and concentrate on raising your kid. No employer would keep someone from going to that doctor appointment, so he is lying to you already. Don't make amtters worse by forcing him into something he's too immature to handle. You both screwed up, and that's ok. Just don't keep screwing up.

Answer 10

He's freakin out about the recent development. You've gotta sit him down and have a talk about what he thinks, what you think and what the plan is. Don't let it go undiscussed. The longer you let him get away with this behavior, the worse it will get. Nip it in the bud and find out what his intentions are. Tell him how you feel. This is huge and should be treated as such.