I have notice the my wife is upset more than usuall, she only sees what i didnt do or did bad, she tells me all the wrongs i have but yet she says she loves me we dont see eye to eye on must stuff yet i know we do love one another. what can it be???
2006-07-24 08:05:35 · 9 answers · asked by Zaurel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is your wife a homemaker? B/c my husband says the same about me too. Your wife just wants your help a little more. She wants you to know everything she wants you to do before she tells you, which I know is impossible. When she asks you to do something actually do it, within at least an hour of her askin gor she'll end up getiing pissed off and do it herself. All she wants is to feel like shes not the only one trying. And she does love you, she married you for a reason.
2006-07-24 08:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by lillady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a situation like this (I saw only flaws). I had to change my heart. My husband was willing to sit down and really listen to what I felt and what I thought I needed from him. I had to do some serious time with God and see that I was not doing all I could for him either.
Try complimenting your wife, even when you don't want to. When my husband is unusually crabby, if I say some nice things, ask about his day, show him a little appreciation for the work he does, and the father he is, it doesn't take long for him to shrug off a bad day and be the great guy I know he is.
2006-07-24 08:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife is only noticing all of your flaws, your relationship is on the way out. All you can do is to try and have a conversation with her, allowing her to express her fears/desires/hardships/emotions. It could just be that she is having a tough time with something, and you just haven't noticed it, so she is taking it out on you, or it could be that she wants out of the relationship. What you must do is talk to her, and not argue with her. Keep calm, rational, and level headed, and most of all, caring and sensitive to what she is saying. Respect her opinions, even if they differ from yours, and most of all, be very responsive to what she is saying. Depending on how you handle yourself here could mean the continuation or end of your relationship.
2006-07-24 08:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by pilotmanitalia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could just be a rough spot in your relationship, which in alot of cases it is. If you think so, step ack and take a look at both yours and hers stresses. There may be alot of things causing her to feel underappriciated, cranky, under pressure, or just plain old un loved. Talk to her!!!! FInd out what is stressing her out and there is a really good chance you will begin to understand what has you're wife so whacky! Hope this works!
2006-07-24 08:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not over. Some women/men are like that. It is a personality issue and it's not your fault. Just tell her that what she is doing is not right and that you are not finding flaws in her behavior. Tell her both of you must accept each other for who you are and that neither of you is perfect.
Good luck. I feel for you
2006-07-24 08:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by hotdesersand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the relationship is in trouble. I would guess that she is trying to push you away by pointing out your flaws. It could be such a thing as she loves you but she is no longer happy with you. Sometimes it is easier to stay with someone than be alone. Talk to her and find out exaclty why she is not happy.
2006-07-24 08:08:41 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it is time for some open communication with a counselor to me....she is on a one way track right now and it is not leading to anyplace good. Good luck
2006-07-24 08:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how long you have been married
she might have a friend in her ear telling her all the things her man does for her and it pisses her off
2006-07-24 08:11:26 · answer #8 · answered by bigbbraz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is.
2006-07-24 08:11:18 · answer #9 · answered by bucks110 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋