Would you?

Question

Would you marry someone who already has kids? Why or Why not?

Answer 1

I did. I fell in love with my husband and he had two kids prior to us meeting. Be aware that if you want to marry him, he is a package deal. You cannot get in the way of him and his children. It isn't an easy thing to do, so you have to be sure that this is Mr. Right, and that you will be willing to be there for him when he needs it. I married 24 years ago, and my step children are just like my own. They are fully grown now and have given us beautiful grandchildren.

Answer 2

I would marry someone with kids. If i was in my early 20s I wouldn't because there are still people out there close to my age who don't have children. If I had no choice I would marry someone with children as long as the man/ woman wanted to have more some day. Children are a big responsibility and one you need to be ready for.

Answer 3

I think a man that is a step father chose the wife and not the kids.
He knew that he had to live with the kids but that is not the reason he chose the wife, he didn't chose the kids he chose the wife.
The kids are just the thing that goes alone with the whole package.
No kids then you still have the wife.
They may want to start a bigger family with the wife.
When a step father excepts the kids is when he excepts the women's life and decide to live it with her.
That's probably why a stepfather never really feels like a step father.
There is just no father child bond, but love.
You can love a step father and still not feel that bond, thats just how it is.

Answer 4

If you love that person, then yes. Being a step-parent, 'tho, can be tough. There are things you and the other person need to discuss and work out ahead of time in regard to their kids. Like, what will they call you? How involved will you be/not be in discipline? How much contact with their other biological parent will you need to have? All kinds of considerations should be thought of so that the marriage will have the best chance of success. You could be faced with jealousy from the former spouse and resentment from the kids. I can't even think of all the possibilities!

Answer 5

Im male and yes I would marry a woman with kids as long as the father was completely out of the picture . I dont want to have to compete for the kids affection . I want to be thier dad and if thats selfish so be it!

Answer 6

it depends on the kid i have two and have a male friend who is widowed im married so I help him with his daughter alot she is such a misrable girl even befor her mom died she has ruined every possible relationship he may have had he gets along great with realy nice women then after they meet the daughter and try to be nice to her she blows it for him so it depends if his kids would be mannered and if i loved someone enough to deal with it and hope the kids would come around and give that person a break.but if a man cant accept your kids hes not the one for you.

Answer 7

Yes...If I genuinely loved the person and I believed that they genuinely loved me I would marry them. You cannot hold against a person what has happened in their past. Relationships break up for all kinds of reasons and children are just a gift from God.

Answer 8

Yes. I have a son so I would prefer to marry someone that had a clue about what it is like to be a parent. I am with my son's father though and happy so it is not likely to happen.

Answer 9

Not without spending a ton of time with them and their kids in all types of situations, then having a definite understanding of schooling, discipline, etc.

Answer 10

I would but only if the kids were grown, lived on their own and did not cause any problems.