They don't know we are together again, he was introduced 4 yrs. ago, and they hated him. There were alot of circumstances.....long story.
Anyways, he is a different person now than he was back then, and we adore each other. My parents aren't exactly known for forgetting the past, and i don't know how to tell them about our relationship, or the fact that we are talking about living together in a few months. How should I break it to them?
2006-07-24 07:58:36 · 25 answers · asked by Whitney 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'll be 20 in two weeks...
My parents are rather controlling, and I'm an only child so you can imagine....it sucks because I know I need to live my own life, but I for soem reason need approval from them....I can't stand having tension.
2006-07-24 08:03:45 · update #1
...also I don't live with my parents now and I'm not planning on moving in with him tomorrow....we are talking about it in the next three months or so....I definately want to break them into the idea that I am with him first. I just don't know how to go about telling them.....
2006-07-24 08:10:47 · update #2
Set a time and place to sit down with them and tell them. Make sure its a time and place that you and your parents are comfortable with. Explain to them why you are back with this man and how he has changed for the better. Be rational and understanding if they don't take to it right away. Try not to get defensive, just explain everything calmly so they can see that you really love this man and that he has changed.
2006-07-24 08:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by Meggo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The same way you tell them you are sleeping with him and will probably get pregnant out of wedlock and the same way you will tell them you are pregnant and he's left.
I know that sounds mean, but you need to think about what you are doing and how if affects others. Living with someone does NOT guarantee security or a lifetime of happiness. Statistics are heavily against you. The younger you are, the more likely you are to break up. The sooner you get pregnant, the more likely you are to fail.
Marriage is a stronger basis for a relationship. It's not perfect either but if you are old enough, consider marriage. It is not an easy out and if you both love each other it would bind you together permanently (and that's what you want, isn't it)
2006-07-24 08:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i went through kind of the same thing. i moved out whe i was 17, which now i wish that i would have stayed at home instead of moving in with a "great guy" that ended up being an abuser and a control freak (way more controling than my parents ever were) ... at the same time i learned a lot about living on my own. what i would do is get your own place. that way your parents will not be mad, you can still have your b/f over, and you will be one of the few young woman that is supporting herself. plus if you ever break up with him or vice-versa you will not have your parents pointing at you saying "i told you so!", and feeling like a failer (i have been there) its no fun! Good Luck! :)
2006-07-24 08:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, okay well its not really a simply story is it? I think that if you just blurted out that you're moving out with someone that they didn't even know you were going out with, then there will be 'trouble'. . . Maybe not, if you've accepting parents but if not i feel you should bring it on them slowly maybe 2 to 3 months (to be safe!1!) And anway when you think about it, it's not that long compared to the amount of time you will be spending with your boyfriend. Also your conscience will then be at ease.
2006-07-24 08:06:14 · answer #4 · answered by Tod P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest you are old enough to make your own decisions now and no matter what your parents think or say you have to make yourself happy. If yall are going to move in together there is going to be a time he is going to be there and they are going to find out regaurdless so mine as well let them know. It would make you feel better and clear the air. Good luck and if your parents are going to pay your way there is no way they are going to if you move in with someone they dont approve of.
2006-07-24 08:08:00 · answer #5 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them. They'll have to deal with the consequences. You're on your own now, so it's your decision. It's not like they'll see each other all the time.
Side note: Are you kissing a girl in your picture. I mean, honestly... how are your parents to trust you when you're a lesbian?
2006-07-24 08:03:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest to them and tell them. You might be surprised!! I assume you are legally an adult, and really don't need their permission. If things start going badly when u tell them, remind them you are not asking for permission, you just wanted to be respectful and let them in on your plans..Its your life honey, and if your parents don't like who you are with, thats their problem. They are not the ones dating him. They will eventually get used to the idea, and come around.
2006-07-24 08:04:16 · answer #7 · answered by JCW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to start by letting them know you two are together again. Right now you are being deceitful. Not a good quality, and that's a bad start.
2006-07-24 08:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by Smoothie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are over 18, then you can just tell them. You need to do whatever it is that you think will make you happy. If you are happy, maybe they will be able to accept this person.
2006-07-24 08:02:22 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you so concerned about how they feel now? you obviously havent been concerned about them and telling then what is happening in your life. you owe your parents much more respect than that.
they need to get to know him all over again if you ever want their blessing.
2006-07-24 08:02:06 · answer #10 · answered by Shamus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋