He left..moved in with someone else then 3 months later he came back a completly different person..he is more of a husband than he ever was we have 2 boys together 2 years and 7 months..they need us together should i let this be water under the bridge?
2006-07-24 07:52:08 · 8 answers · asked by terrysgirl0206 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Geez, let me tell you that you are not alone. I went through the same thing with my husband. He left me last November for another woman, moved in with her and about 3 or 4 months later, he came back. You have to consider one thing, do you want to be with him? You say that he is better than ever, he probably realized that the grass was "NOT" greener on the other side of the fence and realized how much he loved you and his family. People do make mistakes!!! The question is now trust. I don't know how long you've been married, but my husband did this to me after 23 years of marriage. My suggestion.... if you want to make this work out, you need to go to marriage counseling, seriously. Because regardless, unless you talk this out with a professional at hand, you will always have doubts about him and he of you, believe it or not. He will always have in the back of his mind that maybe you will try to get even with him one day. I wish you the very best of luck in this matter. If the marriage is worth saving, then save it. But you must be completely honest with eachother. A counselor may help him figure out why he cheated on you. Making it clearer to him and you and hopefully he won't ever put himself in that position again.
God bless your marriage. We both have a long, long road ahead of us.
2006-07-24 07:59:45 · answer #1 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't let it just be "water under the bridge". I'd tell him he is under strict "marrital probation" and watch him like a hawk..every cell call, late night at work, trip to the store,etc. Who says he won't do this again? It obviously didn't work out between him and his love interest, so he's back with you trying even harder to make it work because he had nowhere else to go. He may regret what he did...but is it out of "true regret for his actions" or is it "regret that it didn't work". Yes, your children need both parents, but they'd be affected more if they find out later that their dad is a cheater and you two are only together for the sake of them,not the love that you "share". If there isn't a true love on his part..it will be apparent to your children some day and they will suffer for it. It is vital that kids see BOTH their parents in love with one another. If it's only for their sake, it's better to be apart and them to see you both happy moving on. They will adjust to having a joint custody arrangement, or whatever you two come to an agreement on. So, whatever you choose, be careful and wise. And keep your eyes peeled for unusual behavior in your mate.
2006-07-24 08:03:47 · answer #2 · answered by sbhb090896 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he learned his lesson & really loves you & miss you & the kids, It has happen before, Have a good talk not fuss and see if you can get yourselves priorities straight and if he has cheated on you before then he needs to suffer a little but always think of the children first & dont deprive him of his kids no matter how he may treat you, children needs both parents together or apart.
2006-07-24 08:06:37 · answer #3 · answered by dugbug63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn' t forgive that. Apparently, the grass wasn't greener on the other side, so he is trying to backtread to get on your good side so you let him back in so he doesn't have to be alone. That is, until the next temptation comes along.............believe me, you'll do more damage to your kids by getting together and splitting up again.
2006-07-24 08:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive him and draw a strong marriage from this bad experience. One day you may ask him for forgiveness too.
2006-07-24 08:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by hotdesersand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him a chance. everybody deserves a second chance and to redeem himself. His coming back is indeed an indication he had a realization that HIS family is more important than anything else.
2006-07-24 07:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by RAY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u the only one knows the answer to this question. do u love him enough to get over his affair and if the answer is yes then go for it. people can change sometimes they need a second chance.
2006-07-24 11:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by olive_olive_72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg- he knew that you would take him back, he will do it again, and u will talk him back again, its what you are letting him get away with. He is taking advantage of it.
2006-07-24 07:57:15 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋