Have you ever been in a abusive relationship?

Question

Have you ever been in a abusive relationship? Or did you know someone that has been in one? What was done about it? I need honest answers.

Answer 1

I was in 2 abusive relationships, and 1 was with my 2nd. husband, 2 was my fiancee. The fiancee, was physically abusive, very jealous, of everyone. It took me several times of being hit, chocked, and he even loosened the lug nuts on my tire, in hopes that I would have a car crash. I had to call the police several times. Needless to say I did not marry him. He moved to Germany, with his job, and wanted me to go with him, how scary is that! Me in a foreign country, away from family, and friends, I feel sure he would have killed me. My 2nd. husband was emotionally abusive, and that can cut pretty deep too.

Answer 2

All relationships are abusive in one way or another. Unless and until you access the conciousness frequency of presence,all relationships,and particularly intimate relationships,are deeply flawed and ultimately dysfunctional.They may seem perfect for a while,such as when you are "in love,"but invariably that apparent perfection gets disrupted as arguments,conflicts,dissatisfaction,and emotional or even physical violence occor with increasing frequency.It seems that most "love relationships" become love/hate relationships before long.Love can then turn into savage attack,feelings of hostility,or complete withdrawal of affection at the flick of a switch.This is considered normal.The relationship then osccilates for a while,a few months or a few years,between the polarities of "love" and hate,and it gives you as much pleasure as it gives you pain.It is not uncommon to become addicted to those cycles.Their drama makes them feel alive.When a balance between the positive/negative polarities is lost and the negative,destructive cycles occur with increasing frequency and intensity,which tends to happen sooner or later,then it will not be long before the relationship finally collapses. The negative side of a relationship is,of course,more easily recognizable as dysfunctional than the positive one.And it is also easier to recognize the source of negativity in your partner than to see it in yourself.It can manifest in many forms:possessiveness,jealousy,control,withdrawal and unspoken resentment,the need to be right,insensitivity and self-absorbtion,emotional demands and manipulation,the urge to argue,criticize,judge,blame,or attack,anger,unconcious revenge for past pain inflicted by a parent,and rage and physical violence. On the positive side you are "in love"with your partner.This is at first a deeply satisfying state.You feel intensely alive.Your existence has suddenly become meaningful because someone needsyou,and makes you feel special,and you do the same for him or her.When you are together,you feel whole.The feeling can become so intense that the rest of the world fades into insignificance. However,you may also have noticed thst there is a neediness and a clinging quality to that intensity.You become addicted to the other person.He or she acts on you like a drug.You are on a high when the drug is available,but even the possibility or the thought that he or she might no longer be there for you can lead to jealousy,possessiveness,attempts at manipulation through blackmail,blaming and accusing-fear of loss.If the other person does leave you,this can give rise to the most intense hostility or the most profound grief and despair.In an instant,loving tenderness can turn into a savage attack or dreadful grief.Where is the love now?Can love change into its opposite in an instant?Was it love in the first place,or just an addictive grasping ang clinging?

Answer 3

I was in an extremely abusive controlling relationship from the time I was 15 until I was almost 17. The ex was 25 years old (yes, statutory rape). He used to knock me unconscious and everything. One day I went to court for a simple misdemeanor case and ended up getting sent to a Bootcamp for 6 months. During my stay in the program, The house my family lived in burned down, and they had to move across town. When I got out of the program I saw it as my way to get away from him, because he no longer knew where my family lived. It was a blessing in disguise. I haven't seen him since.

Answer 4

I was in an abusive(physically & emotionally) relationship for about 11 years off & on.Yes i was stupid but i also feared for my life,so i kept going back until i just couldn't take it anymore.He nearly killed me,caused me to miscarry two pregnancies and lowered my self esteem drastically! I asked God to give me the strength to move on & to not live in my past anymore. I am a better person for it & AM HAPPILY married to a Beautiful man & we have three Beautiful children. God has Blessed my life abundantly since then.
Be Blessed! Monica

Answer 5

I was. When the cops were called, the police picked him up and let him out for 100 dollars the very same night. I think that we have to really just protect ourselves. We can't depend on the police or anybody else to protect us. You have to get a bat or something. Have a lot of things around the house that he wouldn't think of as a weapon and hide a charged cell phone everywhere you can think of just in case. Also, make copies of all of your keys. Give them to trusted friends and/or family.

Answer 6

I'd have to say I was KINDA in one. It was more emotionally abusive. All he cared about was himself & never about me & would just lead me on making me think that he really loved me. I finally just got fed up & dropped him. He tried to keep pulling me back cause he knew I was IN LOVE with him. He'd suddenly have a revelation & start talking all sweet & apologizing for hurting me & all that other bull**** & then somehow convince me to take him back. I'd go to take him back & then he'd suddenly not talk to me for a week. As soon as I'd hear from him he apparently changed his mind & would say that he was just sayin that stuff cause he was lonely at the time but now he found someone else. I was DEVESTATED. He tried it again a few months later but by that time I was soooo fed up that I just went off on him (using every word in the book) & told him everything I felt (that he was a user & a major loser...etc.) & he finally stopped. It showed him that I had the guts to stand up to him & not take his bull**** anymore. He has not tried to talk to me since then THANK GOD. The best thing you can do is just stand up to them, tell them how you feel, leave & never look back.

Answer 7

my mom was in one - she got divorced.
At least two of my aunts have been in one - both got divorced, one rather soon and the other one after quite some years.
Bottom line is - if you are in one - get out as soon as you can. If it is a friend try everything you can to make her(/him) leave that abusive relation ship

Answer 8

no I have not and if a man ever hit me he would regret the hell out of it! I have know people to have been and it took a while but most of them got out of it. The law never really stepped in.

Answer 9

I have a friend that is always beaten by her boyfriend, we try to help her but she just keeps going back to him and never listens to what her friends say so I just gave up

Answer 10

yea i was and it sucked, he use to hit me and call me dumb and stupid all the time so one day when he left for work i packed my stuff up and by the time he got home i was in a different state...