2006-07-24 07:41:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm afraid you have to just tell him. If you're nt sure about doing so then maybe you're not 100% sure about ending the relationship. That's fine, but you need to tell him how you're feeling and hope that the two of you can either make things work, perhaps by seeking counselling or split amicably considering you have a child together. It is hard, but once you have made the decision it is easier to tell him and start to rebuild your life with just you and your little one. I have recently separated from my Husband. It was hard to tell him but everything is amicable for our daughter. Good luck whatever you decide.
2006-07-24 07:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fiance of 8 years? God thats quite an engagement and it shouldn't come as a surprise to either of you that the other would not be fullfilled. If in 8 years neither of you have taken the initiative to make your relationship permanent then it should come as no surprise that you aren't too terribly happy. Sit him down and let him know that you don't mean to hurt him but you would rather admit this now than after you got married because it would be that much worse. Reassure him that he can still be a part of his child's life and that you know he deserves someone who will love him the way he deserves to be love but unfortunately its not you.
2006-07-24 14:47:15 · answer #2 · answered by amyclay350 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fiance of 8 years!?
You have problems! You should have been married seven years ago!
You need marital counseling something fierce. Take your fiance and go see a counselor -- here in California they're called MFCC or MFCT (Marriage Family Child Counselor or Marriage Family Child Therapist). If your fiance won't go with you, go alone.
2006-07-24 14:47:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, how come you have been engaged for 8 years???
Next, you need to be honest with him, tell him how you feel, and that no matter what happens between the 2 of you, he will always be in his child's life-and MEAN IT!!!
Its never easy to end a relationship-be strong, and kind-
good luck!
2006-07-24 14:47:22 · answer #4 · answered by dmkharleychic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come out and tell him, if you try to make it easy for him it will come back and bite you, just let him know as the longer you leave it the harder it will become for not just you and him but also your wee one. At the end of the day when kids are involved it doesn't matter about your feelings or his you need to make sure your wee one is OK. And if you are with someone you do not want to be with your wee one will soon pick up on this...
2006-07-24 14:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by ooooh look @ me, lol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is why you don't want to be with him anymore... and when you know that you just have to get your kid out of the way for a day, sit him down and have an open hearted conversation with him... There is no better way than just being honest!
2006-07-25 06:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by Littlegreydevil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just flat out tell him. The fact that he's been your fiance for 8 years with no further commitment should have given him a hint..........
2006-07-24 15:03:54 · answer #7 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With your lips. You'd better tell him now before you end up doing something stupid because you made yourself miserable. Just say you need a break for now and then see how things go.
2006-07-24 14:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by prinsin99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said 8 years. that's how long some people marriage last. he will know eventually.
2006-07-24 14:55:57 · answer #9 · answered by carzone28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him outright I don't want to be with you anymore.
don't drag it out you both will get hurt. it will be easier this way..
2006-07-24 14:45:57 · answer #10 · answered by poisondragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋