My mother died tragically in my teen years
2006-07-24 07:38:47 · 41 answers · asked by aducksler 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You resent her because it is normally a relationship with other motives besides love when people of such a large age gap marry. Not always, but usually. I dont know how their relationship is so I cannot speak about them in particular. They don't usually work out, so maybe you are worried about your dad as well. Its a hard thing to lose a parent but please keep in mind that it is "til death do us part" It must've hurt your dad to lose your mom, and he has every right to find someone to love and share the rest of his life with.
2006-07-24 07:43:00 · answer #1 · answered by Me 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
You would resent any woman, the age thing is only giving you an excuse. You want to keep daddy for yourself. Your father is going through a midlife crisis and the 26 year old wants a sugar daddy. Just hope they don't have any kids, and I hope she isn't bringing any from past relationships with her, In the mean time be happy you are 20 and get on with your life. Just "make nice" when you are around them. You don't have to be girlfriends with the new wife. I wonder what daddy would say if you dated/married a man around his age. Obviously you wouldn't even be interested because you have a good head on your shoulders. Hopefully daddy's will continue to include you.
2006-07-24 07:47:31 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because your mother died and didn't get divorced so you resent anyone that might be standing beside your father that isn't her. It's probably a natural snap reaction but not a realistic one, you should try to realize that if she were still here your dad would still be with her (hopefully) but she isn't and would she want your dad to spend his life alone? No, or she would've left him alone when she was alive. This woman is in no way a replacement for your mother and probably isn't trying to be. Try to get to know her for who SHE is, not for who you think she's trying to replace. You two are close in age and could be good friends and if she makes your dad happy that should make you happy for him. Don't look at them as competing beings, just as their individual selves with very different roles to play in your life and that should remove the resentment because it isn't a competition anymore. Your mom is your mom, the one and only mom nobody would be foolish enough to try to take the place of that. Give her a chance, you just might like her!
2006-07-24 07:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you resent her because this is a woman not old enough to be your mother (whom you truly miss), and the the fact that your father has moved on, but you haven't. And it makes matters sticker and worse if she tries to act like a maternal figure to you when she's only 5 1/2 to 6 yrs. over you, making you want to beat her senseless.
2006-07-24 07:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you resent her because she is your age and it is like your dad is marring a kid at least that is how I would feel I am so sorry for you just try to get along with her the best you can for your dads sake and talk to your dad about it let him know how you feel and he should respect your opinion enough to be able to help with any resestince toward her THE BEST OF LUCK TO YOU
2006-07-24 07:47:08 · answer #5 · answered by crystal a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your Mom.
You resent the 26 year old because she is your age. Have you spoken to your father about your feelings or resentment?
2006-07-24 07:40:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be feeling as though this woman will (or has) taken over a part of your father's life that was solely yours before she came along. Having him to yourself for these past few years is a hard thing to give up. Give her, and yourself, a break and take it one day at a time. Talk to your dad about it - he should be able to give you the reassurance you need.
2006-07-24 07:41:55 · answer #7 · answered by ♪ Nickels ♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prolly a big part of it is that in some way you feel that she taking your mother's place and she is only 6 years older than you. Try and get to know her and know that she makes your father happy. You don't have to be her friend, you just need to accept that she is with your father and treat her accordingly.
2006-07-24 07:41:12 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront your dad about the age thing.....tell him you are uncomfortable about it. he might be able to help,and you resent her because shes not your mother bu take some time maybe go out and do something with hr get to no her you could become good friends because of the age thing.
2006-07-24 07:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
B/c she isnt your mom and she is your age. You dont like the fact that she might be taking over your mothers place but she isnt she just is trying to be your friend and help you out. Just think of it as this, she could be on your team when it comes to asking daddy for things now she could help with him making the decision. I would be her friend LOL Good luck
2006-07-24 07:42:43 · answer #10 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋