Why are people getting so upset because I said I'm cheating on my husband who is in Iraq?

Question

I am not the first person to cheat and I won't be the last. Some of you need to really get a grip and stop judging others. I have needs you know, we all do. I just choose to acknowledge mine.

Answer 1

Well, I can understand your loneliness. But if you are committed and in love with your husband you should sacrifice those small pleasures you are receiving in this affair. The reason people are so angry with you is because your husband in in Iraq ( I assume in the military, i have not seen your other question, but will check it out shortly) fighting for your freedom and safety. Because he risks his life you have the freedom to do these things. Just because you have the ability don't mean it is right. If you no longer love him then when he comes home let him go. But I hate to say this, if he don't come home, how is this gonna make you feel?

On another note, did you really expect different? I don't care if he was in Iraq or the next room, nobody is gonna give you a thumbs up.

I am not judging you. I am no angel. Although circumstances were MUCH different, I would be a hypocrite to criticize.

Please reconsider your actions. If your are not happy with being his wife, I can understand that, but maybe you could try to wait until he is home and tell him you are not happy, then move on. He will most likely be crushed from the news, but it would be worse if you cheated too.

Answer 2

Wow!! This room is filled with anger. Although it sounds like judgment to you, the circumstances of why you cheated aren't justifiable. The only judge is God, and He views cheating as adultery. I won't pass judgment, but you have to ask Him for forgiveness, that is if you are regretful of what you did. Looks like you're not, so good luck with revealing it to your husband, whether or not you choose to tell him. But c'mon now, I'm sure that he will more than do that for ya when he gets home. I don't know what his background is, but on the outside looking in, it's a messed situation for him, because he is over there fighting and there is a possibility that he may not see you again.

But, I don't think anyone would actually have the audacity to do such a thing. The whole aura of someone you care about leaving to go to Iraq would have a person clinging to the TV and phone. So, that was a good hypothetical question.

Answer 3

sounds like you are pretty selfish and care only about yourself, while your husband is out in Iraq giving everything up for his country including you, so you can be free..I hope he divorces you as soona s he comes back, and that if you have kids the judge see fit to give them to him an dleaves you with no alimony, that is the lowest thing...I am a Vet and was cheated on while on deployment...you will probably not have the guts to let him know either when he comes back you pretend like you were loyal and that you missed him meanwhile you were getting it from some other guy the whole time...I hope you catch some VD whore

Answer 4

When my husband was in the Army not long ago there were soooooo many relationships broken up by the time their man or woman was over seas. It takes a strong person to be able to be alone that long, thats why they have FRG and other groups... so you can make friends for support and keep you busy. You knew what you were getting into, deal with it or leave. I bet you cheated with another soldier too... it always happens.

Answer 5

I don't think it's because you're cheating; it has to do with the fact that he's off fighting for such a noble cause (at least in some people's opinions, but not my own). I know it's not his choice to go to Iraq, but I think it's something military people have to remember when they go over seas for a long time. Maybe some of them in Iraq understand that their significant others have needs, but I don't think the people here in America who are not fighting this "war" see it that way.

Answer 6

I understand that you have needs but Sweetie why are letting everyone know your business in the first place? If your are acknowledgeng the affair maybe it's more to it. The only way I think that it would be wrong if it's someone your husband knows.

Aside from this I hope your husband comes back safe.
God bless him and your family.

Answer 7

Oooooooooo I don't know. Perhaps because you are worried about having sex while your husband is over there making the ultimate sacrifice in what could on a good day be classified as the pit of hell by putting his life on the line and you can't even sacrifice and keep you panties on? Just a guess. There is a special place in hell for people like you.

Answer 8

You have "needs"? What about your husbands needs to have a faithful Wife? That part is usually in marriage vows. Unless you opted out on that one, which sounds like you did. Just think. you could come home some night from seeing to your "needs" and find out your husband was killed. I should hope you would feel guilty about that. Then again, maybe you wouldn't.

Answer 9

Ok, let's make this simple. The lion's den offers a variety of "replacement" toys for you if your needs are that strong. Secondly, YOU ARE SELFISH! Oh, poor you, no sex?? I feel so bad. You need to get a reality check. He is in Iraq and serving his country. Is it too much to ask that your wife doesn't serve that same country while he is gone?

Answer 10

Of course everyone has needs, that is what they make toys for. If you want to be with another man sexually, then you should divorce your husband first. I am by no means judging you, but in my opinion you have very low morals and are not in love with your husband. It only makes sense that if you loved your husband, you would not want to hurt him.