I'm a mom and just found my son is smoking pot he is so mean to me and my husband what is the best thing to d?

Question

he is 13 years old

Answer 1

Have him arrested.

That should scare the sh!t out of the little bugger, you need to give him the tough love treatment, and show him that you're in charge. Then he won't be so mean.

Tell him that if he thinks he's tough enough to smoke pot, then he's tough enough to spend the time in jail for it. It is illegal in most countries.

Answer 2

That's a tough one. Not to say he's doing drugs other than pot, but marijuana usually doesn't cause people to be mean. How you handle it best would be determined by his age. If he's older and basically on his own, then offering him help finding some sort of rehab program is about all you can do, and if he refuses to do this, then cutting him off until he does works best in getting any results.
If your son is younger and still living at home, then you can place him in a treatment program. There are plenty of people that can help you figure out the best course of action. Call your local police department and ask for help. No, they wont place your son in jail, because they will need to actually see him doing drugs to do that, but they can offer advice on what you should do. You can also call hot lines, department of social services and even the school counselor for advice. Drugs are a hard thing to get off of but with the right encouragement and help, it is totally possible. I wish you good luck.

Answer 3

do not ask him to stop smoking coz any case he will first of all he is a guy and he is out with guyz and most of guyz are smokers ...i am 23 and i do smoke my dady once said if i see u'r smoking am gonna do this am gonna do that in another word he said am gonna spy on u the way u wont be able to do any thing i said ok i won't smoke ever again ...and now i do smoke and some times i light up fags 2 3 4 in 15 mins Y i do that? becoz i know by the time i reach home i wont be able to smoke ...if he would have told me ok do smoke ifront of me whenever u want to ..first i would smoke less secondly i would have felt shy to smoke and i would have found my father an understanding person trust me i would have cut down on that.....now every body in this world knows that am a smoker xept my Dad and that's not a right way but keep it in ur mind am a gurl i would never go for drugs but guyz are out side 24 hrs if u stop him he would hide things try to talk to him in ur way u are a mother and u know that how to talk to him to get him convncd but don't push him to stop smokin' if he doesn't want to ...
good luck

Answer 4

Well, to tell u the truth the best thing you can do is talk with him and tell him all the bad outcomes that might come out of it... dont be hasty or rude wehn ur telling him about it.. if he's hasty let him be hasty.. it might be annoying and pissing u offf. but if u really want to helop him u would bare up and take it.. i no your the parent here but this situtation is very sensitive.. if ur to tough he'll keep doing it.. showing him concern and care will help him... you probably might have tried this. yes but if you keep showing these aspects to him he'll eventually stop. there are many resources out there to help him. But the last thing u want to do is take his pride or u'll never get respect from him again. Sit him down, talk to him calmly.. just please dont be the one to yell or lecture him. cause putting him in a lecture hall isnt going to help him at anytime at all. Try not to be as strict... give him some space... show taht u could trust him to stop... but if u know this will continue on... do it smart and take affirmative action... give him money and let him go some where.. if he's going to smoke pot... make sure u know the spot where he goes. then the best thing to do is to call the police and let them no where its happening. and let them take it in there hands.. it may not be the best choice in your heart but its the baest thing for him if u really want to help him.... just dont yell or throw any werds of anger.. or else you just might loose you littleboy...

Answer 5

First of all your son is just using pot as excuse to be mean. Your son is mean because he chooses to be mean. There is something else wrong with your son. You need to talk to him and get to the bottom of what's bothering him. My nephew went through the same thing. Your son is in pain for some reason and you to get him in some type of couseling and off the drugs!! Today!! I do believe that pot is the opening to other drugs.

Answer 6

is your husband his real father? Have his real father talk to him about it. I agree with the other people if he is 15 then maybe some therapy, taking away other things, etc. See if there are any community programs that he can go to for the drug use. If he is older like 20, kick him out or call the cops and have them put him in jail because you dont need that stuff in your house esp. if you have other children.

Answer 7

This is going to be one of the hardest things for you to try and deal with. At 13 it's going to be easier than say at 16. I smoked for the first time at 13 and I didn't quit till I was 24. My mom caught me a few times. But there was nothing she could say or do to make me quit. I pushed my mom away till I was about 18 and I moved out. One of the factors is the group he is hanging out with. At 13 you can control with who and where he is. Get to know the parents of his friends, sometimes they can be a contributing factor. Make it difficult for him to hide and smoke. I hope you decide not to force or push him to rehab. He will push you away and it could escalate into violence. Is he depressed? Is he having problems at school? And could be stressed. Sometimes we need to hit bottom to realize which way is up.

Answer 8

never been in that situation. i would say have a talk with him. explain that you understand his curiousity but pot is really stupid. Tell him its really not cool to do and is a waste of time.

Have you done it before? Husband? If so, then explain why pot is not cool. Level with him, tell him that its just plain stupid. But you have to be cool with him.

this site is okay might give you pointers and tips

http://www.theantidrug.com/advice/

Answer 9

What I would do personally, because I have been that kid, is to keep a closer eye on him. Like ground him, don't let him go anywhere, and if you catch him sneeking out...punish him more. tough love is the best way to go in these situations most of the time, but agian that is just my opinion.

Answer 10

i think we have something in common. im wars by the way from philippines.

let me tell you my story: one time, my friend informed me that my younger brother is into smoking pot. i love my brod so much that i cant have myself to wage war against him. so what i did is i told him that i know about what his up to, and that im angry by what his doing but that im not angry on him.

since then i made it a point to be always there for him. school projects, activities and games.

yes games. i started to play video games with him. i bought him new phone and a play station just to let him know that i care for him.

i bribed him for every accomplishment he has done.

when i gained his trust, i then slowly, lovingly and persistently told the damage of his actions and its possible outcome on his career and future.

you know, its you who mold him. so i say youd better evaluate yourself. just like what my brod told me, that he thinks he is a misfit in our family. thats how i understand that i too is a factor for him doing such mess.

the best that you can do is love him more.