Ok, so recently i met this girl in college and we've been seeing each other and hanging out for the past 4 months. 3 weeks ago i confessed to her about my feelings that i really like her and she said she likes me back., but she wants to stay single for now because she needs to learn to grow as a person. And i told her that I'd wait for her because she really is worth the wait, and i dont mind waiting. so a few weeks past and yesterday when i asked her to hang out, it was the first time she said i dont know. and then she said i dont wanna keep saying i dont know so i wanted to tell you that i feel awkward after we hang out because of the thought of me waiting for her makes her feel weird. So i asked her what she wanted to do about it and she said i dont know and that maybe we shouldnt hang out anymore. And every question i asked from then on is an "I dont know." And she later told me she felt that she can't open up her feelings to me and now i dont know what to do.
2006-07-24 07:22:49 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She also said that we cant have a "real true friendship" because I have feelings for her and im waiting for her. Can someone please go about telling me whats the best thing to do so I can save what her and I have now??? Thx!
Update... she just called me and we chatted on the fone for 30-40 minutes, but she sounded happy more than usual to talk to me, and when i asked what shes doing shes like im on the fone with u silly... and usually when we talk shes either listenin to music or reading a book or something.... oh and she messages me good night on aim everyday. . .
Update again... she called me again 3 days later and she said that i shouldn't hesistate to call her to talk to her..... and i told her that i wanted to give her space and time so that she could think things through and that ive been hanging out with other people lately to get my mind off it..... and she was just like OH!....
2 weeks past and i asked her to hang out and she accepted so... what does this meanandwheream
2006-07-24 07:22:55 · update #1
I think she wants you to just be her friend. You're also embarrassing her by 'waiting around' - it suggests you haven't got enough self-respect. She's also a little bit jealous of the thought of you with other girls, but not because she wants you. It sounds like she's still trying to be your friend but hoping you'll forget about the rest of it. Good luck.
2006-07-24 07:26:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to back off some, let her call and ask you to hang out. If you want to really turn her head, tell her she was right, you both need space to learn and grow as people. Tell her that you have met some really interesting girls and maybe it's a good idea to see other people. If it's right, you will come back together later when you have both evolved.
Right now, you have "Welcome" on your forehead in neon! Doing everything to please this girl is not working, so the rule is, if what you are doing isn't working, try something different!
Darlin', the bottom line here is, you are more into this than she is, if you want that to change, you need to do something different!
2006-07-24 14:32:47 · answer #2 · answered by Laura M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm a lot of updates for a new question i think u posted this again. ok well she not ready for a relationship but she likes u. so u need to just chill and wait. the i dont know was cuz she was nervous how she felt.so yeah u going and not texting her or calling she didnt like that. she wants u to call her and text her.she just didnt realize it till u stopped.so yup thats good thing u moving on going with friends. made her be like im might lose him. she knows where u stand already its her turn.so dont bring up ur feeling no more. everything going slow and thats how it should be.so u wanted to save what u had and u still got it. so just wait and be her friend she knows u like her so in time she will let u know.take it slow man and it should work out.good luck
2006-07-24 14:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by SLICK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably means she has been missing you. Maybe that time away from each other showed her how much she really does like to have you around. I definitely commend you for letting her know your feeling. Just don't press her into a relationship. I believe that is why she became kind of withdrawn from you at first. Let a relationship develop from a friendship naturally. Good Luck brother I wish you the best.
2006-07-24 14:29:42 · answer #4 · answered by Digital Katana's 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A womans heart is a deep ocean of thoughts. Sometimes when we meet a guy we just need time to access the sitiuation! When we hit college likes her and we feel we need to grow and become more mature we are trying to get ready for the world and trying to figure what we want out of life. She is just confused and trying to find the person she wants to be! Good for you to give her space some guys do not do that!
2006-07-24 14:29:36 · answer #5 · answered by red_ram_princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So the problem here is, if she wanted you, she'd want you. When a woman says that she isn't ready for a relationship 99 times out of 99 1/2 she means that she hasn't found someone she wants to date. Which means not you. You can wait for this girl to be ready to date, but I can gaurantee that she'll be "ready to date" when she meets the guy she wants. If you want to still try to have something with this girl, fine. But don't sacrifice all other prospects for her. You will regret it.
2006-07-24 14:31:25 · answer #6 · answered by Chris D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on! I know it will be hard. Girls don't like clingy, needy guys. She probably heard you were hanging out with other people, so she decided you look more attractive to her. Stay friends if you can handle it but, get out, see other people, make other friends. You move to fast for this one. Most single chicks in college are that way for a reason. If you want to be in a serous relationship you may have to look to an older woman. (Not old, but older than you.)
2006-07-24 14:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by crezymonkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple!!! She is much more matured than you!! She studied you well, knew your intentions,made you wait and checked back whether you still like her! Gave you one or two pieces of candy and you started wagging the tail like a fan!!!
Dont have any wrong ideas on her!! Keep her in good company but do not tresspass!!! Apart from love , you also may get a slap!!!????
2006-07-24 14:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre being too serious, and thats what she DOESNT want right now. you need to stop talking about anything to do with "what nows" and waiting and "us" because youre scaring her off. she may not be the one for you and you dont "have anything to save" with her as of yet, and you still may not. waiting on a girl who may or may not have feelings for you later is not healthy for you or her own peace of mind/sanity. please cool it and act with her like you would any other friend you dont have those feelings for. or one day, shell be fed up and leave you hanging for good. this may sound harsh, but trust me i know the senario and what she is trying to get across to you. just RELAX.
2006-07-24 14:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by mello83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just means she's young, and may want to be a young lady on her own. Find yourself someone else to hang out with and that will help you move on and think of other things.
If its one thing I learned, when someone says "I don't know" all the time, it really means, "No, go away."
2006-07-24 14:27:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋