does any one have kids-infants to toddlers-while they are in college?

Question

i just want to know if it is hard...i think im preg. and im going to college in jan. can i still go to college?? im getting married too...is anyone in my similar situation? can someone give me some advice on how to deal? please give me some real feedback from mom's who have children and who r married while in college. i *really* want to go to college, should i go part time? someone please help me!!

Answer 1

I am currently in that situation. I am a full time student, work a full time job, and i am a full time mother all by myself. Yes it is hard and it will never be easy no matter the situation. I personally feel that you can do as much as you allow yourself to do. Luckily for you you will have someone to help you. I dont have that, but i was determined to finish school and i will. I only sat out of school the semester that i had my son due to complications with my pregnancy other than that i probably would have went up until the day i had him. I also had a c-section and returned to work 2 weeks after i had my son. I didnt want to do that but you have to do what is best for you and your child. I would love to help you in any way that i can so if u want to talk more just email me

Answer 2

Any of those things can be stressful just by themselves , but you can still do it. You will have to have help , take it where ever you can get it. I have a 6 month old son and when he was first born he would cry every couple of hours , even during the night. By about 3 - 4 months he started sleeping through the night . He cries now , but not as much . The more time goes on the more you'll understand what your baby wants. You will have to work around your baby's schedule at first, when your baby is sleeping that's when you'll have time to get things done. When you have papers to write or projects to do maybe you could find somebody to watch your baby. In my opinion you should wait until your baby is 2 1/2 - 3 months old or at least sleeping through the night. You will need time to bond with your baby and to recuperate. The first two weeks after birth you'll be sore and tired. A lot of day care places won't take small babies, you should call around and find out age requirements if you want to go that route. Having babies can make life more complicated but its not impossible.

Answer 3

I am married and have been for almost 3 years now...I had my first baby 1 yr. ago. I have been going to college the whole time. Being married shouldn't affect you going to college unless you are not ready for marriage...if you are going to be sad and bummed out that you can't be with other guys you'll see and meet in class...don't get married. Having a baby and going to school is hard...but it can be done. I am taking my classes on line right now and that is helpful if you have the option. I only attend part time when I have to be on campus for classes. If this is what you really want then you'll make it work.

Good luck!

Answer 4

YES! I can relate! I work and go to school both full-time. Last August I found out I was pregnant. I was already enrolled for the Fall semester, so I pushed my way. It was difficult at that time because I was going through "all day" sickness, but my teachers were supportive. It was hard, but I knew it had to be done. January 2006 rolled around and I got married. I was 5 months preg at that time, so you can imagine my stress level at that point. I took off from school this past Spring, but will go back this Fall. My baby is 2.5 months now. I know that it's going to be a challenge, but now I have to do for my daughter, not just me. I have gone through alot of transitions as u can see --- pregnancy, school, work, a marriage, a newborn, and...next week I will be returning back to work, then going back to school later this month. One thing to remember, that my father always says: someone is always going through a little more than you. That's how I think about my life. I know that there is a woman out there who has it just a bit harder than I do, and if they can do it...I CAN TOO! So, girl...u can do it. Be around positive and supportive people, and especially stay close with God and be prayed up! KIM

Answer 5

I am currently enrolled fulltime spring and summer 06. It is hectic to say the least some times but you can manage. I enjoy going it gives me an escape a few days a week to recoop myself from being with two kids all day. I would enroll fulltime i think you will find it easier than you think. You can study after baby goes to bed and before he wakes. My GPA for spring semester was 3.81 3A 's 1B 14 hours..I was proud of myself! Some classes are easier than others however, Maybe take an online class so you can do the work when you can.I take 1 each semester. That way if things are too crazy at one time I can slack there and give my attention elsewhere..You can do it good luck

Answer 6

i have toddlan and an infant and im married but not in collage.. but everyone i know and have ever talked to all had to drop out of collage so thay could get a full time job and everything to suport the baby. cause babys cost alot of money and need alot of attention from u not others. yes u can still go to collage only till the baby is born and ur in the hosptil and out of school for a while at the begining with the baby most ppl stay out of work and everything for like 2 months. thats just gonna make it harder. cause f he works that u will both have to have a job so u can take care of the baby and make money to put the baby into a good daycare. witch costs alot of money. not counting all the money u will have to pay for collage. not a good way to start off a family and a marrage. u will prity much be broke. well u could go part time or wait a few years and save up money and stuff and than go back to school cause if ur soon to be husband has a job 1 job wont be able to do it all pay for collage and a baby and daycare. all that together ur talking alot of money especly with just the baby. cause thay grow out of cloths and shoes and stuff really quick and u still gotta buy everthing for the baby. i was gonna go to collage but when i got pregnant there was no way i could afford it all so i didnt get to go to collage cause babs cost alot of money. and im only 21 yrs old now...

Answer 7

i am 22, i am married and i have an 11 month old. right now i am in college but only part time. at times it can be really tough because babies require so much work and attention. i am lucky enough to not have to work, so its not too bad. i cannot imagine having to go to school and work and have a baby, i mean i would never get to spend time with my baby. dont give up your dreams of going to college just because you have a baby. my suggestion to you is to only go part time or do some online classes at first and then if you think you can handle more than go for it. it can be tough but not impossible.

Answer 8

I have a 5 year old, 3 year old, 1 year old and 9 months pregnant with my fourth. I am in school fulltime. I am doing it online right now due to the pregnancy, but yes it is hard and STRESSful...many days I want to give in, but know that I need to do this. IT is possible trust me but be prepared for many challenges and stresses. The teachers will not take it easier on you or give you any breaks. They wille xpect everything from you like someone who has no kids , etc. Good luck and good job for following your dreams...just try to spend as much time with your baby though....

Answer 9

I have a 9 year old and an 18 month old and am in college full-time. Plus, I continued to take my classes while pregnant, he was born in January, and continued a full load. Oh, I also got married right before he was born as well. It is hard, I will not lie to you, but it can be done. Good luck.

Answer 10

I had my son 2 weeks after I turned 18 and went on to university. It can be done - get good daycare & choose your classes well, take good care of yourself so you have energy to deal with a baby as well as your studies. It might not be a bad idea to go part-time for the first year or so. Your husband to be will have to adjust to this situation. And, very important, when you see the other girls with no responsibilities fooling around, just remember not to envy them or wish you could be carefree. You will have something much greater & fun!