How do you know you are in love and your marriage will work?

Question

I am in love with a girl, she loves me too, we know each other from 5 years. Our parents are strick becoz we are from two different cultures but our cultures are almost same just caste is different. Now i want to ask, if we marry, will it work becoz i think, our families wont be too glad if we marry. do you think, i am doing wrong to go for marriage at age 24. Or i should go for my parents wish and leave her and lator i can fall in love again. Does with age, people forget their first beloved? I mean, Is this because of my age, i am in love ????

Answer 1

you should kill yourselves and be together in the afterlife like romeo and juliet

Answer 2

it sounds like both of your parents are fairly traditional and old fashioned in their way of thought. No one really knows for sure if the person they are with is the one they are meant to be with forever. And while I don't condone divorce I also know that sometiems things just dont' work, regardless of how much people love each other.

SO what I say to you is this: THe fact that you're questioning the relationship at all is an indication that maybe you aren't in love with this girl. Then again, only you know your feelings for certain. Is there any way in your culture that you and this girl can date for awhile and maybe have a long engagement to prove to both of your parents that you both are very serious about this relationship?

I know I have yet to forget the first man I loved, even my grandmother used to talk about the first man she fell in love with. I don't think you ever forget if you truly do love them. So tread carefully, you don't want to spend your life wishing you'd done something differently or wondering what could have been different if you had chosen to stay with this girl or not.

You're only 24, so like I said, if your culture allows for a long engagement or a long courtship, do that. Prove that you're willing to stick it out if that's what you want. It may also help you realize if you really want it. Knowing someone for 5 years is one thing, but being a relationship with someone is quite another. I've been friends with my fiance for 12 years, but only 4 of those years have been spent together romantically, and I certainlly have learned much more about him in 4 years than I did in the other 8 that we just "knew" each other.

Only your heart can clearly tell you what's right for you. I say let that be your guide, but give it some time before you jump into anything.

Good luck with it, I wish you both the best.

Answer 3

I don't think anyone ever forgets their first love. I can only tell you what I did, but I don't believe we're from the same culture either so it may not be a lot of help. My husbands family and friends were not thrilled that we were getting married. They did not know me and felt that he was too young and hadn't been on his own long enough. We still got married. We knew that we wanted to be together and what our families thought didn't change that. In time, his family came around, and now they consider me as much they're daughter as if I'd been born to them, and I love them equally. I don't know what impact this would have on your families. I mean would they just be unhappy or are we talking about them disowning you two. If it's that extreme think carefully because you don't want either of you to have resentment build up towards each other for the loss of your families. I hope it works out and I hope I helped a little.

Answer 4

You must know you are in love because you say you are in love and prepared to marry you girlfriend from a different culture.. you come from 2 different cultures and you are worried about your parents.... if you are in love why should culture play any part in your marriage, and u know what step away from tradition and culture. When you get married you become one and it is up to you and your wife to make your marriage work, not your parents, or friends or family... it takes two people to make a marriag work and those two people are you and your girlfriend or wife, if you love each other go for it, and what is age?? age is just a number that is all it is....If you get married I wish you luck and remember its the two of you and no one else

Answer 5

First off if have to ask yourself that questionen you have no bessness doing a single thing in the arms of this person , yet then again you girls like bad boys , and the later in the system of thing s , we see them get even wroser than the last generation was , and thats real bad to know , if were going going to do a thing about this we need to start at home , then worry about the streets , cause if the mind does 'nt change we will dome are self es so walk as you talk , dont say one thing and do a totale diffrent thing

Answer 6

you don't know. It's all about commitment... when feelings fade, commitment gives you the umph to rekindle them. Commitment makes the love perfect. it starts with infatuation, then it grows to love, if certain criteria is met, proveded that both parts are presenting themselves and don't have a hidden agenda...
Don't ignore the red flags, they are there for a reason.
DOn't ignore the gut feeling iether, always check your assumptions. People like to be trusted, but for your own good, let them prove themselves trustworthy.
My mom was married for 40 years and now is divorced. She says that she knew he was the wrong guy from the start, but she wanted to believe the best... so she ignored the flags... and he didn't change, since he never had a good reason to change, cuz she accepted him the way he was... so he thought that was normal... (he never had only one woman...) and he thought that was marriage. One that cleans after you and cooks and puts out no matter what ... and the rest to enjoy the chase, or I don't know what...

Answer 7

You are age 24,yes,ur age is prone to falling in love.But remember u are legally mature.If u are unsure of ur thougths and actions,better back off from the love affair,cos i feel after marrying the girl,she would be the one to suffer cos of ur indecisiveness.Unless u are firm and mentally prepared,i suggest u wait for anything like love or marriage.

Answer 8

You will always remember your first true love. Life is too short to be worried about what everyone in creation will say if you get married. No one's parents want them to get married, or is ever happy with the choices their children make. But if you are a mature self sufficient man, who cares?

Answer 9

Seems to me that you both need to decide where to go from here.Be warned though that if you both really want this how is it going to effect your familys and your futures.Marriage at 24 is not wrong its if you are both fully committed to each other and if it feels right for you both.I think you and your girl need to sit down together and do some serious thinking...Good luck.

Answer 10

OK, u love somebody u marry the person, anything else doesn't matter. I think u old enough, 24 u said right? Yeah, your parents want the best for u, but common......ITS YOUR LIFE, U DECIDE!!!

Answer 11

Go with it kid. Sounds to me like you love the girl. People marry from dirrect culters all the time nowadays! Tell your parents you cant help who you love. Love is hard to fine, dont let it pass you., you will never forgive your self!