depression or natural?

Question

for 6 mth since i split with my wife i have been feeling low.
now i have came to terms with it and we have an agreement of friends which has its good days and bad days.
why am i in this emotional cycle?
average pattern of 3 or 4 days feeling great life in order ect..
then 1 to 2 days of feeling really low, worrying about nothing and feel like crying and as if i have nothing to live for?
but wierd thing is i have everything to live for.
i just want it to stop i dont know why i cant just feel great or at least ok about things all of the time.

Answer 1

Depression is not a natural thing when it is persistant for two weeks or more...honestly i dont know what to say to you because i am no doctor (though i soon hope to be). but honestly go to a doctor or local heath facility and ask them because they can direct you much better than i can...best of luck to you!

Answer 2

My husband and me split up just over a year ago, it was my idea and i'm good with it, he is taking a long time adjusting to this new way of life, i'm trying to be very understanding with him and he sees the kids all the time, but I know he is struggling with the whole thing, maybe you should go see your doctor, they are very good at times like this. I suffer from depression and I know the feelings are horrendous, either really really high or really really low, no in between, my doc was great and if he ever suggest taking me off my tabs I may have to kill him! but they have helped so much, lots of stigma attached to tking pills for depression, but it worked for me, you want to feel better and get on with your life, then there is no shame in a pill or two helping to ease the suffering, better than binge drinking

Answer 3

It sounds to me like you are having your 'low days' because you have had a drastic emotional change in your life and you are monitoring too closely how you are feeling about it. Try and go with the flow and not commit yourself to 'having to be happy all the time to prove you are okay'. Emmotional change can be distressing. Even people who have very contented lives never have 7/7 great days, it's the process of your emotions settling down. x

Answer 4

I don't think you have depression, I think when you have nothing to occupy your mind you think of her. I have suffered with depression and it's something you can't shake for 4 days out of 7. Well I wish I could've. Keep busy and if you feel great 3-4 days out of 7 your doing very well... better than most. Time is a great healer you know.

Answer 5

Listen babe you cracked it on the head with what you said..."but weird thing is i have everything to live for."
You know you have everything to live for so this is what you have to keep telling yourself on your down days. And when you are having a down day go for a walk or do some exercise. When it comes to depression it is all a matter of mind over matter, you have to try and trick your brain into triggering off the happy hormones. Yes I know it sounds silly or harder than it sounds but as a long term sufferer of depression it has took me many attempts to try and recover from it, the most important thing I have come to realise is that we have to take control of our minds and then slowly but surely we can crack it and recover....

Answer 6

Can i just say that when i split up with my first husband, i had 3 teenage children to look after and a full time job, the only thing i was interested in is paying my bills and getting enough sleep, think on...

Answer 7

Get out more, go away somewhere for a week, there are many cheap holidays on offer at the moment, recharge your batteries, enjoy life!! The sunshine makes people happy, so be happy! When you start getting that low feeling, just tell yourself 'snap out of it!' and get out of the house, take your mind off things. Things will get better.

Answer 8

Its normal to feel like this. Its called Marital distress.

If you’re like most people in your situation, you’re probably feeling scared and confused, not knowing what to do next. And the truth is you’re not alone. You’ve got plenty of company of others like you who don’t know what to do.

Many in your situation experience these emotions and thoughts as their marriage is unraveling:

Devastated: "I've lost my dream of marital happiness."
Hopeless: "I don't know what to do."
Embarrassed: "What will I tell my family, friends, and neighbors?"
Afraid: "How can I handle this financially? I've read that an average divorce in the U.S. costs over $20,000."
Worried: "How will the kids be affected if we divorce?"
Lonely: "How will I find someone else? I don't want to deal with the dating scene again."

I have the book, it is helping me ease some of the weight on my heart.

Answer 9

hi ya I have depression and i urge you to go and see your doctor, you may think that you are fine with your agreement but you are suffering from a loss (No seriously) If you are not sleeping properly you are eating less or more you are crying irritable for over 2 weeks you need to see the doctor. TRUST ME ON THIS.
Good luck.

Answer 10

Start going ouy more often to meet other people. Make some friends. Like you said- you have nothing to worry about and you have all to live for. Start going out. it will help you get you mind off things