My husbands ex-girlfriend's number keeps appearing on the cell phone bill on a daily or every other day basis. I know that something is going on and before I leave his butt, what would you do?
2006-07-24 06:48:57 · 61 answers · asked by lwheavenlyangel 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
While my husband and I were dating I found out about this girl. He denied having a relationship with her but everytime this young lady sees me, she wants to yell and scream ***** at me. BEing that I have never fought over a man because he's not worth it, I would not position myself to fight this young lady. My husband claims that he doesn't talk with her but the cell bill says another story. I know for sure that this woman would not want to fight if she and my husband didn't have anything going on. I'm not focusing on her, I'm focusing on him. I have never been in this situation and I need to know what to do...I'm for sure leaving him.
2006-07-24 06:52:38 · update #1
Call her and find out for sure.
2006-07-24 06:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by shae 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A cellphone call does not mean cheating. A lot of men and women are expected to "kill off" their exes once they're in a new relationship, which I think is silly. An ex was once a big part of your life; even if it didn't end perfectly it would still be weird to cut her or him out completely - in the same way that it isn't weird to keep watching an old movie even though you have new favourites. It doesn't mean you like those new favourites any less. I'm not saying something isn't going on, and your husband should definitely be more honest with you, but there's nothing inherently wrong in the idea of calling an ex.
2006-07-24 06:55:32 · answer #2 · answered by ghost orchid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that was true taht your husband said nothing more nothing to do with this girl ? if it was 1 min or 3 min each phone then I agree with him but if it more than 30 mins or so then something is not right.
But If it was me I would say to this ex GF that I am married to a woman who I love most and you have broken up with me and I made the choice to married my wife and be with her for long time even if she passed away I won't be going back to you.
So yeah tell him to tell her stop calling and no more. If he said but I did try and I did that and still. Just leave his butt because here reason because he could have sex with his ex GF right now, and Tell him why did you married me??? you know what marriage it all about.. It not about you can go call your ex GF while you married me and didn'tmean that you can go sleeping around with her behind my back. and walk out. take the copy of all the phone numbers that she call or/both call each other and show to lawyer and he will make sure that he will pay you i don't know how to spell it but to make sure he pays you each month for a very very long time.
Hope this helps.
2006-07-24 07:17:57 · answer #3 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd start calling my ex's and be quite openly about it (like boastfully telling him that so and so called you and that you were so happy to hear his voice again - the look on his face alone will be of some reward to you) and have that as a means to provoke a confrontation. That is if you want to stay together.
If you want to break up gather as much incriminating evidence as possible and teach him a lesson he will not likely forget. It may not appear as such to him but in the long run you do him big favor in that way.
So it's all good and if your suspicions are right, the only thing wrong is the stuff he thinks he can get away with.
2006-07-24 06:58:11 · answer #4 · answered by groovusy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys maybe still friends with an ex-g/f if they separated amicably. Ask him before jumping to conclusions, maybe they are doing/planning something for you, a birthday party or something, I hope i don't give anything away, but if you just asking nicely about it. Just say something like: "I see your ex called, how is she doing?" "Did she find a new b/f?" say something positive. DO NOT BE A B*T*H about it cause u just might drive him away, and right into her arms. Try to be a friend with her, He might love you more for that, compassion always works better than jealousy and spite.
If it appears that she is trying to create drama, blow it off. See how long the calls lasts, if it is over 5 minutes, I ask him what is going on with her, talk an be civil about it. Ask him if she wants him back, then ask him if he wants her or you. If he says you, then see if he will change his number, if he agrees and her number re-appears, then I would be worried. If not that means he is willing to say good bye to her.
2006-07-24 06:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While he is watching TV or eating dinner or something, just put the cell bill in his face with her numbers circled, and see what his response is?
Are all the calls incoming and only a minute long? Then she is calling and they aren't talking. But if the calls are longer and they go both ways, then he is talking to her.
You could also call the cell company and have his account turned off... that would put an end to it, and he might ask what happned... and you could tell him why.
This isn't cool.
Granted, my husband talks to an ex all the time, and I don't care, I know he isn't cheating, he also never lies to me about it.
2006-07-24 06:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a copy of the phone bill highlight that number every time it shows up. Tell him there should not be a reason for this women to yell at you if nothing is going on. Tell him you don't respect liers and cheaters. And you will not put up with one. Go ahead and leave his cheating no good a**. More power to you girl.
2006-07-24 07:02:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is as clear as crystal water! He is having some type of relationship with her again. If they have kids together, than it can be justified, but if they don't, then I would not think twice about a second relationship between them. It's hard to be the one and only in a man's life when the old one keeps coming back. I think they both have felling still and they will hurt you later, if nothing is done now. Don't regret it later and take matters in your hands now. Good luck!
2006-07-24 06:54:44 · answer #8 · answered by Justanothergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you leave, it would be a good idea to get a job you can support yourself on if you don't already have one, secure another place to live and pack all of your things, so you don't have to keep going back to get more of your stuff. If you plan to file on grounds of infidelity and/or sue the ex girlfriend for alienation of affection, you should also make or obtain copies of the cell phone bills.
2006-07-24 07:00:11 · answer #9 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In an open and trusting relationship, this information should have been talked about right away. So now, it is your turn to not accuse, but to simply ask why the number was there, it is then up to you depending on levels of trust or warning signs how you choose to intepret the answer. If it's true that he is a dog, leave him on the side of the road!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-24 06:55:52 · answer #10 · answered by Valerie P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u should ask ur husband. u can be sneaky and be like hey do u talk to any ladies on the phone other than me. if he says no hes lying and if u want to just go direct and ask him if hes talking to her and if he says no then u have the phone bill to show him. so thats up to u but u need to know whats going on before u do anything. either way hes in the wrong and u should leave him but confornt his *** 1st.good luck
2006-07-24 06:55:38 · answer #11 · answered by SLICK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋