how can I get my boyfriend to give me a ring?

Question

without just asking for one? we've lived together for years and years, no need to marry officially, but I'd like a ring on my finger.

Answer 1

buy one for yourself.

ultimatums don't work, and either do little hints. Sorry...

Answer 2

You definitely don't want to just ask for a ring. Have you ever talked about marriage or getting engaged? If so, did he ever mention wanting to be married or engaged to you? Sometimes, some men are just content living as is, unless you bring up the topic somehow.

I had a friend who was with a guy for about 5-6 years and the entire time she wanted an engagement ring, but he never talked about the idea of marriage to her, inevitably she got what I call the "shut up" ring. Two months later, and $3000 in the hole, they broke up. The worse part of that story is that she put the ring on a credit card she opened, and is still paying it off until this day..so no matter what you do...talk about it with each other and see if an engagement is really in the cards for the both of you...Good luck.

Answer 3

If you want to be married or even engaged for that matter then you need to talk about it with him. You can't just think he's going to read your mind (believe me it will never happen) If you've gone this long without him giving you one then it probably isn't even on his mind, he probably thinks that since you haven't mentioned it that you're either not ready to take that step or don't think it's that important.

As someone mentioned before me too, you don't want what they call a "shut up" ring. Don't go into it like some very immature girls do and beg for a diamond because you'll get what you ask for and then he'll hold it against you or throw it in your face everytime after the ring that you want something. Typical example: "you've got a ring, what else do you want."

My suggestion is that you just sit down and talk about your future plans, make sure you're both on the same page and don't push too much. Remember you want your man to give you a ring because he WANTS to not because you PUSHED him to, if he's not ready it will never work out in the long run.

Answer 4

y the hell does a ring mean nething u just sound materialistic a ring means nothin nd frankly neither does a piece of paper which is all legal marriage is is ownership papers look at it do u love each other nemore or ne less if u get married um no u dont some ppl marry ppl they dont love at all so rings mean nothin he could put one on ur finger then be humpin the neighbor next week u dunno so be happy u have a man that loves u u dont have to own him ! just be happy cause rings mean nothin marriage papers mean nothin all that does mean something is the love u share and thats always there so chill out on wantin the ring! doesnt change nething

Answer 5

What's his incentive to give you one after all this time playing house with him? I'm not trying to be mean, but if it's what you want, you need to be direct and ask for it, seeing as you've given him the cow for free...what motivation does he have to do more? And then you have to ask yourself, do you want to spend any more time with a guy that only does the bare minimum in your relationship? Good luck.

Answer 6

the best way is to give him head and tell him this is the last bj until you get a ring

Answer 7

tell him that other men are starting to pick up on you, and ask him if buying yourself a ring would bother him..so that way the men will stop picking up on you...

and if you have to buy your own ring..leave his broke @rse!

Answer 8

What is his incentive to give you anything? And if he doesn't know that you want something like that and you can't tell him or drop hints, why are you with him?