2006-07-24 06:45:58 · 8 answers · asked by patito 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
The best gift that anyone can give a young adult, is the experience of living through the consequence of their action. In this case, it would be her inaction. It is only thru failure, and mistakes that people realize that change is necessary, and if change is possible, then they will be inspired to do something about it. You can't "make" anyone do anything. Let them live with the choices they have made.
2006-07-24 07:13:00 · answer #1 · answered by amuse4you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of being an adult is making choices and accepting the consequences of those choices. If she chooses not to take the initiative on her own behalf, let her experience the natural consequences of her choice. When she gets tired of experiencing things she doesn't want, she'll eventually start taking the initiative, whether its washing her clothes, studying, etc.
The world won't keep on top of her to fulfill her responsibilities. If you keep forcing her or doing for her, she'll come to rely on you for her motivation or for you to save her. In that case, you're not helping to prepare her for the real world.
2006-07-24 14:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by Joe_D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you the prof or the parent?
If you are the prof: just flunk her. and don't buy into that crying b/s the chicks use to grade grub.
If you are the parent: Take her out of school. She isn't ready for college yet. Cut her off the payroll, inform her that you will be willing to keep paying for college when she is ready to return to school, but she is obviously not ready for it now. Inform her that she will have to start paying for her rent, her car, her cell phone, and in short, you are not going to give her anything. Inform her that you will assist her in getting an apartment until she gets a job to pay for it herself.
When she gets a taste of the realworld and what it's like out there w/o a college education, she will be begging to get back into school.
Tough love does not work if you, as the parent, cheat on it. You have to stick to your guns. If she is currently driving a car that you are currently buying, then you need to take it from her and sell it (this will REALLY get her attention and show that you really mean business) or allow her to pay you for it. If you have the title to her car, then take it from her, and allow her to buy it from you.
She probably loves college but hates school. Meaning, she's probably enjoying the undergrad lifestyle of no parents around, no rules, and loads of boys to play with.
2006-07-24 13:56:33 · answer #3 · answered by Manny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what she does like and creatively sneak appeals to her sense of initiative in there. Education thrives on stimulation imo. So go as far as you can into letting her believe that she is in fact in control of the situation.
2006-07-24 13:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by groovusy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her flunk. It is not your job to make everyone in your class pass. Some lessons are more important than whatever it is that you are teaching.
2006-07-24 13:49:37 · answer #5 · answered by Alexander Khan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is your daughter, I can't help you. If she is an employee have a serious talk to her. Let her know how her work or lack of it is effecting other employees. If she doesn't improve, let her go.
2006-07-24 13:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by ladytc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her experience the real world for herself.
2006-07-24 13:49:54 · answer #7 · answered by Digital Katana's 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whaaaa?
2006-07-24 13:49:02 · answer #8 · answered by Nettie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋