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I am married 10 years, My wife and I HARDLY argue, I never argue or look to argue. I think I am almost a perfect husband, I don't drink, use drugs, stay out late, cheat..etc. I saty at home with the kids and am a great Mr. Mom. I clean the house, do laundry, make beds, refaree fights, cook and a host of other things. Now before we go to bed last night my wife gets mad because I want the Air conditioning on.. Then the other day she gets mad because I lock the keys in the car. I broke the cell phone once and it was like the end of the world. Help me here.. Is there somthing wrong with my wife? These things are so stupid why do weomen want to argue over such trivial things? Or is it just her. I can't blame her compleatly because it seemes all my old girlfriends were the same way..Do you just like to argue??

Answer 1

my moms the same way. I cant stop her yelling. Tell her she needs to see a therapist. Thats what my mom does.

Answer 2

I'm in the same position! Make sure that it isn't that "time of the month" first, as that has a big effect on mood. If that isn't the case, it could be just your wife letting off steam. Women are a totally different animal, and a relationship that has no extreme ups or downs isn't that exciting for them, so some women will go out of their way to try and create those ups and downs. Whether it's a subconscious thing or purely motivated, I'm not sure! (It can be a definite hassle though.)
You'll also notice that it goes in continuous cycles. It's a slow build-up till the big show, then the reconciliation, then the temporary quiet till the next build-up. Just go with the flow and try not to get baited into anything major and it will go away for a while.

Answer 3

Maybe your wife is stressed from her job. Perhaps it has nothing to do with you, except for the fact that she has responsibilities outside the home that are difficult to handle. Who knows?

It is a minor irritation when one locks the keys in the car and breaks the phone. It doesn't seem like a mortal sin for someone to get irritated about that type of stuff. What is the major crime?

Perhaps if you had responsibilities outside of the home and had to deal with demanding bosses, nosy and competitive co-workers, morning traffic jams, and so forth, you'd be a little more on edge yourself.

Would not a perfect husband understand such things--or at least ASK what is stressing his wife out? Instead of asking strangers on Yahoo in the middle of the day?

UMMM.... You say here that you don't do drugs. Your previous question says that you smoke pot and do psychedelics. Maybe the fact that you improvise with the truth as it suits your needs bugs your wife, and hence she gets angry? Could be, could be.

Answer 4

No, I don't enjoy arguing, but I've been married for 32 years and with age comes wisdom and you learn not to sweat the small stuff.

Your opinion of yourself that you are "almost perfect" is how you perceive yourself to be. Perhaps your wife believes that you have some imperfect traits that need improvement or can be tweaked a bit.

Maybe your wife thinks you need to get out and go to work, so the responsibility does not fall entirely on her shoulders. Perhaps being the only bread winner is causing her stress.

Anyway...there are two sides to every married couple gripe. What is her opinion of your husbandly abilities?

Answer 5

I'm on the same boat here...the only difference is that you're married and have kids so you can't just pick up and leave. Like everyone else is telling you, just communicate with her and let her know that she's wrong by doing that. There's def a reason why she's flipping out. It could be stress, something is worrying her for sure. Talk to her and find out what it is. Sometimes I feel like a smack on her head will fix it but that's not the way to go LOL...Good luck.

Answer 6

Heh. Don't get too cocky there saying that you consider yourself to be an "almost perfect" husband. (-_-)

Sometimes we women (and no woman can or should deny this) tend to blow things out of proportion, making mountains out of mole hills as the saying goes. Certainly, I'm not saying ALL women do this, but it is nevertheless not uncommon. There's nothing wrong with your wife in the light of that's not uncommon for women. However, if she is getting flustered over those little things, maybe she should see the bigger picture and stop focusing on that one, little inperfection. For instance, were you able to retrieve your keys from your car? If so, then where's the problem?

As for me, there are times that I do enjoy an argument when I'm hot-headed. For example, I'll argue with my mom when I know I shouldn't, but I'll do it anyway (which I'm not proud of).

Answer 7

Not all women like to argue about pity little things, seems like she has problem.
I personally hate arguing...but you have to be realistic and understand that people will always argue when they are in relationships. Me and my BF of 4 years argue at times, but what I do is I end up letting go of what I think think he did wrong because I think how much I care about this person and wouldn't want to lose him any a dumb reason.

Answer 8

I think that your wife being one of those infinitely complex creatures known as a human female, is happy that you do these things around the house and are so supportive, but at other times wants you to stand your ground and say "NO!! ENOUGH!!" I seriously don't think your wife wants and physcial resistance, but she wants to be reminded that she married a man and that she would like to feel that she can push you...but only so far. At the moment I think she is angry (if she has to spell this out to you it would be pointless) that you are not resisting her. If you don't believe me, ask a councellor who will back me up.

Answer 9

Ha ha..... i just think she doesn't appreciate you! She is taking u for granted and does not realize what a good man she has at home... Or she may simply be stressed and going thorugh some type of depression. Try to get couple therapy or at the very least take out one evening and tell her how u feel and find out what is bothering her.

Answer 10

It seems as if you are too willing to help and be the peace keeper and do everything you are expected to do and be perfect. Maybe your wife wants you to be more "manly" and not be so "girly". I know that sounds weird but you seem more like the women in the relationship and maybe she needs you to take a stand as a man and show her your caveman side. Good luck!!

Answer 11

no i don't like to argue but let me tell you something as a woman some times we say we want one thing and later change our mind,women are one complicated creatures and don't even try to figure us when we can't figure our selves out i tell what continue doing what you doing and don't pay too attention to her when you feel like an argument is about to start go out stay out for a while makes sure you call her and ask if she has claim her self down when she say yes come home.