I want to show her how much i care but me i'm not really the "emontional type" I mean I love her to death but I have no clue on how to show it that I'm there for her and that I care. I'm good with everything else but this cuz I dont really know her gram so it dont effect me any ideas?
2006-07-24 06:43:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it doesnt matter if u knew her gram all that matters is that ur wife needs u now. just be with her and support her. let her talk abt the times she spent with her grams. walk down the memory lane with her, hold her and tell her u love her, buy her flowers and write a note saying i will be there for u through thick and thin, through bad times and good ones and hold ur hand no matter where life takes u or me we will always be togther. it will make her feel like u r there for her and when she cries dont tell her any thing, just let all the pain come out. it helps accept the facts
2006-07-24 06:50:17 · answer #1 · answered by in ur face 4 · 12⤊ 2⤋
First off, I am sorry for your loss. Secondly, just being there for her will help. I know what it's like to lose a loved family member. It was very tough... the best thing to do for your wife would vary on how she is feeling. There are several emotional stages an individual will go through when a loved one dies. Sometimes your wife will be devastated, at these moments she will probably need someone there to hold her while she cries and just remind her that her grandmother is in a better place with God. Other times she will just need her space because she will be going through denial. When this happens you just need to respect her space. Let her go into another room for a while and let out al her confusion. Death is a natural part of life, but for those who are left behind it is very confusing. When she has finally come to terms with everything she will start to level out again. The best thing to do for her is for you to stay calm and relaxed, but also show her your concern. The ultimate help for your wife is just for you to say a silent prayer for her and her family every night. God Bless.
2006-07-24 13:56:23 · answer #2 · answered by Girl 4 God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get her a sympathy card from Hallmark and some flowers and a vase. Go to a local florist and tell them what the occasion is. They will have better choice than grocery store flowers. Also offer to cook since she is going through a tough time and would not be in a mindset to cook or even eat much. And do not forget her other family members with sympathy cards too. Doing that would really show you care about her and her family during this sad time.
2006-07-24 13:52:00 · answer #3 · answered by David C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was raised by my great-grandmother and when she died, I truely felt as if the world were falling in to cruch me under the tidalwave. It was the most horrid and devistating crisis of my entire life. My husband is NOT the emotional type and had only met her once...many years before I met him. But he knew how much she meant to me and the ferocity of my feelings toward her so when she died he KNEW how bad it was for me despite the fact that he had no attachment of any kind to her. All he did was hold me while I broke down into the owrst emotional display of my entire life. I threw things, I screamed in unrelenting agony, I carried on like a raving lunatic and all the while he held me and let me do what ever I needed to do. He never said a word except to say that it was ok and that he was there and encouraged me to do what ever I needed to do to get through it and that he would be right there with me the whole way. Once I calmed down enough he took me to the nearest florist to pick out an arrangement to send as we were a thousand miles away and he had already tried to get me a flight home and failed. he spent over $300.00 on that flower arrangement. I picked it and it was originally $75.00 including shipping. He added tons of what he knew were my AND her favorite flowers to the arrangement and upped the size to accomodate it. I did not know he did that as I went to the car to calm down again while he made the arrangements. i only found out when the photos came from my family. Mine was the BIGGEST arrangement there. To know that he loved me so much to do something so huge for someone he did not even know still affects me to this day (10 years later). Ask yourself what you can do that will have such a profound affect on her as this did for me. Sometimes the tiniest thing has the biggest impact. His just being there and NOT saying a word but just being right there did more to help me get through my grief than anything else I can imagine. You can not say anything that will help her. I can tell you that. But you can BE there. let her do what she needs to do and BE THERE while she does it. Lots of luck to her and all my love to her. I know the reality of her grief. I'm so sorry for her loss! It will get better with A-LOT of time. Be patient and just love her through it!
2006-07-24 14:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask a family member for a photo of your wife and her grandmother together - or each of them at about the same age - have it/them framed and give it to her as a gift.
2006-07-24 14:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by shomechely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be as supportive "emotionallly" as you can. If she wants to talk about it, talk. If she wants to cry her eyes out, be her shoulder to cry on. Emotions are hard to deal with, especially when a person loses someone near and dear to them. I am sure your wife knows that you are not a very emotional person, and I am sure she accepts that...because it is who you are..just be there for her as much as you can in her time of need.
2006-07-24 13:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by manderin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be with her and listen. Give her your company. Ask her if there is anything you can do for her to make her feel better. Give it a try and good luck. God bless.
2006-07-24 13:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by Art The Wise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By holding her when she cries, by listening if she wants to talk about it.
2006-07-24 13:53:05 · answer #8 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋