ok i broke up with my wife 6mth ago, we were together 8 years have 1 daughter and 2 stepchildren whom i class as my own. we been through all the stages and now she just wants to be friends and stay single for a while which i understand. i have been feeling great the past mth or so and we been getting along really well the past week, we even have been out twice but i understand that it is just as friends. anyways i have great access to my children, new job moving into my own place next week basically everything to live for, been training buying new clothes, i still miss her as a partner and truly do still love her, but i have got it into my head that i cant have her. everything was going cool then this morning i woke up and bang i felt really empty, lost and now just feel like crying, but i dont know why nothing has changed i felt great just yesterday.
any answers? have i fell in love with her again and now i am going through it all over again? i dont get it.
2006-07-24 06:39:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Poor you.
It sounds as though you have had so many other things to do that you probably haven't given yourself time to mourn the loss of your marriage.
It's gonna take a long time to feel in any way ''over it'' and you shouldn't put any time limit on that process.
Cry when you need to,bend friends ears as and when you need to and try not to overload the children with your sadness.
I know it's a cliche but just take each day as it comes.
2006-07-24 06:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all have or will go through exactly what you are feeling. Only you can answer that question.
I know for a fact it is hard to get over someone. Sometimes at night or whenever you just want to forget all the terrible things they did and just run back to them. Then when you get there you will feel like you did when you broke up. So you have to figure out if anything really has changed. Or if you both needed some time away and are ready to get back together. Or if what you are feeling is maybe like a withdrawal from your partner and that in itself is empty feelings. Or maybe you are just feeling sad for the fact that a chapter of your life is through. All I know is I am going through what you are and it sucks.
Good luck, search your feelings and find out if what you are feeling is empty or real. Only you know the answer.
2006-07-24 13:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most likely because you have spent time with her you have fallen in love with the same woman you already have once before but that is to be expected because once you love someone you never really stop. They always have a place in your heart and no matter what you do they will always be there. My advice is to start going out with friends other then her socially. Meet some new woman even if you dont want to date them it will make you feel a litle better to see that there are other women out there that can make you feel just as happy. Just remember what it is you want and that you and your ex have already been through alot so dont make it worse by telling her you think your in love with her again.
2006-07-24 13:48:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who was it that decided to seperate! You or your wife?
If it was your wife this is maybe why you still love her and you are finding it difficult to adjust to single life!
If you decided what was your reason for doing so? Did you make a hasty decision?
When you split up from someone you have loved it can be a while before you start to miss the things you often done together! It is like grieving for a loved one and can take a long time to heal!
Jamesey
2006-07-24 13:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by Jamesey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is that this will happen and is almost expected to happen if you didnt feel any remorse for losing your wife as a partner i would be slightly worried. But give it some time things like this take time and as sh**ty as it is the only thing to do is wait it out...but some things to help alleviate the pain get out run exercise do something that you thoroughly enjoy and love to do...
2006-07-24 14:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont go out with her ,just see the kids, im sure things are better for her shes got her cake and eating it too ,this is a heartbreaking situation,for all specially the kids focus on them take them for days out or weekends . Your side of the story is never usually told as we only hear about the women left alone with the kids ,but good dads are soooo important. i hope things work out id be happy to send emails back and forth if you just want someone to talk with .good luck
2006-07-24 13:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by Treat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I put my question up about an hour ago about my husband smoking for 3 years. God i wish he felt like you did. I think my reason for wanting to leave him is just so he will want me like he used to when we met. He used to be romantical with me, now he's not. I just want that new love feeling again, like you have. Maybe you just need to win her back. Be the man you were when you met her. Sweep her off her feel all over again. All a woman wants is to feel wanted by her man.
2006-07-24 14:47:22 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've been making a lot of lifestyle changes lately. It may be that you're just now realizing the situation as a whole. Some things just don't 'sink in' right away.
2006-07-24 13:46:27 · answer #8 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You woke up with nobody next to you and perhaps it triggered a lonely feeling. You'll be fine, just carry on doing what you're doing, you're on the right track. Wish you all the best.
2006-07-24 14:20:05 · answer #9 · answered by ribena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you realized that she will not always be there for you. Sometimes the things you want the most you can not have. If it was meant to be it will come back.
Sometimes all the things in the world amount to nothing when you have them all to yourself.
2006-07-24 13:46:13 · answer #10 · answered by lookingforanswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋