What were the pros and cons of your experience?
2006-07-24 06:35:44 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Pros is was fun and i couldnt keep my man off me for weeks afteward
Con i cant the picture of him with her out of my head. I dont think i could do it again.
If you dont have a really strong relationship this could cause it to end.
2006-07-24 06:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not yet, working on it. Had plenty before I got married though, and talked to plenty of other people about it, and here is what I know.
First of all, make it clear ahead of time who is doing what, who the focus is. Most of the time with guys they make the mistake of focusing on the new girl. Makes the gf or wife jealous. Bad idea.
Second of all, Don't have a threesome with someone you plan on hanging out with again. Sets up a love triangle which is the pure t devil to deal with. Never ends well, or at least, rarely ends well.
Third and finally. Don't do it unless you and your spouse have a solid firm foundation of a relationship. It can be a lot of fun and an incredible experience. Follow the above rules and you should be okay.
2006-07-24 13:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by cloaked30m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pros are it is a new experience and if you both agree on it then it can be a lot of fun.
The cons are as follows: It is cheating, It can cause alot of guilt, It can damage your marriage, it can cause your spouse to want to keep on doing it with or without you.
Don't do it cause it just isn't worth the risks to your relationship.
2006-07-24 13:43:33 · answer #3 · answered by miss_nikki214 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pros: an enjoyable sexual experience
Cons: possible jealousy from one or both married persons
possible STD exposure from outside person
possibility of outside female becoming pregnant by married man
possibility that the "playmate" becomes attached to one of the married persons
possibility that one of the married persons becomes attached to the playmate
It can be kewl to think about, but a lot of folks have no idea how they will handle it emotionally until they've done it...and if they don't handle it well, it's too late...the deed is done...
Think carefully about it...it can be fun, but there are plenty of potential issues...
2006-07-24 13:42:26 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are a couple answering this. I brought another girl home. She was a friend of mine who is Bi. I did it to treat me husband. We were disappointed. I had sex with her just to turn my husband on, I am just not into women, I think it showed because he did not enjoy it. He said I looked more like I was at the dentist then having a good time. He had sex with her but said she was not as good as me, we have learned each others bodies over 7 years and know what works.
As payback he says he will bring another man into the situation, I hope it goes better
2006-07-24 13:53:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The woman I was having an affair with for over a year, "persuaded" me to make it a threesome with her husband. It was not what I expected because I wound up catering to BOTH their sexual needs. I guess you can say she made a bi-sexual lover out of me. If you want to knew the details, let me know.
2006-07-24 14:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never been married,But my ex we been 2 gether for 8 years and he wanted 2 try it.At first I didnt know cause i never experience sex with females.Them it never came 2 past.And when I got pregnant with his daughter,he seemed 2 continue out those desires. And once u become family oriented the feelings of his having 3 somes and orgies with anybody carried out.Just the thought descust me 2 know he was desiring another really crushed me and so I regreted ever making him feel its okay 2 have me invlved in 3 somes with the man I loved.
Once u do that He will always remember and desire it.They dont forget that like women do. they desire it over and over till who knows
2006-07-24 13:45:52 · answer #7 · answered by VooDooQueenWitch Docter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt even think about having one.What if he leaves you for the one that you had the threesome with?Then what?Marriage is between one man and one woman.Not two man and one woman or two women and one man.Think before you do this.What will happen in the long run..Good Luck and God Bless
2006-07-24 13:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by ~Devilz~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't but i don't see the harm in trying it sounds like fun but make sure everyone is comfortable with the situation
2006-07-24 13:38:34 · answer #9 · answered by stef x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it with my first wife and her friend, It was her idea and a birthday present. It was fun and we did it a few more time with the same woman..
2006-07-24 13:38:42 · answer #10 · answered by daveinsurprise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋