Will Another Threeway Ruin Our Marriage?

Question

We are happy together in marriage, as a Christmas present I brought home a another girl. We actually did not like it. There was not jealousy, it was not as much fun as we thought.
As joke I said next time we have a man; to my surprise he said OK. I am excited by the idea but also worried it might damage our relationship.
We write this question as a couple, we both use the same name so we will both hear the answer.

Update Already (he works fast) My husband has already found the guy for this, wont tell me who or when.

The groundrules are simple they are going to do what they can to make sure I have a good time. No sex between the 2 of them but they are not going to worry about bumping into each though. I have no rules I guess

Excited but still a bit worried.

Answer 1

The only concern that you might have with bringing another man into the bedroom would be that ever looming "big green monster," otherwise known as jealousy. However, it seems that you two have had a previous encounter with the threesome factor and handled it well. It's interesting to hear that you didn't find it as pleasurable as you had originally assumed it would be.

My best advice is to find someone that is willing to participate in this threesome and see how you both feel. If the first encounter didn't damage your relationship, I don't see how this one could. The only things to keep in mind is that this is for bedroom play only. Too many times have I seen threesomes end in a mess because one partner goes and creates an emotional tie with the other. It seems to me that the two of you really work together as a team, so I'm less worried about this "threesome danger zone."

The other concern I would bring up is please be sure that before you all hop into bed with each other you all have your "puppy papers." Get tested for HIV and other STDs and be sure that all three of you are free and clear. Use protection and practice smart and safe sex techniques, and you'll all have a worry-free encounter. It seems like a lot to go through just to get your rocks off, but trust me, the peace of mind is worth it. Find someone to fill this desire void, and go for it. If it doesn't fulfill you, well, it seems that you two are creative enough to keep it hot and spicy in the bedroom. Bravo for being a married couple that is willing to experiment and try new things to keep it fresh and new.

My prediction for you two is that you'll have a long and happy relationship as long as everyone keeps their head. Happy hunting you two!

Answer 2

If having the extra girl didn't really cause any problems, I don't see that another guy would, either. Do you ever have any problems with jealousy? Having another guy in the mix will be a totally different ballgame than having another girl. The two of you might enjoy it more this way. I would definitely set some ground rules beforehand if you think it might cause problems. Just think about the problems it could cause, and then make rules to avoid the potential problems. You also have to think about what will happen afterwards if you DO like it. WIll it be something you will continue doing, or is it going to be just a one time thing (just to say you did).

Answer 3

Hah so your gonna be spoiled and supply the little one up (certainly she's going to develop up in an orphange, on the other hand your so shallow it maybe higher there) simply so you and your hubby can return to the sector of fairytales. Go get a few support you made her TOGETHER so check out deliberating a time table who must do what. You dont need to be completely happy one bit should you cant paintings this out what makes you believe you have got the accountability of doing some thing in combination! The first 7 years are the well ones, your handiest at five. I swear should you supply her up you can reside your existence in remorse. Its unhappy you dont undersatnd this but. Hope for the first-rate however dont do it.

Answer 4

You both are the only people who can really decide if it is something that will damage the relationship. For me personally, I would not even contemplate that idea because it does not interest me or my husband in the least. To each their own, I suppose. If you didn't have fun the first time, it is unlikely it will be any better the second time around...but whatever you may decide...good luck

Answer 5

I don't see what it will hurt especially if your husband is being truthful. My husband and I fantasize and talk about a threesome but neither one of us has actually initiated it. But I applaud you both for at least trying. To bad it was not to your taste. But keep working on it and just remember that you both love each other and this other person is just a toy that you will only call on if you both agree and are in the mood to bring it out and play.

Answer 6

Don't do it. What makes you think that this time there won't be jealousy. I don't want to see my husband fooling around with anyone else, even another man (eww gross). I don't think it's worth it. Try buying sex toys, body gels, and anything else that might get you excited. Maybe go have sex in strange places, do anything else but let another person into your sacred bedroom (love-life). If you're actually happy, you shouldn't need a three-way.

Answer 7

What was the issue the first time.I love my first one.You have to be open first and talk two each other tell what you want expect and are willing to do.Send me a note If you want to talk more

Answer 8

He needs to run the threeway you need to be focused on getting all the attention later younfinish up

Answer 9

Honestly, you both should be sure of your feelings towards one another, if you're sure that you won't end up liking him more than your partner then go ahead but if not then don't take any chances! Best of Luck! ~V.J.~

Answer 10

You guys are wierd. Cluck Cluck, but then again I'm just a chicken who lays eggs!!!!!!!! The tall chicken bandit strikes again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Here's some eggs for you! 000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000