I'm with this guy and he asked me to marry him but i don't know if I'm ready so i need some help!!!
2006-07-24 06:28:53 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first try to spend time with him as much as possible, see whether he is ready to spend time with you as and when you ask him to, check if he gives due importance to yu over certain other personal matters of his.Asking questions in an unoffensive way can help you to gain better insight about him. Basically you have to test that is sex the only thing which he looks at in you or does he respect you and care about you as a person as well. If the answers are yes, he should be a good partner.Also see whether he fulfills his commitments, keeps promises. Just giving you a gift once in a week and making you happy is not enough, it is also important that he listens to you from his heart, cares about what you really want and keeps his commitments.
2006-07-24 06:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by CRAZYFAN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll know.
If you say you don't know if you're ready. Ask yourself this question, do I want to spend the rest of my life WITHOUT this man.
Now here's the other hand... how long have you been with this guy? How old are you both? When I ask this I'm not saying that younger adults can't handle it, It's just that from personal experience, it's better to wait and take it slow. How has your relationship been? Are you even in love with the guy?
Someone once said (I don't remember who), "Don't marry someone you can live with, marry the one you can't live without".
2006-07-24 13:37:32 · answer #2 · answered by 81 Honda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? How much money do you make? (not a superficial question, but you will have to live) Are you compatible sexually? Do you live on your own? What are your goals for the future and can they be accomplished while married? Have you ever considered marrying him before? Has he ever shown you reasons he can't be trusted? Do you share the same goals in regards to family, career, etc? Do you love him?
Sit down and think about these questions...LONG AND SERIOUSLY...Marriage is not an institution to be taken lightly. If you don't know...then you don't know...don't feel any pressure because it your decision and it will effect the REST OF YOUR LIFE!!!!
2006-07-24 13:37:16 · answer #3 · answered by jillymack06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are. If you are under 20, you probably aren't ready because you haven't experienced enough of life to make a good choice yet. But if you are over 20, you should ask yourself if this is the man who would be a terrific father to your kids, be your partner in making important decisions in life, support you when you're down, share the joys in your life and be a good lover and friend forever.
2006-07-24 13:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, youre the one who knowes that. You gotta make sure that you really love him. If you don't then dont marry him. You gotta be honest with the guy. Men, thtas a tuff qestion... If you feel good with him, if you dont fight much, if you share things... if youre living together, you see if you like living with him and see if you imagine yourself that way for a long time. If you dont, and speacially if you're having second thoughts, you should tell him that you're not sure, and first you should go live together, and then you could see if you two stand each other so many hours together. I know it's a dificult dicision, but you gotta make it by yourself, in yahoo, ppl can only trying to help you how to make it. Think very well, its a very important decision. anyway, good luck, know it didnt help much, but like i sayd, its a tuff one...
2006-07-24 13:39:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not think your are ready, then it is obvious that you are not. Have you discussed it with your family. Have you made arrangements as to where you will live. Can you afford a wedding - a hundred and one other questions come to mind but the final one is - are you ready or not for one of the most important steps in your life - probably the most important.....
2006-07-24 13:33:13 · answer #6 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me sweetie you will know, it like a slap in the eye you will know... if you are not sure about this one perhaps he is not the right one now or he has not passed the threshole yet when he does again you will know. I am not saying for you to give up anything to find this out just follow your heart it will never lead you astray. GOOD LUCK
2006-07-24 13:35:49 · answer #7 · answered by winkicu1108 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you care about him but you need some time to think about marriage. Let him know that you arent turning him down, but you just want some more time to make sure your mature enough for marriage. That way you can still date him so you can make sure and you dont have to make him feel bad. Then if you do decide that he's the one let him know, and hopefully you'll get another proposal.
2006-07-24 13:32:55 · answer #8 · answered by Crystal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am like really young to be answering this lol
He is the right one if you feel like you could spend FOREVER with him and never get tired of talking to him or living with him. Make sure you are old enough to get married though! you should make sure your life is planned out before you add someone new
2006-07-24 13:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by Allyoops 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're having doubts, i'd say he's not the one.
In my opinion when a guy asks me to marry him, i'd want to be able to say yes right then and there without having any doubts whatsoever that this is the guy I want to be with.
2006-07-24 13:32:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋