get together again but for now he wants to alone . also when i told him about being prenent he told me to gat a abortion , i told my mom and she siad its my dection , to have a baby or to wbe with him and wait until he calls me ....
2006-07-24 06:28:36 · 15 answers · asked by elizabeth s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
if i get a abortion will he still come back to me
2006-07-24 06:54:41 · update #1
IFrom the way you write you seem to be young.t's is your decision what to to , your boyfriend probably wants you to get an abortion so he doesn't have to pay for another kid. Easy way out for him, tell him to keep his pants on if he doesn't want anymore babies. Now you can make a list about pros and cons about having a baby. Than you can decide what you want to do. Even if you don't want to keep it maybe you can give it up for adoption , cause there are a lot of people who can't have kids and want some. Also this way your baby could have a chance at life. if you decide to keep it you can still get child support from your boyfriend even when he doesn't want anything to do with the baby and I bet you have family that will help you. Yes beeing a single parent his hard but it will also give you some rewards. You know this was a test of your relationship and from the way I see it your boyfriend failed big time. When I first met my husband I jokingly said I am pregnant the first thing he said was your parents won't be happy. Not get an abortion or it's not mine what he will probably say later if you keep it. Don't wait around for him to decide you make the decision it's your body and you are going to carry it for 9 month not him. Now good luck with your decision making.
2006-07-24 06:44:38 · answer #1 · answered by Share Bear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I would not have it sounds like he doesn't want the child and problay wouldn't pay child support (maybe if he works) but even if he did he has to other kids you might get like 20-40 dollars a week if that so the burden is going to be on you think about this seriously before you decide cause once you have a child everything changes but I can tell you from both sides it's not any easy decision just follow you heart and gut instincts. Abortion is not for everyone but I am can't glady say it was the right decision for me at the time. And as far getting father to pay child support I can understand that two I have one child now who's father paid perfect for two years and the two weeks ago moved to texas and left me hurting financially since he quit paying.
2006-07-24 06:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw that ****** if he doesnt want you with your child then you really dont want him. If you choose to abort you will regret it for the rest of your life. Just think really hard what is more important
: a man that doesnt love you enough to have a family with you or going ahead and aborting your unborn child that is probably the best thing that would ever happen to you. I am not suggesting you raise the child on your own but you can do it if that bastard wont help you women do it everyday and if you have support from your family then you will do just fine. I wish you the best!
2006-07-24 07:00:16 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy2Be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids deserve two parents who want and love them. If both you and your boyfriend can't provide that, then think twice before birthing a kid into an already bad situation.
Plus if he won't be there, can you really afford it alone? Or will you hop on welfare and force us taxpapers to pay for your child while the state chases your baby's daddy for his money too?
Remember, your decision will drastically effect not only your life, but his, his other 2 children and your childs too for many years.
2006-07-24 06:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by xoxo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice? Have the kid and if you don't feel you can raise it alone then put him/her up for adoption (it's best for the kid). If you feel you can raise it on your own then have it and keep it. Also dump the guy cuz obviously he wants to take no responsibility for any of his actions and is far too immature to be anyone's parent let alone a good boyfriend. He's gotta grow up more before he'll ever be anyones permanent match for life and be a good father. He can't be all that great if he wants his own child dead.
2006-07-24 07:47:31 · answer #5 · answered by Lissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what is your question? Should you leave him alone? Should you get an abortion? Honestly, its your decision to get an abortion or not, not one of us can tell you what to do on that. Should you leave him alone, yes, the guy doesn't want to take responsibility of his actions. So get a grip, get a lawyer, and get a good support system, your gonna need all three!
2006-07-24 06:38:02 · answer #6 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget that guy and don't abort!!! If in the end you don't want the hild then give "it" up for adouption. That guy is a reall piece of work! He already has two kids!! is he taking care of them? If not then you know he will not take care of yours. He is a loser and doesn't deserve to be with you. You don't need him in you life, if he does call you tell him to get at you when he grows up!
2006-07-24 06:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by tweedy778 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u do what makes ypu comfortable. if you feel that you cant handle a baby right now and you want to wait then have an abortion. if you dont want to have an abortion and just live life as it comes do that. dont do what people say and what they want you to do, do what you think is best for you and YOUR baby. nobody elses baby YOUr baby.
Good Luck
2006-07-24 06:37:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not abort that baby that is a living child inside your body, your child and killing it is not going to change things.
2006-07-24 08:31:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my aunt told no matter what the "daddy" does like he is a good father or not the mother is the done that is fully responsible and the father can always walk away you make your decision based on what you want and what you can handle dont worry about him or what he thinks the choice is always yours good luck
2006-07-24 06:39:39 · answer #10 · answered by glenda d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋