I want to be open but this makes me feel very insecure. I know many girls say they don't mind as long as their partner is faithful, but how common is this feeling?
2006-07-24 06:25:50 · 36 answers · asked by hcn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I really don't like it, actually. I think it bothers alot of women, but they all pretend it doesn't so they look "cool". I have no problem being honest with my husband and telling him I don't want that crap in my house. I have nice hooters. . .why does he need them?
2006-07-24 06:27:32 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Pants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live together than I think you have more of a right to say I don't want this in my house. There is nothing wrong with making a stand, you never know Playboy now then your dealing with crzy porno's all over the house. But if you have seprate addresses then you can be uncomfortable but I doubt he will cancel the subscription you know. So that what I think it depends on, tell him really why it makes you uncomfortable and hopefully he will listen.
2006-07-24 06:37:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you would feel like he is not into YOU that much since he is buying something to excite him, but the reality is that maybe all he really wants is a change in rutine..You are together for 3 years now, and even though he may love you and be happy sexually with you, men ussually like other types of stimulation..visual etc.
You may know that masturbation is healthy even when you are sexually active with your partner, cause sometimes out of stress you may want to have pleasure without the responsability of satisfying your partner as well, so in this case he may have wanted to subscribe to playboy for any of these reasons...
I know it may make you feel unattractive compared to those bunny girls, but it doesnt mean he doesnt love you or that he wants to cheat...
My reccomendation? let it be,try to change your sexual routine,be more sexually spontaneous and creative,and every once in a while read the hot steamy stories the playboy magazine offers....it will make you hot and give you ideas..trust me you will feel more aroused and will enjopy it..secretly jajajaaja
2006-07-24 06:37:55 · answer #3 · answered by mswildsexycool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very common for you to feel insecure about it, however, when he gets it, look through it too, point things out to him in it, you think is cool or rediculas, maybe you can enjoy it together it may make the bedroom a bit more fun too (He will be shocked your interested in the magazine too). Also, you may want to buy a subscription of Play girl ;O) Then see how he feels...
2006-07-24 06:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by nknicolek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live together, tell him you don't want them at all. If he lives elsewhere, tell him that you never want to see one lying around his place. I don't like them either. I don't know why guys don't understand this. My husband got a subscription to Maxim and that bothered me until I started reading the articles and stuff and actually found it to be entertaining and funny but I don't know if I would feel that way about Playboy. Good luck!
2006-07-24 06:30:19 · answer #5 · answered by Precious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest playboy is the least sexual of the dirty mags and he may be subscribing for the articles and because other friends of his are getting it. I would talk to him if it bothers you, and if it does he should get rid of the subscription to make you happy, but honestly I don't think its that big of a deal. Heck read it and see for yourself what its all about at least once. Good Luck
2006-07-24 06:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by Robert m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be glad, hcn, that he has a healthy interest in sex. But I would take it a step further than expecting him to remain faithful. If his interest in and attention for you diminishes in any way, then he must end the subscription. What he can learn from Playboy can enhance your relationship, but it can also diminish it if he gives more attention to the air blown page-babes than he should.
So tell him that the subscription is okay, but also let him know that you expect him to learn from what he reads and you expect wonderful, delicious results.
2006-07-24 06:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by Flame 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really is something the two of you could learn to enjoy together. My husband loves the fact that he and I can look at those types of mag. or videos together...and (i know this is kind of a cliche, but)...they really do have great articles. They are geared more towards guys, but girls can really get some great info from these mags. If PB is a little too much for you, you could try something like Maxim...not quite as "graphic"
2006-07-24 06:31:22 · answer #8 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that there is a right feeling or a wrong feeling. I personally wouldn't be ok with it, but like you said, a lot of other women are. Talk to him about it and be honest with your feelings. You may find that it opens up new areas that you and he are both interested in. If, after talking to him, you are still uncomfortable and he doesn't care about that, then that's a major red flag about your relationship.
2006-07-24 06:30:31 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE PROUD. He is living the American Dream. Your hope is that he builds up all that energy looking at Playboy and then takes it out on you.
Your feeling is both common and normal; your question is both healthy and intelligent. You can't help how you feel, yet your question shows you can cope.
Good Luck.
2006-07-26 10:04:39 · answer #10 · answered by rightonrighton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK ladies, the fact of life is that your bf is not going to stop looking at other women until he is 6 feet under. This is not a personal insult directed at you nor should it be viewed as a threat. It is just in our nature. Be secure in the fact that he is with *you* and be thankful that you will ultimately get the benefits of any unrequited excitement he gains while "window shopping".
2006-07-24 06:32:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋