will it hurt if i have sex when your 13 and what is it and why?

Question

i dont know if im ready or not but i want the guys to like me at school so i flirt and all that but i think i am ready for sex but i am too young and all the guys are all gay about it but why does it hurt for the first time and will i be bleeding ? i need to know this

Answer 1

First of all you are just a kid...you do not need to be having sex.

Do you know what can happen if you have sex before you are an adult? You can either get pregnant or get some kind of disease something you do not want.

What you need to do is keep your head in those school books and leave them boys alone.

I am sure your parents would not want to know that their 13 year old daughter is on the net asking a bunch of strangers on how to have sex and such.

I am a parent and I for one do not support kids having sex whatsoever because sex is for grown folks and last I checked 13, is not grown.

Answer 2

Please don't have sex yet. You are so young. And you would be having sex because you want the guys to like you, not because you and the guy are in love. Sex is supposed to be for the confines of a loving, long term relationship; ideally marriage. You will regret it later on if you have sex for that reason. Plus you could end up pregnant at 13; that would not be good at all. Not to mention you could get a nasty STD from it too.

Please don't have sex just becuase you want guys to like you. Guys that would like you for that reason don't really like you for you; they are just taking advantage of you for a romp in your pants (sorry, had to say it). They will get what they want and then leave you If they can't respect your body and your wishes then they aren't worth being around.

But why sex hurts so bad for the first time is because your hymen is breaking. It is a natural thing that happens to everyone. There will probably have some bleeding for a short time but nothing to worry about. And it also hurts because you are not used to it yet.

Answer 3

Seriously...13? You will regret it for a long time, and the guys won't like you, they will laugh and say that you're easy and they'll only be talking to you to try and get some once they know you put out. Think of it this way~ are you ready for a baby? Are you ready for an STD that may be with you for the rest of your life? Are you ready to be an adult? NO! Be grateful that you are still young, enjoy it! Have sleepovers with your GIRL friends, ride your bike, PLAY, go to the movies, go to the mall, giggle at silly things...you can have sex for the rest of your life, but your childhood goes jsut as quickly as it comes. cherish it. The boys don't know what they're talking about either, they see things on TV, girls dressed trashy and think that you should all act that way- well, you shouldn't. No matter what they say, boys respect girls who say NO- I'm not talking about when you're older and in a loving relationship, etc...but casual hook-ups are not respected and not when you are only 13! Respect yourself, and your body. And, yes, it DOES hurt the first time and even the first few times....it'll be worth when you are truly in love and in a committed, long, relationship. Please trust me (even though you don't know me-LOL!) Take care.

Answer 4

You should wait because many that didn't paid a "high" price. I would say to talk to your parents but I don't know your case. So, I'll do my best. It hurts and you bleed because that is part of the physical process of this action. As the vagina expands, over time, it hurts less. And usually, you bleed only the first time. As for the guys to like you. You should gain there respect by respecting yourself. Don't give in with sex because guys will disrespect you for that. I don't want to make you feel discomfort but you should (at you age) dream about guys. You can touch yourself and think about them. It is OK for adults to do it and it is OK for the young to. When you get older you will feel when it is the right time.

Answer 5

If you want to have sex just so the guys at school will like you, then you are clearly not ready for sex at all. Stick with being a flirt (don't lead them on much or pretend you want to have sex, that could lead to other problems like rape).

I would suggest you first try self experimentation (safe method) before you move onto sex with a partner (non safe method: pregnancy, hiv, aids, stds, etc).

Don't do something just because everyone else wants you to do it. Look deep within yourself, consult a trusted friend, family member, teacher, priest, or even counselor and consider the risks. Most of them will say to wait until you are older and trust me, it's well worth the wait!

Answer 6

Yeah it's gonna hurt because your not open down there. But it will hurt. Some people bleed and some people don't bleed it depends. And plus plz don't do it that's where I messed up at when I was 14 i know after you do it that 1st time you'll start enjoying it. But your body isn't mature enough to have sex yet nobody's is until they are grown or I'll say about 16. But don't do it it could ruin you I'm telling you.

Answer 7

Dont rush it. U dont want that type of attention. But its a 90% chance that it will hurt your first time. Im 16 and I lost my virginity when I was 14( that was a mistake) My 1st time didnt hurt but my 2nd time did and it was the same person. U wont bleed a lot people make it seem like its a lot but it really isnt. Watch the lyfe video, its called S.E.X. if u dont watch it at least listen to it. * Good Luck*

Answer 8

Yes it totally hurts like beejesus the first time you have sex and yes you will bleed! Do u know WHAT? Iam like soooo totally proud of the guys u are talking about! They back off because of your age! Thats really a mature and amazing thing for a teenage boy to do! THEY R AWESOME! Sweetheart- you will know when the time is right! Its always better and less painful if u are with someone who loves u and someone u love! Someone who will take the time to make you feel loved and special! You will have not a single doubt in your mind when the time is right! Please wait for love though!

Answer 9

hon
you dont need sex to get a guy to like you
he'll want you more
im 13 to kay?
dont have sex till your married
saves alot of drama like whoaaaa

<3

Answer 10

dont do it!!!

im 14 .. and i have a few friends that have had sex at 12 & 13 years old!! its crazy .. and i think its horrible!! it makes me worrry about them alot because of the way they are .. but dont do it !! trust me .. it wont be worth it!!