any good advice for teen fathers?

Question

my little brother is only 16 and his girlfriend is 5 months pregnant. he needs some good advice.

thanks so eveyone who answered this question. my brother really appreciated it. him and his gf are keeping the baby- its a boy by the way and they plan to stay together. my husband has been talking to him since we're expecting our first too!

Answer 1

Don't be a teen father... that is my advice... but it sounds like this advice is a little late... but he should stay with her and help her with the whole thing...

Answer 2

I have a 15 year old son and I know if he had fathered a child I would want to be a huge part of that babies life as well as him! First he definetely needs to finish school! He needs to totally get his education! So that later he can provide for his family and kids! If he can find a part time job- a full time job in the summer- always pay support to the mother. I say make it in money orders so that she xcannot say you never gave any money! Take thingds one day at a time. Be there when his child is born! Thats an amazing experience he truly does not want to miss. Ask the mother if she would like to take Lamaz classes with him to get ready for natural child birth that way he is trained on the breathing techniques and can help make labor easier for her. Start putting things back NOW before the baby is born. NO MORE VIDEO GAMES for awhile Im afraid! Start buying like Newborn diapers- and a few newborn outfits- little things u know the baby will need! Does your mother know about this? If NOT she totally needs to know! I know I would totally want to KNOW! God Id pay the child support myself! BUT most important- BE THERE for the child once he is born! ALWAYs be there for the baby! Good luck

Answer 3

He needs to keep it in the holster first (that advice is to late), but more importantly he will be a father and needs to be the best he can be for his child. That means the partying is over and it is time to be a man.

That means continue your education (to get a better job later in life), get a job to help support the child now and stay in contact. This child will think the world of you as long as you are there and love him with all your heart. Your brother will also need to get along with the mother and her family and be respectful - always.

By all means he needs to practice safe sex and use birth control. By having a child at 16 you have given a man's task to a boy and he really needs to be tough and disciplined to make it. This is where family comes in to help support this task.

Good luck.

Answer 4

The baby did not ask to be born. Whatever happens between he and the mother, he needs to remember that he is a father forever. Girlfriends, parties, jobs, and other life events now come second to the life he created. If they are going to keep the baby he needs to remember, he and the mother may not be together forever but he and the baby will be. He needs to love and protect what he created and things will work out.

It may be hard but life has a funny way of working out.

Answer 5

Be there. That's the best thing you can do. Don't just pay for diapers - which you need to do - but change them when you're around.

He needs to have a DNA test done in the hospital. He needs to do this not to cast aspersions on the mother, but to be able to prove the baby is unarguably, legally his progeny in order to get some kind of custody or visitation agreement hammered out. Even if they plan to marry, he needs to do this so they don't have to go through an adoption process with the child.

Answer 6

get a court ordered paternity test. then, get your visitation and child support agreement. If they are going to stay together they should probably live in one family's home, unless there is alot of anger from the grandparents. They should go to parenting classes as well, these are usually available thru the county or the hospital. And they will need all the family support they can get. And get some sex ed and birthcontrol so it dosen't happen again!

Answer 7

Well, it is time to grow up. He does not get to be a boy anymore, the grown-up world is very much in front of him....

he needs to be there, be responsible, fight for his child, see his child (even if it is over between him and the mother), you can never spend too much time with the kid, get down on the floor and play - even if it means playing with dolls. bond with the child.

But more than anything, be consistent in your rules and regulations. What is a rule one day must also be a rule the next... Bedtime is bedtime....

BTW, it is ok to be a little scared. I became a mother at 15 so I know.....

Answer 8

The only advice i can give you is to get a job since you are 16 because you want to be able to buy your child whatever he/she needs. Then always be there for your baby-momma because when having a baby a girl needs a partner to count on, and I promise when your child is born it will bring tears to your eyes to see such a thing.

Answer 9

I would see if the local hospital offers a parenting class and enroll them both mom and dad Get them a cpr class anything to help with the upcoming responsibility for them to undertake. How about birthing classes. Anything to prepare them because i would bet they have no idea what they are facing....Tell him to be strong for her and the baby. It;s time to be a man take responsibility and do what youcan to be the best father you can be. because that baby is dependent upon you and your decisions..and answer ANY questions he may have offer your own experience..

Answer 10

tell him to be there for his girlfriend and child. and to get a job and support them but not drop out of school.

education is important... so an afterschool job would be ideal for his situation. its true he wont get to spend as much free time with his gf or the baby at times but the money he will be making will be a big help.