After 5 years of relationship, i found out that my guy has been cheating, he says he's sorry and wouldn't do that again. can he really love me and do that to me?do you think i can trust him again?I don't know the twisted definition we've all got of love these days, but love doesn't attract cheating. Thanks for your honest opinions.
2006-07-24 06:04:48 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Put it this way: what if you cheated on him and told him you were sorry? would he forgive and forget? if so forgive him, if not just dump him.
2006-07-24 06:10:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't water down cheating and call it playing, but I'm a cheater. I can honestly say that I love my boyfriend although I have cheated. But I ulitimately am more concerned with my gratification from cheating than I am concerned about hurting him. I KNOW he loves me with all his heart and guess what? He cheated on me one time. But the difference is that I really honestly believe he would never do it again. But he has shown me that he is totally dedicated to us/me. I know that something is really wrong with me emotionally because I don't cheat because I get my rocks off, actually I don't think I've ever cheated and even had an orgasm. What I need is counseling to figure out why I'm doing it. So although I'm a spineless cheater, I do really love him but the only love a sick person can give is sick love. Maybe you need to figure out why you keeping taking him back. Both of you need to work out some issues. If he wants to change maybe he can but you will continue to be hurt along the way until he FINALLY does change, if ever.
2006-07-24 06:18:42 · answer #2 · answered by Try You 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I'm not a player, never was, never will be. But consider this, if he really loves you, why would he cheat on you? He's not satisfied, that's why. He claims he won't do it again but isn't that what they always say? He hurt you, there's not a single excuse in the world that's good enough for that. If you love someone, would you want to hurt them? No matter what, would you throw away all your love just for a bit more satisfaction?
2006-07-24 06:13:39 · answer #3 · answered by bOoGaLoOs!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am right were you are at i was in a relationhsip for almost 5 years and my fiancee cheated on me. I told him i wouldnt ever get back with him. But were back together. I just gave him 3 months worth only phone calls and he had to call me not me calling him. And if he loves you give him an altimatume look its me or nothing else and its working for me. Tell him exactly how you feel and if he really cares and means it you'll know when he sits there and tells you why. But do this face to face not over the phone but let him have time w/o so he knows hes the one losing you.
2006-07-24 07:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by amanda_shay_bauer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've certainly been a player, and although I've been out of the game for about 4 or 5 years, one thing remains the same. Monogamy is highly overrated and communication is highly underrated. You can be happily married and have sex with as many people as you both like, as long as you both communicate and both of your needs are being met.
So you can't really have cheating and respect, unless you both agree to cheat because you both don't want to talk about having sex with other people.
Regular and successful communication is what ultimately makes a marriage work.
2006-07-26 10:00:05 · answer #5 · answered by rightonrighton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys will cheat. Its human nature. We live in a society that does not accept polygamy. There have been lots of cultures that do. But human nature dosen't change.
I know there are lots of men say they dont cheat...so why is there so much divorce.
Expectations are too high.
Off course some one can be off with another and still love you. Going with another isnt the main hurt. It's the deviousness.
Being devious is tormenting. Thats how much he loves you.
So if you really want to get to know this guy then tell him you don't mind if he goes with others. Tell him that you want to go with others. Tell him you want to wife swap. Ask him about threesomes.
He will be over the moon. That is the true nature of the guy. You will get to know who your man is . It may be devious but thats how to find out who he is.
Then it is your decision if you want to stay with him.
2006-07-24 06:33:58 · answer #6 · answered by Visions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/bKEMp
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-29 13:27:04 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when u love someone u dont cheat on them because we dont hurt people that we love
u cheat on ur girl or man when they find out they cry is that what u wanna c in someone that u love they crying and u there knowing u the one who cause the pain then u gonna tell me u love the person.
sometimes people say and they dont know the meaning of love because u protect someone that u love u dont cause them pain.
u the one to make the decision and think about it carefull.
2006-07-28 04:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by joann m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, to be honest. Once he lied in a relationship the element of lying will be there, playing with your mind. If you are strong enough to forgive, good for enough but if you have doubts it will affect the relationship long term, give up now.
2006-07-24 06:09:28 · answer #9 · answered by brogdenuk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea ive been doing it for a while, my girl is who could be my wife the girls i mess with is just sex, And shes out of town so.
i really think a guys dick doesnt have to do with love, when i'm with other women i feel bad but
2006-07-24 06:14:08 · answer #10 · answered by raradaone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex-girlfriend used to tell me something it never made sense until much later, if you love me then you will respect me and have me on your mind. When you are about to do the wrong things and if it's real love you will forget about whatever it is becos if you love me you wont lie to me and tell me. In the end if it's real love it should not hurt. I thought it was love forgives until I told her, love is what it is a Life Of Various Emotions. It all depends on you sweet what you define as love is what it will be to you.
2006-07-24 06:27:53 · answer #11 · answered by JBOY 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋