I told my husband that I was going off of the birth control patch because of all the bad press-he said ok. I told him I also wanted another baby. He said ok. I told him the exact day that I ovulated and warned him a week before hand that I could get pregnant because I ovulate on such and such a date. He said ok and still went ahead and had sex with me. Now I'm pregnant and he says I tricked him. Do you agree with him? I gave him PLENTY of warning just in case he changed his mind about baby # 2. Did I trick him or not?
2006-07-24 05:33:22 · 29 answers · asked by JL's Mom 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Do you think he's just scared about having 2 kids then and that's the only way he can express it? My husband is a wonderful,loving,supportive man and father. He kinda freaked with our first baby too. Is he just spazzing? Should I just let it go?
2006-07-24 05:40:38 · update #1
He has a lot of health problems and worries he won't be around past 30 (he's 25 now). Is that maybe part of it?
2006-07-24 05:42:41 · update #2
I don't think so. My husband might say that jokingly, but he and I went through the same situation recently (right now, 30 weeks along). Really, I held up the condom and said "use it or we're having a baby." Some men just don't listen, I think. Or they think "hey, it's just this one time." But if he had advance warning, it's his own fault if you got preg and he didn't want to have another yet.
I will admit that fear may be playing a large part of it here. IF he really doesn't think he'll live past 30, he should probably try getting some counseling and opinions from the doctors. Get a second opinion if necessary. It might help him quite a bit.
2006-07-24 05:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by criticalcatalyst 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If your honest in what you have said, no you did not trick him, you were pretty straight forward in letting him know what was going on. To me it sounds like he was hoping that you wouldnt get pragnant so had sex with you anyways, and now that you are i think hes scared and doesnt want the resonsibility of baby number 2.
2006-07-24 05:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like they say - youve have been given to confront your fears - so yeah she might desire to and that they might desire to pass by what hes terrified of and it particularly is unquestionably ridiculous tricking somebody in to having a infant. tell her to talk issues by together with her better half and doubtless it's going to make her wait till shes waiting. Why not do a valuable and unfavorable checklist and write down all the advantages and downsides of having a infant and she or he might wait slightly till at last her better half needs it besides. desire this helps
2016-11-02 21:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure that you tricked him so much as maybe lacked making sure he understood what you were telling him. He could have been busy or distracted and doing the "man thing" where you smiles and says "mmm hmm" but isn't actually listening to what you're saying...
All in all it's his responsibility but I can see where he is coming from.
2006-07-24 05:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by jchawk3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you told him all of this, then no you didn't trick him.
Maybe he didn't understand that you can get pregnant by having sex days before you ovulate.
2006-07-24 05:37:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he sounds like he wants a baby too others wise he would say something to you , well other than OK. Good luck With your soon to be baby. He may just be kidding too. Or was not listening.
2006-07-24 05:37:24 · answer #6 · answered by Tara S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No u didn't he could have used something to prevent it too if he didn't want a baby.. but we all know men only half listen anyway.. so i wouldn't worry u told him u wanted another baby so there u have it just be happy and thankful..congrads.... children r a beautiful gift from God.. don't let anything ruin your joy.
2006-07-24 05:48:38 · answer #7 · answered by c_sev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married couples rarely have to play the trick game with each other ----things happen!
Let him know that it is what it is....
that's life! as it were----- nobody playing games or tricking anyone...good luck..
hope you have a wonderful healthy baby....
2006-07-24 05:38:56 · answer #8 · answered by Linnie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you didn't trick him! You told him you were ovulating! Why is he being like that, does he not want a baby?
2006-07-24 05:40:34 · answer #9 · answered by emilbus33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is really the way that it happened then, NO you did not trick him. He is probably just trying to blame you instead of himself, which, if you watch Maury, most men do. I'm sure he will come around. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-07-24 05:38:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋