ok everyone has those times where they are inconciderate. lately my girlfriend has been that way every once in a while she will be but not on purpose and i feel bad and i dont want to talk about it usually because as it might make me feel better it makes her feel worse. she feels likes she hurts me alot when thats not really the case and ive told her. and she can always tell when something upset me because she can pretty much read me like a book. we both love eachother to death but how do we deal with this? this doesnt happen very often but when it does it hurts both of us. what should i tell her?
2006-07-24 05:31:50 · 7 answers · asked by yurbuddy04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You both need to learn how to communicate in a constructive manner that strengthens your relationship instead of destroying it.
When she is rude, you should tell her, but you don't have to be a jerk about it. Explain why it hurts you when she does that.
When you stop talking to her to hurt her feelings, you are being just as wrong and as you can now see, BOTH of you are killing your relationship.
So if you want to stay together, or even learn how to do this better so the next relationship is happier, you will need to both learn to talk and listen.
2006-07-24 05:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just need to step back,you should never give a remark to something when your angry or on the negative about an issue.
Step back give it some thought and give it some time,and once you both have a better frame of mind you can probably talk about it then,and guess what a lot of times the things we fight and argue about,when we take the time to think them out,sometimes you both can get a good laugh at the same thing you were at odds about.
And you know what, isn't your relationship worth taking that extra time to protect it?
You know iron sharpens iron....(smile)
In intense conversations somebody has to know when to back down,just enough to let peace come in!
Both of you stay encouraged.Because you two asked this question let's me know you care a great deal about the success of you relationship.
Best to you (smile)
2006-07-24 13:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by tomio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should tell her to practice...Treat people the way U would want to be treated. If Ur her partner then U should be involved in her eveymove.something as small as ...she's on her way home and will pick up her something to eat before she goes in..should I get him something..would I like it if he came home without anything for me. if she keep practicing then she will have fewer mistakes on being inconsiderate. And when she does this to U, u can say something like this is one of those time baby, U didn't think of me at all when U made this decision. Good Luck!
2006-07-24 12:40:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like something the two of you just need to work on as you go. sure everyone is a little inconsiderate sometimes, it's human nature after all. you sound like you's have a good relationship as it is and respect each other, so if you's just keep it open and don't build up any resentment because of these incidents, you's should be fine. it's just a few creases to iron out.
2006-07-24 12:38:54 · answer #4 · answered by the man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to learn to talk to each other maybe not right when it happens but the next day and let her kow you won't get mad at her for saying how she feels, but if you keep it bottled up eventually it will explode. that's what happened to me and my now ex. i loved him so much but we couldn't communicate and it ended in a screaming match. i do miss him.
2006-07-24 12:44:25 · answer #5 · answered by suzukigirl06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my boyfriend have the same problem...ill do this that bother him, not purposely but it happens, he doesnt like telling me cause it makes me feel bad, but every once inwhile hell tell me something like 'babe i dont know why but lately ive been feeling this way' or 'lately ive been getting this kinda vibe from you, i know you love me and you dont do it on purpose...and so on.' and i dont really get upset when he tells me like this
2006-07-24 12:36:25 · answer #6 · answered by courtney k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love shouldn't hurt.. perhaps you need to decide if it really is worth it.. if your both unhappy than you need to figure out what is going to make you happy..
and perhaps as much as you love each other its just not working out...
maybe your better off being friends.
2006-07-24 12:38:48 · answer #7 · answered by steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋