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I have been waiting for a fed ex packet for 3 days!! I mean it was supposed to arrive 3 days ago, and They never delivered it!!! I was patient, I would call every day, and they said it was on route to my house (never was!) But I totally lost it today, and guess what?? the package was delivered! Just now! Is there a realtion between being a ***** and getting things done, or is patience and lovingkindness a better way of solving problems?
OH, now I can finally get off this stupid site and do something constructive with my days!

2006-07-24 05:23:47 · 12 answers · asked by ingrid 2 in Arts & Humanities Philosophy

12 answers

depends on the situation

2006-07-24 05:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by jerdan95 3 · 0 0

I'm a very laid-back pacifist type and it seems like everywhere I go, people pick up on that. And they take full advantage of it.

Some hired help on company time is standing there gabbing away on a casual personal phone call while I wait and wait. Or I've been standing there waiting patiently for five minutes, and some aggressive type walks in and gets waited on immediately. I'm still standing there for another five minutes, after two other new people get waited on first.

But even I will get fed up and lose patience eventually, and when I do, look out! I will point to the clock and say how long I've been standing here and I will point at those other people who got waited on first. And then I'll say, "What... do I look like the Invisible Man or something? They just walked in and I've been here long enough to establish Squatter's Rights! Where's your &$#& boss?" And when I do something like that, that snobby salesperson or inconsiderate waitress or bartender treats me like royalty whenever I come in again. They remember me.

It's a shame we have to do things like that from time to time, but we have to stick up for ourselves. If we don't, we lose self-respect and become victims. I'm all for politeness... as long as I'm treated equally and with some semblance of respect.

2006-07-24 05:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I find myself losing patience with just about everything these days. Certainly every time I have to call about cable, cell phones or anywhere with automated answering. I'm going to join a consumer action group because our quality of life is deteriorating because of huge companies for whom "customer service" is actually scripted.

Patience is only appropriate relative to the importance of your "package". Try not to get hung up on the little things. They'll give you the ulcer that will kill you.

2006-07-24 05:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by grapeshenry 4 · 0 0

the package was probably delivered because of the nice calls you made the days before... 'the squeaky wheel gets the oil" . Going off on somebody seldom makes them helpful.

2006-07-24 06:36:08 · answer #4 · answered by Jo 2 · 0 0

Though the squeaky wheel gets the grease, more bees are caught with honey and you look like a honey …respectfully mentioned. I would recommend always maintaining self control and don’t become what you don’t like about others. Remain professional and remember it’s seldom a personal matter. Going public (BBB, your state’s attorney general’s office, media, et) with inappropriate business practice does seem to aid in resolution not to mention it warns other consumers of poor business practices.

2006-07-24 05:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by Jon 2 · 0 0

Being mean might just help you only for that moment, but it never really does in the long run. This is because people are going to remember how mean you were to them and they might seek revenge later.
However, if you were firm, yet polite with the other person, they'll take you seriously and want to be at your service everytime.

2006-07-24 05:29:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

female, i comprehend precisely what you recommend! My boyfriend says recommend issues even as he's indignant, no longer on an ordinary foundation however. What i'd recommend, is first, telling him, letting him comprehend that you don't love it. He might want to no longer comprehend, and he might want to imagine it is only humorous. often times human beings only go too some distance. it truly is what i'd tell him, "Honey, we favor to communicate about some thing. it isn't any longer that huge of deal, yet i fairly want you to understand..." and then only tell him this stuff: you don't love it even as he says impolite comments, which incorporates "the different information about your unhappy little existence?" or some thing like that. tell him that your seems are not each and every thing and also you've been dealing with plenty. He must be there to assist you, no longer criticize you. It shouldn't rely what you seem as if. And tell him, "convinced, i'm conscious I honestly have gained weight, yet you aren't from now on doing some thing to assist the challenge." maximum heavily, you want to inform him the way you experience. you want to enable him comprehend that he's hurting you. tell him what it makes you experience like, case in point, "once you tell me i'm fat (or say it however you want), it places me down, and makes me hate myself (or some thing to that result). you're my boyfriend and also you should be helping me. It makes me dissatisfied (keep utilising those feeling words) that you're saying such issues as that when that couldn't help me drop some pounds. i'm attempting. i'm workout consultation, and ingesting more effective (keep in mind that ingesting properly is sturdy, yet you want to eat a lot less besides -- major aspect, separate difficulty however). " Make him comprehend what you experience like. If this persists, this fairly isn't sturdy for you. it truly is a foul challenge that would want to be fixed if he might want to attempt besides as you try. i'm confident there is more effective occurring, yet you should ask him if he's indignant at you, and ask him gently why he has been performing the way he's. it truly is significant. communique is discover out a thanks to pass about each and every thing. (i'm definetely no longer an expert and that i have such numerous issues in our courting -- some a similar as yours, yet i'm learning, only like you and your boyfriend ought to study that communique is the foremost to a useful courting). I keep in mind that you want him, yet there comes a element once you want to ask your self if you're chuffed sufficient to keep putting your self by ability of this.

2016-11-25 21:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Short yes people feel you are hurt that is some people. Long term no this is a price for non-civility your packages will be thrown away. When all rules of soceity are thrown out there are no rules.

2006-07-24 05:26:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

"meaniness" is a subjective term. I prefer the use of "frankness".
It can prove useful in some situations, it's really a matter of the response of the receiver.
Sometimes, if not often I use it!

2006-07-24 05:34:32 · answer #9 · answered by wen02kroy 3 · 0 0

You have to be able to stand up for youself. It's not a matter of being mean or bad, it's matter of doing what you feel is right and if you feel as though you were taken advantage of then it is your right as a human being to stand up for yourself.

2006-07-24 05:28:03 · answer #10 · answered by thedecider20 2 · 0 0

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